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The Boy and Me - Tough Times?

Updated on January 19, 2019
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Cancer and children and degrees have taught me that I am an expert. Perhaps a doctorate makes me an expert at missing the mark.

Being Tough Is Easy

Staying focused on love is a little harder.
Staying focused on love is a little harder. | Source

Relief From Scared Is Cool

I have missed a few articles of late. But we all have to chip in around here taking on extra gigs. Our income has been heavy impacted by the Partial Shutdown. So we are buckling up our trousers and bucking down to pick up paying deals. I get so tired of formatting and writing legal crap I can’t even think of formatting “The Boy Teacher and The Father Student” Our editor is rather brutal about Conversation formatting. But I assure you that we are having them as they are free and the only cost is to pay attention. Notes taken and after I relearn a bunch of this stuff I will have time to share.

A cool thing about my boy and I is that what we do for kicks are free. There is no need to cut back on free expenses. I feel guilty about the extra work time and that is our only cost. Oh but let me tell you about the cost on my organs. The boy tugs on my heartstrings to a point of ecstasy and pain

Saturday we went for a hike expecting our canyon to be so washed out that our homeless friends would all be gone. We met Marlene and her girl Marlene a dog like a Shitzu and Cockapoo mix. She had her camera going. There was an encampment high on the other side. Her photos were to show the other homeless who had to run that their friends were safe. She took our picture and we took hers. If I could I would donate some of my teeth for her. But a big grin and a rub on the boys head and scratching the dog and we went our own direction.

After we had thrown enough stones into the creek the boy turned to the cliff and said “I can do that”. Up he went. I encouraged for a bit but then had to turn away. That was not my climb it was his. I turned around and he was twenty feet high. Breathe deep dad. Now the journey down.

“Ok boy stick your ass out like you learned” “hands and feet buddy” “no time to be hugging” On cue it happens. I do the nuts thing for a sixty plus dude and climb up next to him and just under him. A fifteen foot fall here into the rocks below will kill you surely as a hundred foot drop. “ I see a purchase there and a hand hold shoulder to your right” “your choice son” “the worst is hesitation and doubt” “Dad tell me the inches to my foot stable” “No sweat just two more”. “Ok dad now back off I got this”. “A hand hold to your right elbow height” “ I got it” “butt out and hands and feet boy”

I Reckon We All Need Friends - Maybe The Best Are Our Children

Just a Little Help From Nature

My Boy actually took this photo
My Boy actually took this photo | Source

Life With A Book

And I dang well kill my self on the way down. I damn near have a heart attack on his way down. But all to the good we can tell the story and look for a higher cliff next time. Of course that only takes about 20 minutes. This one fairly clear hand over hand so we race to thirty feet up but the up is easy. “Ready, 1.2.3. go. The race is tough but I win. Important for the Alpha in the pack but Going down is often the hardest part.

Football catch in the rain. For a mom such a big deal, for us a welcome experience. We don’t do pitch and catch we do patterns and routes. We both ditch the shoes and go barefoot. The saw horses and planks are our defensive and offensive lines. The boy loves to dive and slide for balls. What a mess. 15 minutes later and I am as drenched as a dog having a bath. “I’m done boy lets go in.” “Let me play just ten minutes longer in the rain”. “Fair enough scout”.

Maybe just 55 years of playing out in the weather taught me that ahead of time you leave towels by the back door. I strip down and towel off. Wet clothes and shoes on the porch. First I go all naked in the rain for a pure shower and dry off again. Then I run to the tub and get the water hot. Pajamas never felt so good.

Into the house he runs until I look at him like he is the devil – “OOPs” and back he goes to take them off and towel off. “In the tub boy”. Nothing more cute that an eight year old running around all hyper and naked to jump in the tub. The dang giggles are infectious. Then it must be the routine. 15 minutes on the electronics and 15 on the hard book. He has to read so many pages for school. He figured it out finally, he gets 3rd grade readers and blows through 200 pages in a day. All good for grades. But he has the typical Asian mom and good enough is not good enough. So he works on a novel 15 minutes a day. “Rudford Cahill” is currently our main player. He has to do a capsulation each night for me. I do not trust Cahill one bit.

We Don't Do Rules

I wonder where folks got the notion that being cold and wet makes you sick.
I wonder where folks got the notion that being cold and wet makes you sick. | Source

I Ain't Got A Clue, Why Me?

Thank You

New day and the soccer and hacky sack and juggling is the rage. Yikes. I have a workout routine. What joke.

We just went outside to find the North Star, reflections of the moon and Orion. Of course that led to putting golf balls. Do not worry it is a three day weekend we will catch up on sleep. We, as is our proof, pinched each other to make sure all this is real and not a dream. Goofy as a 3 dollar bill is how we do it.

Last night was a joint effort in cooking “Hot Pot”. That is a Mongolian beef type dip your beef into boiling broth pull it out and savor. With a baked potato and some slaw with tomato is perfecto. Let the boy slice what he can. He can wield a kitchen knife like his jackknife – let’s carve!

We don’t do so well around here with a furlough and lost income. WE DO GREAT. I wonder what the price is for playing it the rain or snuggling up together with a good picture book. Gabe told me we would have fun living in tent if we had a light to read with. Little does he know that he will be doing that in the Grand Canyon come May.

The boy and I tried “good” and “ragged” on each other about negative proclivities. We did a deal of “you’re so fat”…. We were laughing so hard we fell on the rug holding our bellies.

Now just a few hours from now we will be “swing scything” I cotton not electric or gas powered land clearing. That thing is sharper than an angry mom’s tongue. But he has the rhythm and respect to yield it. Believe me we don’t tell mom. I turn on music and get into beat to the swing.

Now we lost about a third of our income cuz’ of our “partial shutdown”. Perhaps it has brought us more in love. Anyhow that is how we does it.

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    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      6 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you much Dana, it is always good to hear from you. I often question whether or not my happiness is just a facade. Like I am just faking it. But it comes down to the same answer every time. It doesn't matter.

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      Dana Tate 

      6 months ago from LOS ANGELES

      Losing income can be tough, I mean who can afford it? But leave it to you to find good in any situation. You keep it positive and I am so privileged to call you friend.

      God bless...

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      7 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Bill, I wonder why Orion is my two boy's and my favorite. I must say that the "dippers" are ok and we like the Plieties and of course our planets, who knows. What a gift -- not to have the heavenly bodies but to be in gratitude for them.

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      Eric Dierker 

      7 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Tim today is a holiday. Martin Luther King's day. A worthy man who to upon we should have this day.

      My shoulders are kind of hurting from yesterday. So I gave thanks for having shoulders.

      Have a great day buddy. It is just waiting for us to turn it into a party.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      7 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Dora you printed on my mind. Off I went to read more Wordsworth. Thank you.

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      William Kovacic 

      7 months ago from Pleasant Gap, PA

      Who couldn't love Orion on a clear, cold night? He was shining here in PA brightly last night - wind chill -23 degrees, but who cares? You've mixed so many wonderful thoughts together. You probably didn't expect me to focus on Orion. I love the open skies. Thanks for another great piece, Buddy!

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      Tim Truzy 

      7 months ago from U.S.A.

      Slam dunk the basketball and slam dunk the article, Eric I think you have a perfect score, buddy.

      Much respect,

      Tim

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      7 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Dora we are left to my own devices as he is off with "Grandma" you know we adopt them. I am owned by the moon. God has a grip on me. I try to struggle free -- to what end I say. We are so loved.

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      Dora Weithers 

      7 months ago from The Caribbean

      Eric, your title plus your exposition reminds me of these lines from William Wordsworth.:

      "The Child is father of the Man;

      And I could wish my days to be

      Bound each to each by natural piety."

      I learned this as a child; I see it now in your relationship with your child.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      7 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Tim my son is in a mentoring program after school. Mentored by our local SDSU basketball program. It is called "one on one". Yes it is done through basketball. Wow! Again we pay for what others get free because we pay. So this old war horse decided to pick up basketball at 61. I just played "21" with a 13 year old and kicked butt 21 to 5. (the detail that he scored the 21 is irrelevant" Oh well time for more ice ;-)

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      Eric Dierker 

      7 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      I Pamela thank you and I promise you would have a grin from ear to ear, so hard it may cramp up and stay that way. The boy is off at the Grandma's it is their special Vietnamese place. I am just headed out to do some Basketball.

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      Tim Truzy 

      7 months ago from U.S.A.

      You are always inspirational and give our hearts a good tug in the right direction, dear friend. The "dang giggles are infectious." Loved that line.

      Yes, we get by with a little help from our friends - right on the money, Eric.

      Thanks for brightening another Sunday.

      Much respect and admiration,

      Tim

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      Pamela Oglesby 

      7 months ago from Sunny Florida

      Eric, I would love to do the twist to Chubby Checker with you and your son! So much fun.

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      Eric Dierker 

      7 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Pamela I just got done doing one of my son's favorites. Twisting to Chubby Checkers. My old college roommate told me to get live broadcasting. As soon as he said it we started to laugh. I got no time not to play!

      Thanks for being such a good friend, think of me and giggle.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      7 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Sean I was just stripped down to my Tai Chi shorts doing battle with the soccer ball. Working on a back foot heal kick, spin and go right hard at the goal. Then dancing hard to some music soft shoe style. Shoes? Why wear shoes?

      I think I need to spend 50$ a month on a gym membership. I wonder what rich 61 year old's do.

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      Pamela Oglesby 

      7 months ago from Sunny Florida

      I hope the shudown ends soon. You sound like you are having a blast with your active son regardless. Love the stories. Sounds like fun.

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      Ioannis Arvanitis 

      7 months ago from Greece, Almyros

      No one can shut down your Great Heart my brother! Thank you for the hike...

      Gratitude!

      Sean

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      7 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      What great day Bill and hearing from you makes it even better -- is that possible I wonder. I will let you know if I have an answer.

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      Bill Holland 

      7 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Wishing you the best during the shutdown but honestly, it doesn't sound like you need it!

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      7 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      John I got new pajamas from a '''Filipino" gal tonight. She knows we go without much heat to cut the budget. Maybe somewhere we find love more valuable than anything else. Let us try. Meanwhile I am all comfy.

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      Eric Dierker 

      7 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Linda This night we were treated to a dinner. A supplier set us up for a big dinner out. Including desert. How much fun we had. We will now do our nightly prayers for all less fortunate in these times. The Prayer enriches like no dollar ever could.

      Just a moment of our prayer circle tells us all will be well. Holding hands and praying is a gift beyond our deservance.

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      John Hansen 

      7 months ago from Queensland Australia

      Eric, you are a fine example of finding the good in a difficult situation. We can overcome anything if our mind and attitude are in the right place and we can still focus on all the other things in our lives to be thankful for. time like this let us refocus on how important the so-called "little things" are.

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      Eric Dierker 

      7 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Lori he got mad at me for interfering with "outside alone" time. That is just the best. Love flows my home to yours. I quizzed him the difference between high and low. We don't get it.

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      Linda Lum 

      7 months ago from Washington State, USA

      Eric, despite the loss of income you are the richest man in the world.

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      Lori Colbo 

      7 months ago from Pacific Northwest

      You sure know how to take things in stride and my goodness, hearing you describe your son's climbing experience had me holding my breath. Blessings to you and your family and Lord willing, the gov't shutdown will end ASAP.

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      Eric Dierker 

      7 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Devika in a few minutes we will do all sad. Feel it, be it in order to move on. We do faces in the mirror. Today is sad. We will end up laughing again. Hey we have a lot to be sad about. But why?

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      Devika Primić 

      7 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Outdoors fun and most welcoming to play a bit in the rain. You share great experiences and most importantly great lessons.

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