# The Boy Teacher and the Father Student 7 (Always Question Authority)

Updated on January 9, 2018

Eric started working with children when he was still one himself. He taught first aid through Scouting. All the way to preaching to youth.

## Rules Are Not To Be Broken But Rather Changed

B: Hey dad why do we need to wait for the light to turn green even though I cannot see any cars coming?

F: Believe it or not that is complicated. Can you pay attention to a few things without telling me that I talk too much?

F: Garret Morgan, please remember him as a hero. You know how you don’t even know what a race of humans are? To you everybody is just somebody. I ask you to tell me so I can identify them and you have no clue. Enough on that for now.

F: So Morgan developed those lights. More than 100 years ago. I really do not know how those early ones worked but you might even say they were the first computers using a binary code of sorts.

B: What is binary again?

F: Kid that will take us away from the lights. Just remind me to teach you some Morse code and Semafore. You will like it. Remind me of …---… that is dot dot dot, dash dash dash dot dot dot. When I was little a few of us knew it but our teachers did not. So we would pass notes using it.

Binary is using two combinations repetitively to create something more complicated. No more of that for now or you will drift off to sleep.

F: So the three lights were developed to make where two roads cross safer. I call that controlled traffic. You get that right?

F: The red light at no traffic times is a stupid thing.

B: So why do they do it?

F: Back to Morgan, he made it so it was timed so that when there was no traffic it would just be a blinking yellow light to remind you to be extra careful at the intersection.

B: So we are still sitting here. Why did they change that?

F: Because bureaucrats now decide and they are not trying to do the best for us but rather for them.

B: I get it, now it is green let’s go.

F: yes but it is your job to do as you do and don’t just accept the way things are but question and make better. Thanks for reminding me to do the same. I am sometimes complacent.

## Basics

B: Dad how come they have bad words that you cannot use? If you cannot use them then why do we have them? If you give me a toy I get to use it.

F: Do you get to use a squirt master blaster in the house?

B: No. Oh now I see. You only get to use bad words when you are outside playing.

F: Why would you do that?

B: Because it is fun to break rules if you do not hurt anyone. Or get caught.

F: Two deals there buddy. Why do it? And when you get caught doing it expect extra punishment. We will talk more about it when you get caught and if you do it, you will get caught. Think of habits.

B: I get it, it is like walking and making a sound with your shoes that wears them out faster. If we do it a lot then we cannot stop.

B: Why do we say the Lord’s Prayer at home every morning and say the Pledge of Allegiance every morning at school? We just keep saying the same thing over and over again?

F: You may be right to question that but do you want to learn by heart another verse in the Bible and a new pledge?

B: No but I do them like a Zombie part of the time.

F: Remember that big word I used earlier “complacency”? That kind of means that you just do things without caring. But some days. We lose that caring. So we do those things without caring and that is better than not doing them at all.

B: Sometimes I just do stuff because people tell me to.

F: Me too.

A Time Of Why

F: Hey guy. I am really feeling like a Polish Sandwich with everything on it, from Wienerschnitzel. It has been over 2 months that we had “fast food”. Would you like a chili dog?

B: Mom is the boss of eating. Will she get mad?

F: Out of respect I will text her and ask.

B: That confuses me dad. What is the difference between obeying and respecting?

F: I don’t know, I never thought of that. Maybe I only obey those I respect.

B: I only obey you because I love you.

F: Cool. Thanks for that. But I do not want to obey Mrs. Webber next door. Maybe I do what she wants because she is 87 years old. You make me wonder why I obey you when we play a game and you know the rules but I do not.

## Purity of Thought Is The Best Teacher

F: Would you like a medicine that helps you concentrate more?

B: Wait, there is medicine that will make me smarter?

F: In a way, yes.

B: Do you have one that will make me as fast as the Flash?

F: No.

B: I don’t get it. Does the drug get smarter or do I?

F: Son that is too metaphysical for me.

B: I know that word. In space and thought instead of what is real. Will you do it with me like our salad every night?

F: No.

B: So it would change me? Do you want me to change?

F: Doctors who we respect tell us it might be good for you. But you are right, I do not want to change you at all, unless you need glasses.

B: Hey dad what is pretty and ugly and pretty ugly? That does not makes any sense at all.

F: Where did you come up with that?

B: Jake at school was saying our teacher is pretty pretty.

F: Course she is, she has a good heart and loves you kids and that makes her pretty pretty.

B: But dad last year Mrs. S loved us too and she is not pretty.

F: Son, let me tell you that not everyone is smart or good looking. There are a lot of people that are smart and not good looking and a lot that are good looking but not smart.

B: Dad isn’t it bad to call someone ugly and fat or stupid?

F: Why would you want to say something mean like that?

B: I don’t know except that it is true.

F: There is a great phrase kid “beauty is in the heart of the beholder”. A lot of people say in the eye of the beholder. They would be wrong. What would happen if you were really ugly? Would I love you less or think you were ugly?

B: So because I love you, you are handsome?

F: Don’t ask me son. It has been many years since I saw an ugly person. Some that act ugly but not ugly.

B: Who makes the rules for like movies? I think they look funny.

F: Buddy thanks again. Sometimes I forget what beauty is. Maybe radiance is love, which is beautiful.

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Eric Dierker

10 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

Kari I always wondered about "terrible twos". If we make our home safe for thought and feelings no matter what then we can get our child to question authority by questioning parents. No better place to learn.

• Kari Poulsen

10 months ago from Ohio

LOL, yes it seems he does!

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Eric Dierker

10 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

Kari this was so fun just yesterday. My son and I saw a normal looking guy talking on his cell phone. Some heated argument. The man looked real stressed and angry.

Without pause my son said "I know I should not say this but that man is really ugly". I guess he knows what ugly is.

• Kari Poulsen

10 months ago from Ohio

I love these conversations, kids ask the smartest questions. And I agree, I can't remember the last time I saw an ugly person.

• AUTHOR

Eric Dierker

10 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

Bill about the lights. In fact back in the early '80's I handled an insurance matter. It hinged on a yellow drive through (enter on yellow when unsafe to stop) And witnesses on both sides establishing the lights were green and yellow at the same time. Ended in death.

Working on that I found some cases that held that going on a prolonged red is not necessarily a sin. But if it causes on accident - that is on you.

• William Kovacic

10 months ago from Pleasant Gap, PA

They have some very long red lights in these parts. I've often st for a few minutes looking both ways with no traffic and wondering why I'm still sitting there. Thanks for clearing that up, Eric. I'll blame it on the bureaucrats. Enjoyed as always!

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Eric Dierker

10 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

Frank the first couple were misery to publish. The format was just to daunting to make the right choice. So I settled on one, tossed it up to the HP gods. They came back and changed the format. So I used theirs the next time happy to be off the hook of deciding.

That proof reader sent me back to my original style.

Indeed I had gone to my eldest son and asked him questions. Very cool that the wheel goes unbroken.

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Eric Dierker

10 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

Chitrangada, your comment makes me smile. I think at five and a half we went on an 8hr road trip back to my birthplace. I just assumed he would ask questions and chit chat and then doze after two hours or so. Wrong! He stayed up until midnight, question after question. Almost eight now and he reminded me how I answered a question on that trip. Can you imagine 7 hours of questions with no google ;-) Thank you

• Frank Atanacio

10 months ago from Shelton

it's hard to believe that this or these types of hub really strike a chord in me.. but they really do.. love the dialogue too my friend...

10 months ago from New Delhi, India

Excellent article and I thoroughly enjoyed the Questions and the Answers!

Children sometimes ask questions, full of wisdom, and I believe they should be encouraged and allowed to ask those questions, even if we find some of them difficult to answer.

I was reminded of the times, when my kids were younger and used to ask non stop questions about anything and everything.

Thanks for sharing this refreshing hub!

• AUTHOR

Eric Dierker

10 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

Linda don't look at me for answers on that one. I think you say it well. Except I just can't get over how wonderfully my soul felt when mom would let me do stuff in the kitchen with her.

• Linda Lum

10 months ago from Washington State, USA

Eric, I thought about that for a moment. No, to me feed and nourish are NOT the same thing. You can feed a person nothing but candy and they will be filled, but not in a healthy way. Nourishment is feeding with something that is good for you. So, I feed stomachs, you nourish souls. How's that?

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Eric Dierker

10 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

Thank you very much Linda. That is a very nice thing to say and appreciated.

But alas; we are well to feed their minds and their stomachs if we also fill their souls with good.

As my mind is want to do it had me standing in the rain this morning contemplating "Chicken Soup for the Soul". And that made me think of you. "Feed & Nourish", are they the same?

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Eric Dierker

10 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

John we have a deal here that somewhat addresses your comment. "Dad what are your 3 favorite colors for today?" Of course we tell the truth on the matter. And yet tomorrow it is not the truth.

Abe Lincoln said that "obedience of the law is the greatest freedom". Lately I come to terms with politics in a certain way. Vote and argue for my person. And then no matter the result respect and honor them. And that is really fun when you vote for them for one term and not the other.

Plato's Republic is a grail of sorts for me. Better to work for change than to disobey, lest we must. Poor old Socrates.

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Eric Dierker

10 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

Elijah, you bring up the interesting point about what is good and bad for each of us. I am troubled though when we begin to say not to use judgment. We cannot walk up stairs without judging the height. I do not think we mean not to judge how far from the other car we are. I have to respect someone else's judgment not condemn/judge it ultimately.

• Linda Lum

10 months ago from Washington State, USA

Eric, I love this dialogue. Of all of them, I think this is my favorite (so far). So much food for thought. I feed peoples stomachs, you feed our minds.

• John Ward

10 months ago from Richmond, British Columbia, Canada.

I must have been born a renegade. Because I have always Questioned the Status Quo. Often it did not go well with Senior Officers and authority. Sometimes the results were not ideal. So it is refreshng to read your Dialogue and very enlightening. Thanks Eric. A question that does not generate more good and informative questions that leaves nothing more to is always suspect to me but then i have never believed that the final answer is just that. Answers can always be expanded on. I will be reading the dialogue again.

• Elijah A Alexander Jr

10 months ago from Washington DC

Interesting dialogs, Eric, they started me thinking why I am the way I am. It was because so many of those answers that leave questions that I became a philosophy. To me, wise answers are those which eliminate all other question concerning that matter. That is what caused my "new birth", as it's called, I desired answers that didn't lead to other questions.

After my "new conception" sent me to study the Bible making a note of all contradictions I saw the Bible posed more questions that it answered. So, when I got to Jesus' "judge not" and realizing "good and evil" are judgments I wanted to find out what is required to stop judging. So, here I am today realizing what is good is what the doer likes and causes evil to its receiver, thus, good and evil are a matter of perspective, causer or receiver.

Thanks, friend, things like that helps me remember why I am as I am.

• AUTHOR

Eric Dierker

10 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

Bill thank you for sending your rain down our way we really needed. Now to assess the damage caused by us wanting to live in a desert.

Monday I watched the deputies dutifully getting the word to homeless to get out of the drainage and canyons.

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Eric Dierker

10 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

Thank you Manatita. I really am having fun with these.

• Bill Holland

10 months ago from Olympia, WA

Wow, I made it on the same day. Where's my gold star!

Love the dialogue and lessons learned...and taught....and ongoing....authority? That's a tricky one...need it, don't trust it, naturally cringe from it....but then that's just me, always on the outside of the circle looking in. :)

• manatita44

10 months ago from london

A charming and loving approach, with the application of some truths asserted. Nice one.

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