The Bitter Pill of Disappointment
Dangers of Disappointment
Disappointment is one of the real bummers in life. People can disappoint, events can disappoint, expectations can let you down, plans can get cancelled and you can even disappoint yourself by failing to achieve what you set out to accomplish. At some point in our lives, it can seem like every thing and every one just ends up being a disappointment. We get all excited about an aspect of our life, only to be let down over and over again. Disappointment makes us what to turn our pouting lips up to the world and say, “I don’t care.”
The danger of letting disappointment get the best of you is that you can lose your excitement for life’s events and people. The hope that something wonderful will happen keeps us going and provides us with expectations of positive outcomes and excitement that all our dreams may come true. Dreams nurture our innermost desires and provide us with a vision of what we want from life. Happy expectations allow us to pursue relationships with others that we hope will be fulfilling and lifelong, allowing us to believe we can build families and deep lasting friendships with those who love us in return.
People who have undergone chronic disappointment can learn to withhold their positive expectations and excitement in order to save themselves from the pain of that disappointing feeling. They may even start to have the expectation that they will be disappointed; creating a cycle of disappointment that reinforces itself.
Don't Let Disappointment Defeat You
The key to combating the bitter pill of disappointment is learning to be happy independent of other people and things. Giving over too much of your happiness and being dependent on others to make you happy is a sure fire recipe for disappointment. Things come up and plans change, people are not perfect and so you can expect that other people will from time to time let you down. Does that mean you cut off ties with others? No. It means you need to learn to be happy as you.
There will be times when you may fail to achieve all you set out to achieve and get disappointed with yourself. Successful people learn from their past mistakes and vow to do better the next time. They don't give up just because they are a little disappointed. They are motivated to try harder and don't let one setback ruin their self-image.
Learning to be happy as yourself and within your own skin is a lifelong process. One of the things that helps me is to find things that I like to do that make me happy. Find things that you like to do that make you happy. Develop these interests and hobbies so that you can have skills and accomplishments that you are proud of and want to continue to improve. Accept disappointment as a fact of life, keep feelings of disappointment in perspective and never let others rain on your parade. The cost of a life with no excitement or hope of positive outcomes is too high to let fear of disappointment get the better of you.