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The Boy Teacher and The Man Student 6 (Discovering and Rediscovering Love)
Clean Him Off and Polish Him
Who is Good and Who is Bad?
The scenario is the mom gone to work on a Saturday. Dad and son have eaten. Outside play for a bit and part of his hour of electronics used up.
S: Can I play for an extra 15 minutes today.
D: I don’t think I agree that sitting or lying and watching some screen is “play”.
S: Come on dad they even call it an esport.
D: I kind of get that and that is why you have hour a day on Saturdays. I hear that some guys make a million dollars playing. And that the guys in the military are very important. But you remember me preaching that we must be balanced and what I call “wholistic”.
S: (Big snickers and laugh) OK Chaddy.
D: You must know that calling your daddy Chaddy is rude and mean. But it is still so funny. Keep it in our home son. I am not worried about it for me but a lot of folks would call is sassy and disrespectful. So alright son time to be what we call productive.
S: Oh dad please.
D: You have 3 choices, read a book, clean up toys or listen and talk with me.
S: I only really like to do that in the car. I mean listen to you.
D: Fine you throw the pole and tackle box in the car and we will go fishing so we can talk in the car. You do know that is crazy boy!
S: Hi hi hi hi – but at least when we go fishing you have to be quiet.
D: Suit up and load up boy.
(They are loading up, the boy with the gear and the dad making quick fun lunch stuff. Funny but it is stuff all organic and such. The dad laughs with the notion that he ate a lot of bad things like processed meat and soda growing up or was it as processed 50 plus years ago? Driving the first to happen is some fun tunes they both enjoy then the schooling begins.)
D: Do you know the difference between a good person and a bad person? And the idea that good people do bad things and bad people do good things?
S: Yes dad. Good people love and bad people do not. I love the kids at school and I love Ms. Nguyen my teacher, and Mrs. Hawk our principal and Mary who serves lunch and Father Mai at church and my cousins and aunties and sisters and brother.
D: Well do you really or do you do it because we tell you to?
S: I thought about that dad and you cannot make me feel.
This Applies to So Many People in My Life
The Little Ones Seem To Inspire Us The Most
Fishing For Answers
(The car is parked and off to the fishing pond they go. Talk turns to which bait to use and near the reeds or not today. Some chit chat about the geese and ducks and can you swim here. As with most young boys, while fishing only the boy can talk.)
S: Dad why is it that you think so much?
S: How come mom loves to teach me to read and write and math but you love to try and make me think? Even when we play soccer or Nerf battles you make me think of plans and ideas to win. I kind of like it when you do it in cards, puzzles and chess.
S: Do the fish really care if we talk to loud or move around a bunch? And why aren’t you fishing?
D: This pond is for 16 and under. Do you want me to cast for you?
S: For a bit. And could you hold the pole my arms are tired.
D: I always get a giggle when you caught those fish in Oak Creek and made me do the gross stuff. I guess at five that is fair.
D: I will not real it in for you that would be illegal and wrong.
S: It fun last time when I fell in and you did not help me but just sent pictures to mom and my sisters and brother.
D: Ya and you still owe me a car cleaning. Man that was real fun.
(Time to go after eating the ridiculously healthy lunch. They will stop by the store for some Salmon for dinner. Both are happy and even more happy they did not catch one and have to deal with it. But the ride is brutal)
D: Did you enjoy spending time with your old pappy?
S: When can I go on the long hike to the Colorado River?
D: When you insist and can plead you case to mom.
S: You mean argue with mom?
S: Mean I can do it but I have trouble doing it.
D: So what is your problem?
S: I just cannot do it right yet.
Children Know How Their Parents Feel
To Share That Love of Nature
Learning is a Way of Life not a Finish Line
D: Hey buddy sometime life is a battle. When your mom and I argue it is to determine the best path for the three of us. Mom likes to yell but then five minutes later she and I agree. But it is the battle that moves us forward. Some say it is because I am Irish/Italian and she is Vietnamese that we just love to get all crazy and yell. Pay attention and know it is just a process.
S: Ha ha ha Chaddy. Is yelling and arguing a good person doing bad? I got you dad.
D: So folks want to put you on a drug to help you pay attention. I won’t let them and how you came full circle proves I point.
S: Will you stop arguing and yelling?
D: So get out of the car and grab the reusable bags, and let’s buy some Salmon.
(Fun in the store and some treat blackberries and blueberries.)
D: Before we get home son I want you to think if you are a good person. This whole religious thing I do will not let me decide or judge for you. Judge yourself.
S: Dad I think you make mistakes. I just want you to love me if I am good or bad. Deal? You know like our God of love does. You almost never get mad at me, so please don’t get mad at mommy or yourself.
D: You touched my heart kid. You are like the little Drummer Boy. What I bring to the dinner table is food what you bring is love. So there can be no doubt you are a good person. And don’t let me catch you doing bad. Yes you earned an extra 15 minutes on your thinging bob thing you “play”.
(And the beat goes on. The dad moves to his writing machine to try to write about what he has learned and the boy moves on to get to the next level of the game. We wonder who is playing and who is learning and by and by there is no real difference. They each play at life and love)