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The Boy Teacher and the Father Student 1

Updated on November 23, 2017
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Holding degrees in philosophy and Law. Formal studies or certificates or degrees in business, theology, insurance and security. Ex-preacher.

Happy Holidays

We are going on a road trip for Thanksgiving. Just us the road and the opportunity to talk with one another.
We are going on a road trip for Thanksgiving. Just us the road and the opportunity to talk with one another. | Source

When We Stop Questioning, We Start Dying.

Many times a person of some age teaches children. It would seem that this is questionable at best. We were cruising down the road so fine and an older man pulled up next to us in a Ferrari. The boy noticed that the old man had a brand new car. And he queried why an old man would need something shiny and new. I was stumped as it made no sense to me either. And yet I had had the boy all shiny and new in my later age.

It brought to mind that a person is not their progeny or their things. So the banter began. Why is it wrong for an old man to have the brand new and fancy? “Well because he will be old and dead before the car. Why have a thing that outlasts you?” But son, you will outlast me, God willing. “But dad you will always be. And I will always be as our souls do not die, as you taught me. And so the car has no soul so the old man will outlast his ‘thing’.” See how you came full circle around on that? Deep thought.

“Dad why do we have things?” Wonderful question my son. From our Native American culture we do not “have” things. And if we are attached to them, they have us. “Ok dad I think I get it. I sure love this old car you drive it seems like we are a part of it.” Well son perhaps it is the memories that we associate with the car. Associate is like when a place or thing reminds you of something or a feeling. Do you know what I mean? “Yes dad I associate mommy with love – is that the same?” I think you get it son.

My son you are asking the right questions. I have answers to them. But I am afraid you will not have your own answers if I answer them for you. Let us listen to music for a bit and think in our own mind. “But dad!” Shish and ponder son.

“Dad I am bored”. I would hope so son. Does the boredom make you at peace or aggravate you? “I never get that crazy idea of yours about peace” “I don’t even get it when they say it at church, I mean what does ‘peace upon you’ mean anyway?”

Are you my son? “Yes”. Are you my servant? “No but I have to do what you say”. Excellent and smarter than I am boy. Do you obey out of fear or respect? Long pause. “Both daddy”. Is it the fear of being wrong or the fear of my being mad at you? “I already answered that it is both”. Have I beaten you son? “No Dad but you could”. Have I done anything at all to make you respect me? “Well dad you have respected me”.

Just a Thought

Adult Son Assists Father

One of the great joys in life is when a father is helped by a son as the father helped the son over twenty years ago.
One of the great joys in life is when a father is helped by a son as the father helped the son over twenty years ago. | Source

The Appreciation of Appreciation

The journey takes longer than expected. They pull over and walk up a slope and do criss cross pee pee in the dirt. The father grabs a bunch of dirt and then some sage brush and crushes them in his hand. Then he tells the boy to smell it. And asks if the boy can tell the difference between the sage and the dirt it came from. And then two hands full and the same question. The boy is frustrated and cannot say. The father explained that this was taught him from the grandfather of the Hopi Thurman Juschangiva. The sage is born of all that it grows from, there is little difference from our beginning to our end, we are born of the earth and so we are part of it. The boy still seemed confused. It was easy to explain. Son, breathe deep four times as I showed you. Now smell the dirt and sage. “Dad that just smells the same only stronger”. Yes, if the scent is respected then it grows even deeper in our hand.

Time passed as they passed through a pass. Songs played from the speakers. The boy took his look away from the window and asked; “Am I part of you or are you part of me?” The man sighed and asked what is the difference? “So we are just part of each other?”. “And so uncle Brian and my brother Brooks are part of us too?.” That sounds about right little buddy.

“Dad you told me that everyone has love, you do know that is crazy?” “My friend Cameron does not seem like he loves anyone.” Son do not look at the man, look into him. “But dad, mommy said that you have hurt people, how can that be love?” That is a very good question son. Perhaps another time. “no daddy explain why you have hurt someone”. Sometimes to save a good person we have to hurt another person. We are not given a choice sometimes. We are called to protect the innocent like you. To do that, some may have to be hurt. But for me it is in the words that I hurt others not the fist.

“Dad, would you die for me”. If I had no other choice then of course. There was a pause. Conversation ended but the deep thoughts had were eerily shared.

Outstanding in His Field

Room to grow!
Room to grow! | Source

Who? - Just Who Deserves the Blessing of Children

Just A Mystery

Son, are you doing well right now or do you feel upset? “Dad do you remember that you told me I should stop crying for myself?” Of course son, we need to feel what we feel and then act accordingly. If you cry for yourself what gain is there? I believe tears should be reserved for others and when we are overwhelmed with a showing of love. “Dad sometimes I need to cry for myself”. Yep son I get it. Maybe I am saying it wrong. If your feelings are such that you need to cry then cry. Do not hide it or be ashamed. But, be careful so you aren’t just feeling sorry for yourself.

I believe that we should always remember our friend that we do not know who walks without shoes 2 miles for school and a mile for water. We have the faucet and can walk for fun the ¾ of mile to get to school. Hey let’s do it again with dribbling basketballs the whole way and the competition of who can go the longest.

“Dad, I know this is a weird question but why did you and mommy fall in love?” “It just seems so strange that you found each other out of billions of people”. Hey buddy I am with you on that. You know that deal with the Father, Son and Holy Spirit all being one? “Sure dad and you said it was just a mystery”. Right on the money son, you might get some ice cream when we get home. Well two people in love with each other at the same time, well that is a mystery also. Sorry no answer except that it is what it is. Kind of strange if you ask, me which you did.

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    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      12 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Patricia. I really enjoyed your article yesterday. https://hubpages.com/health/Empathy-and-SilenceBei...

      I commented on it but I see the comment is not showing.

      I have fun talking with young ones in an adult way. Most respond in kind but with a certain innocence.

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      Patricia Scott 

      12 months ago from sunny Florida

      A conversation with a child for me often leads me to ask more questions....of myself and of the universe. This is a very telling composition...one to read and reread. Eric, I always am glad I visit as I always always have something to take away with me to mull over and consider.

      Angels are on the way to you this morning and Merry Christmas to you and yours. ps

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      12 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Nikki I thank you for your inspiring comment. This is my first article/hub that is not featured in over three years. I have no idea why.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      12 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Frank it is great to have you back and publishing. Every one of your stories strikes a chord with me.

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      Eric Dierker 

      12 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Bill, I have no idea why your comment just reached me. It is always good to hear from you.

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      Nikki Khan 

      12 months ago from London

      Enjoyed a lot this article Eric,who can ask better questions than a child.Well done.Another great work.Thanks for sharing.

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      Frank Atanacio 

      12 months ago from Shelton

      Eric, very strong and ethically charged hub.. I do enjoy your work my friend :)

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      William Kovacic 

      12 months ago from Pleasant Gap, PA

      Some deep stuff, Eric. Just a mystery for sure. Oh, and I love the pictures.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      12 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Jackie

      Well said.

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      Jackie Lynnley 

      12 months ago from The Beautiful South

      Great song Eric for the big question of your article. Don't we all wonder that so many times?

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      12 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      "Honest to God" is one of my go to books. You remind me to study the conversations.

      I believe that our next one here may be about friendship. If a father does not teach his son how to be a real friend with being one -- how could that be?

      Thank you K.

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      manatita44 

      12 months ago from london

      Swweeeet!! Nice one. A bit like Conversations With God. Was it you who said you had this book?

      Kids are so charming and innocent and they are not usually afraid to ask questions.

      " Suffer little children to come unto me, for of such is the Kingdom of Heaven." I can dig that. Cool!

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      Eric Dierker 

      12 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Oh John I am jealous. I just love visiting Ireland. But we are still bathing in the aftermath of having a wonderful day giving thanks.

      Your taking the time to come and visit here makes me feel good. Thank you.

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      John Ward 

      12 months ago from Richmond, British Columbia, Canada.

      Hi Eric; I am in Ireland at present, will be for a few months. I just managed to get on to a computer and hence the internet. I read your article(above) and enjoyed it immensely. There is a lot of wisdom contained within it's words and sentences. S, I must send you my thanks and congratulations. Please keep feeding us with these titbits of WISDOM. Great work my friend.. keep up the great work. John W

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      Eric Dierker 

      12 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Kari it is a nice place so support and be supportive.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      12 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Bill. Plan on a question or two on the mailbag about formatting and using quotations.

      I am glad you mentioned about the bouncing around. I wanted to keep that real as a child does.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      12 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Dora. For some reason I had trouble finding that quote. I am glad you mentioned it. Thank you for your constant support.

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      Kari Poulsen 

      12 months ago from Ohio

      Eric, Thank you so much!

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      Bill Holland 

      12 months ago from Olympia, WA

      The one problem with holidays is all the catching up we have to do after we stuff ourselves with food and goodwill. No worries on this article, though; I had it safely tucked away for when I was ready. Now that I've read it I have whiplash from bouncing around on topics so quickly. I had to hit the brakes a couple times to totally absorb all the truths hiding within. Now I am happily filled with valuable lessons and I can move on to billing customers. :) Thanks buddy!

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      Dora Weithers 

      12 months ago from The Caribbean

      More great questions. Your title reminds me of the William Wordsworth quote: The child is father of the man." True, true.

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      Eric Dierker 

      12 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Linda, I thank you very much. I had trepidation's over how much to jump around on ideas like a young person or have more continuity. I hope I hit a happy middle ground.

      Your support is appreciated.

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      Eric Dierker 

      12 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Wow Ed, I guess it has been over five years. And I cherish being able to call you friend.

      You always lift me up and I do appreciate it. As I think about it, you are the one who got me interested in poetry here. And what a blessing that is. Yours particularly speak to me and enrich my life.

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      Linda Crampton 

      12 months ago from British Columbia, Canada

      This is a very interesting and thought-provoking article. I read it twice because it contains so much to ponder. Thank you for sharing your ideas, Eric. You've created a lovely hub.

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      ahorseback 

      12 months ago

      I swear to God Eric , you have become more brilliant in your reaching out to people in words ! How long have we known each other now ,my friend ? I just think this is the best piece you have ever written , ever ! And , I envy the sharing that you have in that wonderful little family ! And I mean this , Thank you for being one of the most prolific writers here ....:-]

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      Eric Dierker 

      12 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      O William thank you for your generous comment it lifts me up.

      I saw your statement of "from Far Far East". And it made me chuckle. I consider NY NY as the far far east. But in fact my wife is from the Southeast,,, As in Vietnam. It is a great global family if we let it be.

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      Eric Dierker 

      12 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Kari, there is something about your comment that cheers me up. For some reason you exude your love through the words you share. Quite a gift for the rest of us.

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      Eric Dierker 

      12 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Denise if we adults are honest with ourselves. We re-climb the latter that we climbed up to be adults. And there is no better guide than a child doing it the first time.

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      Eric Dierker 

      12 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Linda, we had such a great day. We met with my nephew/son up the coast aways. We made reservations ahead of time. It was packed. Hoang An's in Little Saigon. But we got stuck in traffic and I was blessed to watch my little one and his mom go back and forth with 100 questions.

      Yes this is the beginning of a series. Thank you much.

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      O William 

      12 months ago

      This is a beautiful Eric

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      Kari Poulsen 

      12 months ago from Ohio

      This is a lovely article. Perfect for Thanksgiving. Happy Thanksgiving to you!

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      Denise W Anderson 

      12 months ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

      Children are amazing! Allowing ourselves to be open to their questions and conversations is a humbling experience. We never know what they will say or do, but our openness allows both them and us to grow!

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      Eric Dierker 

      12 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Ann were are just loving being with each other this week. We are totally unconventional around here. We just plan it out to have the best time together.

      I always loved that outstanding joke.

      Thank you for coming by and leaving a note. I very much appreciate it.

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      Linda Lum 

      12 months ago from Washington State, USA

      Eric what a perfect story for this day. I absolutely love this dialogue between father and son. Will this be a weekly series? I would love it it could be.

      I pray you have a wonderful day.

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      Ann Carr 

      12 months ago from SW England

      What a wonderful conversation, Eric! I like the photo 'outstanding in his field' because it reminds me of my Dad who was an outstanding ophthalmic optician and I sent him a birthday card with a similar photo; the card said 'for a man who is outstanding in his field'! So thanks for the memory!

      It's so good to learn how a child thinks and this one asks such amazing questions. It never ceases to amaze me what children come up with and how often I'm stumped for an answer though I always try.

      Hope you're having a great week, Eric.

      Ann

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