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The Boy Teacher and the Father Student # 52; Fill Me In

Updated on April 5, 2019
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Holding degrees in philosophy and Law. Formal studies or certificates or degrees in business, theology, insurance and security. Ex-preacher.

Just Another Day In Paradise

What is he up to?
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Parents pick up their children from school. They ask what was cool about school today. The answer is “nothing”, the answer is “recess” the answers are generally just lazy talk. My eldest daughter (oh I could go on and on about how great she is) gave me a book entitled “Honest to God”. Basically two shrinks talking back and forth about honesty. Honesty they teach is being blunt and then making sure we engage in “talking it out”. My son is not allowed to say “nothing” when asked about interesting about school. After about 3 years he knows it without me telling him so. Perhaps nothing more important than sharing thoughts. Well, being comfortable in silence together is a very close second. I like to shut up and hold hands.

F: What was up in school today boy?

B: I got another 100 score in reading.

F: Ok. Mom will be so happy. I am kind of giggling to myself. Top scores are so normal they are getting boring.

B: Dad you have to get a life. Top scores are great. You told me that you never got them. But mom always got them

F: Lighten up punk. What score did you get on stuff they have not taught you yet in school?

B: 77

F: Who got higher?

B: No one.

F: I do not care about school grades. I care about learning.

B: That is the same dad. If you learn then you get good grades.

F: Alright we are doing “rapid fire”. Remember do not answer just think.

B: Fine but you have some kind of lesson that is so boring.

F: Do you have a special art class with a special art teacher? Do you study Botany and Biology? Do you have a special music class? Do you have a special Physical education teacher? Do they teach you how to cook or to clean at school? Do they teach you nutrition at school? Shall I keep going?

B: I am not stupid dad. I get it. We just study stuff to do good on test scores. And mom says that is most important. That is why I get good test scores.

F: I suppose that is why you think I am crazy. Do not deny it, I am a dad, I have eyes in the back of my head and I know what you are thinking. Isn’t that funny to say?

B: That is funny but I think you do.

I Hope I Am The Wind And Not The Star

Arts and Crafts


Crazy Music?

Dad’s do strange stuff. I sometimes think that God is referred to as father for a reason. Dads get a bad rap of not being sensitive. Probably a correct stereotype mostly. I was good at it about 70% of the time in the ‘80s. Started losing it in the ‘90s. By the turn of the century I lost my manly man Testosterone deal. I wonder about that sometimes. I cry.

B: Why do you always kiss my head as I go to sleep? It is weird for a dad to do that.

F: Son do not think of it like that. You know you are a fine young man. I do not kiss you to kiss you. If I kiss your forehead at night it is so I can know if you have a fever or not.

B: Wow! I understand now. You really don’t love me you are just seeing if I am good. Hihihihi.

F: That is funny. You crack me up.

B: Enoch is still beating me in grades. I want to beat him.

F: If you both get 100% who is winning?

B: He turns in his papers fastest.

F: Are you still working on the calligraphy?

B: Yes, every morning with mom. Long hand seems silly.

F: Your Auntie/Godmother works throughout the world as a calligrapher. Long hand calligraphy is art. And you do it and Enoch does not.

B: Dad is there a difference between art and education?

F: You will get really important education. I figure you will figure that out for yourself. God has not taught me that.

B: Heard your buddy tell you that you are a strange duck. You should not put your phone on speaker all the time. I think you are a “strange duck’ too.

F: OK.

B: Dad would you take me to Washington to see Hay Hay?

F: Your big sister Hay would love that. Maybe we could get your mom to take time off and go with us.

F: Do you know 4/4 time? Be dada bumb? Do you get the five drop on melody? Oh bing bong a rou 5/5 Five five is not respected. How about a crazy 4/5? I do a two two with spoons completely wrongo boy. I like Dizzy Gillepsie and a guy named Glen Miller. So smooth brother son.

B: Dad those are crazy sounds.

F: Yep. We called them that back in the day. “Crazy baby Crazy”

I Kind Am This Bad.

Love This Guy

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Mom's Are Smarter Than Me

The boy’s big brother plays piano, harmonica, organ and plays a mean voice. He just has the buggey woogey in him. He has drawn more art and songs then I could in a life time. (yes he draws songs) I reckon his mom and I just supported the notion. Not from us. My Dad thought me Clarinet and Bongos.

There was this place I attended school. They made us take hard math. We also had to take tough 300 level science courses. It made sense I suppose. Music and the timing and choreography was just an extension of logic. Math. Science. I did not get a degree of Bachelor of Arts there. I got a rare degree of Bachelor of Science in Philosophy. Kind of think “Encounters of a Third Kind”.

My poor sons with such a strange dad. Don’t worry I worked 50 hours a week to pay for school. No debt for undergraduate.

B: Dad you tell me all kinds of things. Sometimes I wonder if they are true.

F: Well you just better damned wonder if they are true. I expect nothing less than questioning from a best friend. We like to say “keeping you honest”. Do you get that?

B: Don’t tell me I remember this one from that movie star guy. “RR” you called him. Because you thought Rail Road fitted him. Alright; “Verify but trust”. No no that is backwards, “trust but verify”.

F: I wonder about that, because I just fully trust you and your mom. Even if you lied to me, I would just trust that you had a fine reason. I think that makes sense.

B: So you just trust us? Like you think everything we do is OK?

F: Look at me boy, am I sleeping in the streets of Mexico City? Do I live down the canyon with the homeless? Not to say that is bad. But we have a great home, school, cars and mucho cashola. I do what I want and you do what you want. Mom loves to work so she does. I garden and we hike in nature. Trusting you guys seems to work out just fine.

B: Well you make me sleep outside sometimes. I like my bed. Blah Blah Blah about outdoors. Mom told me you are crazy. I think crazy and weird are the same. And strange too.

F: Buddy say “also” not “too” just go with me on that.

B: See what I mean? Mom says your head is in the clouds. That you live in words and nature and not normal everyday stuff.

F: Listen to your mom. But hang out with me. That over there is a Swallow Tail not a Monarch. Do you know how I know?

B: Swallowtail mimics the poisonous Monarch so birds don’t eat them but still has a tail. I wonder why it still has a tail.


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    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      3 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Bill I hate you and all things. Second hike today with 8+3+45 up and down a hill. I love to hike but I hate to train. 8 pounds in one hand and 3 pound walking stick and a pack of forty five pounds. I suppose getting ready for hell is better than faking it.

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      Eric Dierker 

      3 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Linda my fare lady. I wrote you a fine response last night. But a Gremlin of some 85 lbs. jumped on me in my writing chair caused havoc, erased matters and tossed me into my office easy chair and commenced a battle I lost. I am all bruised up today. Well I hope you accept my heart felt opologies as I will beat my hamster next time.

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      William Kovacic 

      3 months ago from Pleasant Gap, PA

      I knew you had eyes in the back of your head. I just knew it! I didn't need the confirmation, but thanks anyway. Another great set of lessons here. Thanks, Buddy!

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      Linda Lum 

      3 months ago from Washington State, USA

      Eric, I assumed that you were talking about the "other" Washington, but seriously if you ever come up north to the GOOD Washington, you are in big trouble if you don't let me know. I'll meet you at Bill's farm and we'll have fun chasing the chickens. Seriously, there is so much content in this article. So much to absorb and learn from, and so much love.

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      Eric Dierker 

      3 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Sean I am feeling a bit low. Lol. My boy is at sweet Alma's house. Better than digging and planting with me?? She is fully bilingual and kicks butt on Video stuff. It is kind of my son's Spanish class afternoon.

      And I have to patch up some gutters too.

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      Ioannis Arvanitis 

      3 months ago from Greece, Almyros

      Great lessons, my dear brother "Head In the Clouds". I enjoyed it! Thank you so much!

      I do trust your Heart!


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      Eric Dierker 

      3 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Ruby when I was studying for state exams I had a great instructor who told me to do just what you did. When I was taking practice exams I tried it the other way. I got so frustrated that it wrecked my whole exam.

      Of course you know much more than I in Anatomy and biology. But we try. We have dissected dead things.

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      Ruby Jean Richert 

      3 months ago from Southern Illinois

      This was a fun/great teaching lesson! What child could ask for more? I can relate about the math, it was always difficult for me. When I took the state board for my nursing and there was a math question, I wrote the page number down on a piece of paper, went on with the other questions, then went back to the math. ( because the test was timed ) For example, you hang an IV at 8 AM it has a thousand CC you give 25 CC an hour, during this process you give an antibiotic IV at 20 CC an hour, you check it at 4 PM how much fluid did you give? I had 4 questions like this . WHOA my head is spinning. Hee

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      Harish Mamgain 

      3 months ago from New Delhi , India

      Very Interesting stuff , Eric , and I wonder if the boy could grasp all this thing what learning is all about ! The little chap is happy by scoring better than his pals. There is more to the conversation of you duo which makes it a great article. To be fair , I , myself , have not digested it full. Your articles are deep and thought provoking.

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      Eric Dierker 

      3 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Sam you are on our page. Fun is fun and the most fun is discovery and challenging. We have a chimney I think he should scale it tonight. How fun is that?

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      Sam Shepards 

      3 months ago from Europe

      Hehe, just so you know it was not a critique on the scores. It was just a confirmation on this line: "F: I do not care about school grades. I care about learning."

      The best thing to have is the kid understands learning = fun.

      Have a nice day and lets hope the trolls stay away. :)

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      Eric Dierker 

      3 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Sam thanks for your comment. I have a fancy doctorate. Maybe it does me some good? But maybe more harm as I disassociate with others.The boy gets that. I think he pats me on the hand more than I him. I competed in sports to a scholarship. He just loves to win in class. Today I have a loop out and we are going to look at roots. Poor kid.

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      Eric Dierker 

      3 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Pamela you are very good to me. I appreciate that as my family says I am not easy to love. I know what they mean.When you ask your brother how he is doing and he talks about the workings of sociology and philosophy it must get tiring. My son has to put up with it. Poor little fellow.

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      Eric Dierker 

      3 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Debra it is a true blessing to hear from you. My wife and I just cut our budget down. She kind of is a workaholic. So the way we figured I would just be the house husband/dad. Best years of my life. Though I still have writing deadlines :-)

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      Sam Shepards 

      3 months ago from Europe

      What have you learned is indeed the more important question. Learning and exploring my mind, that is what I enjoy and never fails me. I was at a funeral this weekend. I saw my aunts and uncles bragging about their grandchildrens medals in sports and schoolgrades. I couldn't care less, my degree never brought me real happiness. Most things in life we strive for don't have a nice payoff. So you have to enjoy the ride. I do really hope the kids are having fun.

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      Pamela Oglesby 

      3 months ago from Sunny Florida

      I always enjoy the conversations between your son. There is so much that is included in your conversations beside the banter back and forth. I think you are a great father, and your son obviously have a good mother.

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      Debra Allen 

      3 months ago from West By God

      Loved the conversation between the father and son. Great that people can still do this.

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      Eric Dierker 

      3 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Mary it is a blessing to hear from you. I am working on some mentally hard stuff. Like legal stuff today so I am also doing the bathroom cleaning, Scrubbing bathtubs is tough as is cleaning toilets and polishing handles and the things of metal. Do not get me started on the stove. Happy to have them to clean as I did not always. A shirt is good a closet is awesome.

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      Mary Norton 

      3 months ago from Ontario, Canada

      Another interesting exchange. There's so much in it.

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      Eric Dierker 

      3 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thanks Elijah it means a lot to me when you come on by.

      I just shake my head and walk away sometimes and try to keep up with this guy. I am always late to catch on.

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      Eric Dierker 

      3 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Tim we got back from our beach clean up ritual yesterday. We got out of the car and both just were amazed at a new rose bloom. We just said Wow!! And at the same said to each other "Mom for sure". He wrote the card. I noticed this morning a tear stain on it.

      Makes me wonder where Heaven on earth is, if this ain't it.

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      Eric Dierker 

      3 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Bill we are working at more travel and assume to be in that crazy fantastic gorge up there. Maybe named after Columbus? Columbia anyway. We would be no bother visiting you. Sleeping bags out back in your farm. And we don't like to bath anyway.

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      Eric Dierker 

      3 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      John I am about ready to have the boy committed. But I don't know what to commit him to. I will ask him. LoL

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      Elijah A Alexander Jr 

      3 months ago from Washington DC

      That one requires more than one read to completely digest although it was an interesting read.

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      Tim Truzy 

      3 months ago from U.S.A.

      I think I've told my children this on occasion, Eric, because it's so true:

      "Listen to your mom. But hang out with me." Time is so fleeting and we need every minute we have with them before they can get going truly on their own.

      I saw your son was worried about being the top and the first, but the race is not given to the swift or the strong but to the one who endures. As smart as he is, with your and his mother's positive presence, he will get that. He's a lucky boy to have such an involved loving dad.

      Loved the song selection of Wind beneath my Wings.

      Respect and admiration, buddy,


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      Bill Holland 

      3 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Hay Hay? I swear to the gods,Eric, we named a rooster Hay Hay. LOL And if you bring that son of yours to Washington, and don't find some way to stop by and visit with me, I will be officially pissed.

      just sayin'

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      John Hansen 

      3 months ago from Queensland Australia

      A wonderful and informative exchange between father and son once again. Loved it.


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