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The Boy Teacher and The Man Student 6 (Discovering and Rediscovering Love)

Updated on January 4, 2018
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Eric started working with children when he was still one himself. He taught first aid through Scouting. All the way to preaching to youth.

Clean Him Off and Polish Him

My very devout Catholic wife instructed me to clean off this one of a kind wood burl piece and begin to teach our boy about Buddhism. She comes from that space and wants her son to understand it. This is love.
My very devout Catholic wife instructed me to clean off this one of a kind wood burl piece and begin to teach our boy about Buddhism. She comes from that space and wants her son to understand it. This is love. | Source

Who is Good and Who is Bad?

The scenario is the mom gone to work on a Saturday. Dad and son have eaten. Outside play for a bit and part of his hour of electronics used up.

S: Can I play for an extra 15 minutes today.

D: I don’t think I agree that sitting or lying and watching some screen is “play”.

S: Come on dad they even call it an esport.

D: I kind of get that and that is why you have hour a day on Saturdays. I hear that some guys make a million dollars playing. And that the guys in the military are very important. But you remember me preaching that we must be balanced and what I call “wholistic”.

S: (Big snickers and laugh) OK Chaddy.

D: You must know that calling your daddy Chaddy is rude and mean. But it is still so funny. Keep it in our home son. I am not worried about it for me but a lot of folks would call is sassy and disrespectful. So alright son time to be what we call productive.

S: Oh dad please.

D: You have 3 choices, read a book, clean up toys or listen and talk with me.

S: I only really like to do that in the car. I mean listen to you.

D: Fine you throw the pole and tackle box in the car and we will go fishing so we can talk in the car. You do know that is crazy boy!

S: Hi hi hi hi – but at least when we go fishing you have to be quiet.

D: Suit up and load up boy.

(They are loading up, the boy with the gear and the dad making quick fun lunch stuff. Funny but it is stuff all organic and such. The dad laughs with the notion that he ate a lot of bad things like processed meat and soda growing up or was it as processed 50 plus years ago? Driving the first to happen is some fun tunes they both enjoy then the schooling begins.)

D: Do you know the difference between a good person and a bad person? And the idea that good people do bad things and bad people do good things?

S: Yes dad. Good people love and bad people do not. I love the kids at school and I love Ms. Nguyen my teacher, and Mrs. Hawk our principal and Mary who serves lunch and Father Mai at church and my cousins and aunties and sisters and brother.

D: Well do you really or do you do it because we tell you to?

S: I thought about that dad and you cannot make me feel.

This Applies to So Many People in My Life

The Little Ones Seem To Inspire Us The Most

Can it get any better?
Can it get any better? | Source

Fishing For Answers

(The car is parked and off to the fishing pond they go. Talk turns to which bait to use and near the reeds or not today. Some chit chat about the geese and ducks and can you swim here. As with most young boys, while fishing only the boy can talk.)

S: Dad why is it that you think so much?

S: How come mom loves to teach me to read and write and math but you love to try and make me think? Even when we play soccer or Nerf battles you make me think of plans and ideas to win. I kind of like it when you do it in cards, puzzles and chess.

S: Do the fish really care if we talk to loud or move around a bunch? And why aren’t you fishing?

D: This pond is for 16 and under. Do you want me to cast for you?

S: For a bit. And could you hold the pole my arms are tired.

D: I always get a giggle when you caught those fish in Oak Creek and made me do the gross stuff. I guess at five that is fair.

D: I will not real it in for you that would be illegal and wrong.

S: It fun last time when I fell in and you did not help me but just sent pictures to mom and my sisters and brother.

D: Ya and you still owe me a car cleaning. Man that was real fun.

(Time to go after eating the ridiculously healthy lunch. They will stop by the store for some Salmon for dinner. Both are happy and even more happy they did not catch one and have to deal with it. But the ride is brutal)

D: Did you enjoy spending time with your old pappy?

S: When can I go on the long hike to the Colorado River?

D: When you insist and can plead you case to mom.

S: You mean argue with mom?

S: Mean I can do it but I have trouble doing it.

D: So what is your problem?

S: I just cannot do it right yet.

Children Know How Their Parents Feel

To Share That Love of Nature

Life sometimes, must be slow in order to really share it.
Life sometimes, must be slow in order to really share it. | Source

Learning is a Way of Life not a Finish Line

D: Hey buddy sometime life is a battle. When your mom and I argue it is to determine the best path for the three of us. Mom likes to yell but then five minutes later she and I agree. But it is the battle that moves us forward. Some say it is because I am Irish/Italian and she is Vietnamese that we just love to get all crazy and yell. Pay attention and know it is just a process.

S: Ha ha ha Chaddy. Is yelling and arguing a good person doing bad? I got you dad.

D: So folks want to put you on a drug to help you pay attention. I won’t let them and how you came full circle proves I point.

S: Will you stop arguing and yelling?

D: So get out of the car and grab the reusable bags, and let’s buy some Salmon.

(Fun in the store and some treat blackberries and blueberries.)

D: Before we get home son I want you to think if you are a good person. This whole religious thing I do will not let me decide or judge for you. Judge yourself.

S: Dad I think you make mistakes. I just want you to love me if I am good or bad. Deal? You know like our God of love does. You almost never get mad at me, so please don’t get mad at mommy or yourself.

D: You touched my heart kid. You are like the little Drummer Boy. What I bring to the dinner table is food what you bring is love. So there can be no doubt you are a good person. And don’t let me catch you doing bad. Yes you earned an extra 15 minutes on your thinging bob thing you “play”.

(And the beat goes on. The dad moves to his writing machine to try to write about what he has learned and the boy moves on to get to the next level of the game. We wonder who is playing and who is learning and by and by there is no real difference. They each play at life and love)

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    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      7 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Kari the young boy I write about the most is "almost eight". Although sometimes I write about a couple of nephews or my elder son back when....

      If you allow for an hour of electronics a day and interact regarding same, the little ones will get a "black hole" and the life cycle of a butterfly. The key is teaching love of learning.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      7 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      High Bill. Funny that you mention the format. I asked for all kinds of help on it. When I got set I went ahead and HP changed it for me. I was quite happy to have them help. Next week I followed it and another proofreader put it back like I had it before. Taught me a lesson I had forgotten but Mr. Holland guided me forth.

      It is frenetic but hey so are children.

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      Kari Poulsen 

      7 months ago from Ohio

      Time does go slower the faster you go. I think on the freeway would be faster than home. Interesting question. How old is that youngster?

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      William Kovacic 

      7 months ago from Pleasant Gap, PA

      I love this series, Eric. The format is unique, but in many ways, it's what draws me in. Another good job, my friend.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      7 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Kari Thank You. 90% of the time it is great. But I was happily listening to music on a drive yesterday and my young one went off on a tangent that demanded hard thought. "what is the difference in 10 minutes if you are still at home or travelling on the freeway?" Sure we have mass moving through time but can you call that time travel really?

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      Kari Poulsen 

      7 months ago from Ohio

      You and your son sure talk about deep issues. That is my favorite type of small talk, lol. Thank you for sharing this.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      7 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Frank. Kind of cool about this series is that I just need to live to get new chapters. Today the elder is getting his little brother set up with a tool kit some nails and wood.

      Your support is very appreciated.

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      Frank Atanacio 

      7 months ago from Shelton

      Eric, I think I'm looking forward to the little series.. oh and yes the fish do care if we make noise.. LOL.. It's nice to have such an open communication and we all can be students in one form or another... awesome my friend

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      Eric Dierker 

      7 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Tim we have some here with mom. The society that she grew up in, you had to look serious to be working hard. Over the past decade and a half I slip her little articles which make uncontroversial that smiles make you more productive. A hard core intense facial contortion actually can restrict proper blood flow.

      Well times change and now the close the door when they study together and it is a laugh a minute.

      I can for sure now say that we learn to play and play to learn.

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      Eric Dierker 

      7 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      That is lovely Linda. I have not yet come up with a more clear detail in life. If it truly is love then the friendship should be taken advantage of.

      I feel really insecure when they start thinking that their social friends are more important than our friendship. But I am pretty sure that is normal. And then they come home again ;-)

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      Tim Mitchell 

      7 months ago from Escondido, CA

      I envy your discussions with your son. They are enlightening. I like your last line "They each play at life and love".

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      Linda Lum 

      7 months ago from Washington State, USA

      Eric, last year for my birthday my younger daughter gave me a plaque which says "If I didn't have you for a Mom, I'd choose you as a friend." I think that is the best gift I have ever received, or ever will. To be loved by a child is beautiful. To be loved by your adult child is priceless. Not love born of duty by from respect for one another.

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      Eric Dierker 

      7 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you much John. I am glad that you had similar blessings. Today will be another one for me. Yesterday we talked about having friends that were different in age

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      John Ward 

      7 months ago from Richmond, British Columbia, Canada.

      I can fully relate. Had two Boys and remember similar long discourses. Treasure them well. God bless my friend.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      7 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Manatita or should I call you K? thank you for your Christmas note it means much to me and I look at it with my younger son.

      Truth be told these stories kind of include me and my dad, me and my 32 year old son and some with my 7 year old son and many crosses in between. The places span all that time and now it is so wonderful my eldest son is now doing the same with his very little brother. (oh that reminds me to do some work on our October camping trip with the 3 of us around and campfire - it was the finest moment a father can have.

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      Eric Dierker 

      7 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Jackie, thank you. I have double life. These stories reach from my 32 year old son and back to now with my seven year old son. We make quite a trio with me presumed grandpa. My life is so wonderful that now the three of us revisit where I took my eldest. I mean that as much of love as in creeks and fishing holes.

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      Jackie Lynnley 

      7 months ago from The Beautiful South

      I think we can all feel your love for your son, Eric. That is such a great thing. I was in my 30s before I felt my dad's love. But better late than never. Pleased when men can show their kids love!

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      manatita44 

      7 months ago from london

      How old is he, Eric? The kid is smart.

      Some faiths are teaching about different religions now, including Buddism. I think it's a great idea.

      Some smart or wise interactions between you two and a bit of Glady's as well Nice!

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      Bill Holland 

      7 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Beautiful final paragraph. Pretty much sums up this thing called life....the answers are out there...it's our job to find them through living. Thanks my friend.

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