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The Greatest Investment You Will Ever Make: A Moment With Bill Reflection

Updated on July 25, 2013

SEEKING RICHES

The greatest good you can do for another is not just to share your riches but to reveal to him his own.

Benjamin Disraeli

I have nothing against rich people. I know that if you have read some of my other articles you might think that I have this bubbling cauldron of hatred for the rich, but that simply is not the case. What I have is a strong distaste for excess and that is quite a different kettle of fish.

Bev and I stopped at Burger King this past weekend, and after we had gotten our food (and I use the word “food” loosely) we both spotted a Hummer parked in the parking lot. They say a picture is worth a thousand words but in that situation there was a novel waiting to be written. The irony was oozing from the scene laid out before us, as the owners of that $100,000 vehicle decided to save a little on food for that day by dining at Burger King.

I could write an article asking “what is the point” but I’ll wait for another day to do that, and I will wait until another day to point out the incredible ego necessary to buy a vehicle that serves no practical purpose other than to scream to the masses that you have money and they don’t.

No, that is not my purpose today.

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SO WHAT IS YOUR PURPOSE, BILL?

My folks wanted me to go to college so I could have a better life than they had. At the time that they said that I understood them to mean economically, and at the time it made a certain amount of sense. It was the 1960’s at the time, and businesses ruled and consumers drooled, and if you were going to make money then you needed to learn how to make money, so off to school I went.

And I hated it! No, I didn’t hate college. Man alive, I loved college and all the freedom of being on my own. I might have loved it a bit too much, but again, that’s the subject of a future article. No, what I hated were the business classes and the macroeconomics and microeconomics and supply and demand and on and on and on, and I hated it so much that I got two degrees, one in Marketing and one in Economics, and finally by God I was ready to conquer the business world and finally…finally….have a better life than my parents.

So I played the game. Before I was out of college I bought my first property, and over the years I owned twelve different homes, and over the years I owned and operated three businesses, and I had six-figure incomes and bought the toys, baby, because you gotta have toys, and, well, dad was dead so he never saw his son the big businessman, but mom was alive and proud and I was…..missing something.

I could feel it in my gut….a hollowness….something important was missing, but I couldn’t figure out what that was…if it had a price tag on it then I could buy it, and yet I didn’t own it, so ergo it must not have a price tag, and how the hell was I supposed to buy that all-important commodity if I didn’t know what it was or what it cost.

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THE COST CAME

Oh yes, it did indeed have a cost. It damn near cost me my life.

November 16, 2006, I almost died. Mr. Businessman had hit a personal wall. Mr. Businessman had chased his tail for so long that he collapsed from the effort, empty of the nourishment he so desperately sought for so many years. The hospital patched me up, then off I went to treatment for an illness that was eating me alive from the inside out, and after a month I emerged completely confused.

Everything I believed to be true prior to November 16, 2006 had all been a lie.

My parents were wrong. A “better life” could not be found in my bank statements. A “better life” could not be measured by the size of my toys or the dividends from my investments.

The chase had all been a waste of time, for what I needed so badly could not be purchased, could not be bartered and could not be negotiated.

The key to happiness....love, baby, love

More love coming your way

THE GREATEST INVESTMENT

I needed to learn to love myself.

It’s interesting, isn’t it? My parents had a good life. They had a strong marriage, lived simply and within their means, were respected by many and were honorable people, and yet they wanted me to have a “better life.”

My parents understood the value of hard work, their word was as good as gold and they always reached out to help those in need, and yet they wanted me to have a “better life.”

My parents, evidently, had no idea what they had, but today I know very well….they had it all.

Perhaps that is why I think Hummers are such a silly statement. They measure nothing of importance, not the size of the man’s penis or the size of his character. They are simply a blatant statement that he has money and by extension he is important, but nowhere in the Hummer owner’s manual does it say anything about Hummers guaranteeing that you will love yourself if you drive one, and that is the only guarantee that I need to be happy in this life.

I need to love myself, and once I have mastered that lesson I can then love others.

And if I have those two things I will be the richest man on Earth.

So, the greatest investment that you can make? Invest in yourselves. Invest in your character and invest in the depth of your feelings. Become a compassionate human being and become a passionate human being. Learn empathy and learn to be multi-layered, and learn that the true wealth of life is measured in how much of yourself you give to others and not how much of others you take for yourself.

The most important thing in life, namely love, has no price tag. It is not subject to inflation or deflation and it is safe from the vagaries of the marketplace. It is the rarest of rare, a glimmering gem that is timeless and cannot be devalued, and if your personal storeroom is lined with love then you will never be wanting in this life.

Sorry Mom….Sorry Dad…..the “better life” cannot be bought or sold, and it cannot be found in college textbooks or business manuals….it exists in each of us at birth and awaits only our active participation.

2013 William D. Holland (aka billybuc)

“Helping writers to spread their wings and fly.”

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      Michael-Milec 3 years ago

      Hello Bill,

      While listening to your speach on " LOVE " before anything else, it's the most important subject of the univers; love isn't mere words.

      " if I have to tell you that I love you, my love toward you already failed ."

      Up and awesome

      Blessings

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      CarlySullens 3 years ago from St. Louis, Missouri

      Good morning Bill. Another enlightening post and very insightful. I like pulling my favorite quote from your writings, today:

      "Perhaps that is why I think Hummers are such a silly statement. They measure nothing of importance, not the size of the man’s penis or the size of his character. "

      This had me laughing. I do not like Hummers either. I think people who drive cars like Hummers should pay more taxes. There is no need to have a car that size, taking all the natural resources to go to the store or Burger King.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thanks Carly! I should probably save my ire on something much more important, but Hummers really piss me off. LOL Oh well, I never claimed to be perfect. :)

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Blessings to you Michael, and thank you! Yes, love is the most important thing in the universe; now we have to try and convince several billion people of that fact. :) Lot of work ahead my friend....let us go forth and spread love.

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      Janine Huldie 3 years ago from New York, New York

      I was a business major right out of high school and was reading the beginning about micro and macro economics and nodding my head, because those classes were truly so damn boring and add accounting 101 and now you know why I never did survive in the business world. Just wasn't for me. I couldn't agree more that you do need to love yourself and no college class or textbook can teach that one. I think that comes with years of experience and age, but you totally nailed this one on the head for what it is worth. Thanks Bill and hoping you are having a wonderful Thursday now!

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      Hawaiian Odysseus 3 years ago from Southeast Washington state

      Bill, I'm that white stuff on a dandelion on a windy day...

      ...and I just got blown away...

      Wow! All at once, what a touching, moving, and memorable personal essay. I love the way you opened this beautiful hub with a vignette of you and Bev going to Burger King and seeing that Hummer. Irony and images rush to this reader's mind.

      And then, like a neighborhood developer, you introduce the real life drama of your collegiate experience, the rise to riches, and the eventual crash and burn.

      Then, the phoenix emerges from the near-death ashes, arriving full circle at the realization that your parents' universal wish for their son to have a better life was (again, ironically) the very life they were living ...

      Congratulations, Bill! Sadly, so many people go to their literal death or, worse yet, the preceding figurative death of lying in a nursing home bed, having missed the lesson you learned.

      That man with the hummer...God bless him with a wake-up call someday so he can truly begin to enjoy life with the freedom of understanding and accepting this cosmic truth:

      When it's time to go, you can't take none of it with you.

      The wealth we aspire to take with us, my friend, is the peace of knowing we came to love ourselves so that we could genuinely love others so that we could truly appreciate this short and memorable season here on earth.

      I'm sharing this, my friend, and in the sharing, I hope someone driving a Hummer gets to read this.

      Aloha, my friend!

      Joe

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      Jackie Lynnley 3 years ago from The Beautiful South

      It is what you have in life that matters, which has nothing to do with material goods. You have pointed that out well. Our parents really were so rich. ^&-

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      Liz Davis 3 years ago from Hudson, FL

      Have you read the book "The Millionaire Next Door"? This reminded me of it. Many immigrants who came to the US worked hard and lived within their means. As a result, they had healthy bank accounts that had plenty of cash "just in case". But many of these immigrants wanted "more" for their children--college educations, well-paid professions, and many of the material benefits that go along with these things. But these professions carry demands to buy expensive cars, bigger homes, and the other rich-people perks (because most would question the skills of a surgeon who lives in blue-collar neighborhood and drives a three-year-old Honda Civic). So they become slaves to their lenders. There are many who are your age, making a six or seven-figure income, yet there's no end in sight. After reading that book, I look at those who drive expensive cars and realize it's possible that they're worse off financially than I am! Go figure. I don't think that previous generations understood the negative impact of a consumerist lifestyle or the benefits of going without.

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      Elizabeth Parker 3 years ago from Las Vegas, NV

      So incredibly true, Bill. Society puts so much emphasis on 'the more, the better' but I just don't see that as being true. I've found that those who live simply are just as happy as those who have all of the toys...maybe even more so. I'm glad that you have learned to invest in yourself-it truly is a gift for which you seemed to have mastered. Another wonderfully, inspirational hub.

      ~Thanks! Liz

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      Connie Smith 3 years ago from Southern Tier New York State

      Billy, my friend, we must have had the same parents! My Dad was so disappointed when I nixed the college idea. I just couldn't wait to get out into the world and experience life! School had been a giant bore to me, and the last thing I wanted was 4 more years.

      My goal is to have enough to live comfortably and quietly out here in the peacefulness of my beloved woods. The Earth is my teacher on a daily basis ;) Pearl

      Voted Up+++

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      Maggie Bennett 3 years ago from New York

      Voted this Up and Beautiful! Somewhere along my journey I got the same answers as you.

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      Annette Hendley 3 years ago from London, United Kingdom

      How true. You have such a special way of writing that I never get bored reading your stuff.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Janine, I forgot about the accounting classes...talk about a cure for insomnia. LOL Thank you for stopping by; I always love your comments.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Jackie, they were rich and I wonder if they even knew it. :) I don't think my dad would be happy with today's world.

      Thank you as always!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Lizzy, I have not read it but you can bet I'm going to, and your point is well taken...the consumerist lifestyle is self-perpetuating and a trap....one I am happy to report I am not stuck in.

      Great comment my Wonder...thank you!

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      carol stanley 3 years ago from Arizona

      Though I don't believe in conspicuous consumption..those who work hard and want the strappings that make them feel good..To me that is okay. However as I have said before money does not buy love, but it buys a lot of romance. We spend money on things we do and not adornments and showy things. For example we play pickleball and wanted really good racquets which caused less pain on the elbow and works..We wanted a boat so we bought a very old boat....I think it is about enjoying life and some things require equipment..We have a very modest house and I keep planning to paint and do some things but get caught up in other more important things...I do remember wanting more clothes so I bought a sewing machine and made them...Well to stop my morning rambling...Great expression here and I so agree with you,,,Some people cannot stop spending and showy stuff..I guess it is an ego affair.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you so much Liz. It's been a tough road with tough lessons, but the end result is all that matters. Have a great day my friend.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Pearl, I love your attitude...the Earth is my teacher....that says so much and I applaud you for realizing it. Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Maggie, then you are rich beyond words...I am happy for you, and for me. :) Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Annette, that is high praise and I thank you for it. Blessings to you always.

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      Hendrika 3 years ago from Pretoria, South Africa

      I think love is the most illusive of all. You never think that you have to love yourself, that is selfish, not? Yet it is true that unless you love yourself you cannot love others.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Joe, you never disappoint. I am guessing that you have come to some great realizations during those walks of yours. Freeing the mind while the legs do the work, traveling down the roads and inspecting life up close and personal....the real truths are within and always have been...we just have to be willing to learn them.

      Peace to you my friend and have a great walk today.

      Aloha Joe

      bill

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      Mary Craig 3 years ago from New York

      Your closing statement about love "...it exists in each of us at birth and awaits only our active participation." IS life! Regardless of whether we have wealth or not we need to give love and to get love. (The wealthy love too Bill, honest.) So with or without the window dressing its love!

      The difference is in the living. If you happen to be wealthy, God bless you, but you have to know how to love with or without money. This hub so fits my motto "live and love". Loved this hub.

      Voted up, useful, and interesting.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Mary, it does indeed fit your motto and I "love it." :) Thank you as always....now let's go out and spread some love around today.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Carol, I have never had a problem with buying things in moderation and things we need.....if someone could please explain how buying a Hummer is responsible then I'm willing to listen. LOL

      Thank you and quite frankly I would love to buy an old boat some day. :) I love your lifestyle.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Henrika, many people are raised to believe that loving ourselves is selfish..I do not believe it for a second. I think it is necessary. :) Thanks for the visit.

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      livingsta 3 years ago from United Kingdom

      :-) Loved reading this hub. Thank you for writing on this important topic and sharing this with us.

      Smiles and blessings to you Bill!

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      Shauna L Bowling 3 years ago from Central Florida

      Some say love can be bought. That couldn't be farther from the truth. Love comes from within and it begins with each of us. If we can't or don't love ourselves, we have a snowball's chance in Hell of loving others. You can't learn it. It is in each of us. All we have to do is nurture it and the field of love will grow.

      Great hub, my friend.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Dahlia, it is always my pleasure. Thank you, and blessings and a hug are heading your way.

      bill

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sha, great comment....you can't learn love....no duh! I love what you said about nurturing it...perfect!

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      Ruchira 3 years ago from United States

      Gosh...I had outlined a blog with the same kinda theme, Bill :)

      Biggest investment is ourself!

      Beautiful summary!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Ruchira, great minds think alike. :) Thank you and I have no doubt you do this.

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      Abby Campbell 3 years ago from Charlotte, North Carolina

      AWESOME & BEAUTIFUL hub, Bill. Thank you! I so enjoyed reading this hub (as I do all of your hubs). They are always so thought provoking. I do hope that it reaches into the heart and soul of every one of your readers. :-)

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      Marlene Bertrand 3 years ago from Northern California, USA

      I enjoyed reading this. It's interesting that you mention hummers. One of the things I use to say was that I wish I had enough money to buy a hummer (a totally useless vehicle for urban living) and then give the hummer away to charity. They could sell it for funds or use it how they needed. People said I was silly for spending that amount of money just to give it away. They didn't get the full meaning of the gesture. The message was that if I had that much money, I wouldn't need it and so I would share the wealth. A better life is truly the simple life.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Abby, so do I. With the topic you write about, this hub fits perfectly...caring enough about ourselves that we will take steps to be healthier...love thyself. :) Thank you and I hope you are having a wonderful week.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Marlene, it's good to have you back with us on a regular basis. You have been missed and I love the meaning of your gesture. Here's hoping that one day you will be able to do exactly that.

      Thank you as always for the visit and comment.

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      Sally Gulbrandsen 3 years ago from Norfolk

      My greatest freedom came from a time when I found myself with just two suitcases filled with my worldly possessions. Truth is, we don't need things to make you us fulfilled. I loath excess especially when so many have so little. How strange it seems to me, that each generation seems to try to outdo the previous one in an effort 'to make sure their children have a good future'. Teaching them the value of kindness and caring for others is perhaps far more important than the 'great education' or the designer sneakers. Thanks Billy, another thought provoking Hub.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sally, thanks for sharing about your personal experience....those who have been down and out understand this lesson much more than those with everything they could ever want or need. :) I appreciate you sharing.

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      W1totalk 3 years ago

      This is an awesome article. I have not had the high life as of yet but I would like to be close internal peace. Thank you billybuc.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you W1...I appreciate you stopping by and I wish you luck as you seek internal peace.

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      drbj and sherry 3 years ago from south Florida

      As you so wisely pointed out, Bill, 'the most important thing in life is love.' Amen!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Amen indeed, drbj....and I "love it." :) Thank you; I hope this finds you well and happy my friend.

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      Gail Meyers 3 years ago from United States

      This story sounds hauntingly familiar, Bill. Excellent hub and great reminder to all of us. Voted up and beautiful.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Gail, I suspect it is familiar to a good many people. :) Thanks for the visit and have a great evening.

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      TIMETRAVELER2 3 years ago

      Bill: I think you and I grew up at a time when the values your parents expressed were commonplace, and you are so right...they had it all and just did not know it. I think if my folks could see what has become of the world today, they simply would not believe it...but they would believe that what they had was everything, and that what we have is nothing. Voted up.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Time, it's so funny you said that. I was just talking to Bev about that, and how my dad would be disgusted by society today....they had it all but felt they were missing something and wanted me to have that missing something. So strange. :)

      Thanks for your reflections and visit.

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      Julie Cao 3 years ago from Windsor, Ontario

      Thank you for a well-written account of your life reflection. Many good advise from how to live a happy life. I especially like the one " Invest in yourselves. Invest in your character and invest in the depth of your feelings. Become a compassionate human being and become a passionate human being.'.

      And also much like you, I was in business major for the past three years but had nver liked it, but I dont know the reason. Now I know why.

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 3 years ago from Southern Illinois

      Great hub Bill. Loving yourself is the key to happiness. Thank you. You always make me think deeper...

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Alwaysontheway, it was nice of you to visit and leave a comment. I'm sure the business world suits some people perfectly. I'm just not one of those people, and apparently neither are you.

      Thank you for the visit and have a wonderful weekend in China.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Ruby, the comments I receive always make me think deeper, so it's a good trade. :) Thank you and have a great Friday.

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Phenomenal hub here from the very start to the very best ending ... love! Love is truly the answer to all, so simple but why do people make it so hard? Well, we all have to go through that searching in this life, and I pray all do find what you have found!

      Thanks for this powerful share here of your life experiences and trials, which ultimately brought you to what is most important in this life, learning to love yourself, and then loving others is so very easy.

      Hugs and much love to you and yours from southern USA,

      Faith Reaper

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      Cat 3 years ago from New York

      Billy,

      Wow... I think this might be my favorite?!? Okay, I think every good parent wants their child to have more, have better... but what version of that are we referring to? For me, I want my children to have less heartache and heartbreak. They say money can't make you happy, but I know not having enough of it can make you sad! lol... I want my kids to build a situation in which they have what they need, but I worry more about their hearts, which filling and keeping from breaking is the biggest need of all. Okay, so here it is; I love! I love people, I love everyone. I love despite flaws and I love because of them. One thing I can't figure out and have struggled with my whole life is how to love myself. How do you get to the point when you know you're a good person, yet you can't find it in your heart to love yourself? This is the question I have been searching for Billy. You might need to have your morning coffee before addressing this one... it's a tough nut to crack :D

      Have a wonderful day!

      Cat

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      Martin Kloess 3 years ago from San Francisco

      Life... it's not boring. Thank you for sharing a part of yourself.

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      Shiela Mae Parreno 3 years ago from Davao City, Philippines

      I feel so rich right now thanks to this beautiful article Sir Bill..a moment ago i felt so wanting..bills,expenses,etc. They'll all pass,and my spirits don't have to go with them..this,i realized after reading this..thanks!

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      Patricia Scott 3 years ago from sunny Florida

      The richness of your words hopefully will be spread far and wide Bill. Too many miss the essence of the good life chasing after that which brings no peace or joy or contentment.

      Angels are on the way along with hugs and all...ps :)

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 3 years ago from The Caribbean

      I applaud your wisdom--for your discovery of what "the better life" means; your honesty--for confessing your prior delusions; your thoughtfulness--in sharing for the interest of others. Great read to start my day! Thank you.

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      Jo Alexis-Hagues 3 years ago from Bedfordshire, U.K

      Bill, beautifully said!!... Isn't it ironic? The things some people will do for money, only to find when they get it, it doesn't necessarily make them happy. Money is a tool, it can be used for good or ill. It can make our lives easier but often, the most pleasure seems to come from the journey to achieve wealth. Unfortunately, in the rush to possess the dream we often miss it. Great lesson for today. Your parents were blessed; but parents will always want what they perceive to be the best for their children, a good education and a step on the career ladder, however, I'm sure they would be so very proud of you right now.

      My best as always.

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      Eiddwen 3 years ago from Wales

      A “better life” could not be found in my bank statements. A “better life” could not be measured by the size of my toys or the dividends from my investments.

      The chase had all been a waste of time, for what I needed so badly could not be purchased, could not be bartered and could not be negotiated

      Such great words froma wonderful writer. As you yet again share another true and honest hub I vote up and feel inspired as I am learning from your words and that hub you inspired me to write will be here very soon. take care my very dear friend Billy.

      Enjoy your day.

      Eddy.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Faith, it is such an easy answer to all that ails a person, and yet it seems to take some so long to realize it...love yourself as your neighbor....where have we heard those words before? LOL

      Thank you dear lady. Blessings to you always.

      bill

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Cat, it is not only a tough nut to crack but one I don't have an answer to. For me it was the realization that I was going to die if I didn't change....and I didn't want to die....so I forgave myself for whatever it was I despised.....I can't answer for you. My telling you that you are lovable solves nothing....you have to realize it yourself, and I hope you do, one day soon my friend.

      blessings and a hug coming your way

      bill

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Martin, no, not boring at all. :) Thank you very much.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      shiela, what a lovely comment. Thank you for such wonderful words, and I hope you have a wonderful weekend.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      PS, I always feel better about my day knowing that your angels are on their way. Thank you my friend and have a great Friday.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Dora, wow, thank you! Honesty is the only way for me to find the truths I need to live by...and so I try to be honest and share with others the gifts I have found. Blessings to you my friend.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Jo and yes, it is ironic. I think my parents would be proud today....I guess I'll find out soon enough. :) Have a wonderful day my friend.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Ahh, Eddy, I love to hear that. I love it when another writer inspires me, or when I inspire them....what a great community we live in my friend.

      Thank you and I hope your weekend is filled with dreams come true.

      love,

      billy

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      Cat 3 years ago from New York

      Billy, Well what do you mean you don't have the answer? I might as well go back to bed then! lol... I'm just kidding. I appreciate your advice and I think it's less a matter about loving myself as it is accepting who I am. That's not such a bad person... really. See, I'm working on it as we speak :D

      Thanks Billy,

      Hugs to you and have a wonderful day!

      Cat

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Cat, that was a major step in the right direction. :) I'm going to have a great day and I wish the same for you, Cat.

      bill

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      Karen Szklany Gault 3 years ago from New England

      Hi Bill,

      Great article. I think more people of the present adult generation is finding out that living a better life than our parents means loving ourselves enough to not need everything out there that marketers says we should think we need. It means living with mindfulness, living lives that work to heal the earth. It isn't our parents' world, it is ours,...no, it is our childrens' world....and in many ways, our children can lead us to what is most important.

      Isn't it amazing to observe that those who give love freely are happy...and have lots of love in their lives? They thrive, and it doesn't matter what the number in their bank account is...it matters that we are blessed by their existence. :0)

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Seafarer, I gotta tell ya, you just said it all so perfectly that I am left with nothing else to say. Instead I'll just stand here and applaud that perfect comment. :) Thank you!

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      Karen Silverman 3 years ago

      I'm guessing you might have an idea of how timely this is in my life at the moment? Self love IS happiness, you and i both found that out the hard way. Buuuut - at least we learned. 'Missing something' was the story of my young life - it's a very lonely place to be - i understand! Your parents did have it all - AND - they had YOU! SUPER JACKPOT!

      if it's even possible - this could be my Bill-bro-FAV!

      sharing

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      LOL....Bill-bro-FAV....Leslie, I love you! Enough said. Have a great weekend.

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      CrisSp 3 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      Warren Buffet said: "Wall Street is the only place that people ride to in a Rolls Royce to get advice from those who take the subway." - I do take the subway. :)

      Okay, I was just trying to break the ice there but seriously Bill, I love the fact that I am reading something personal yet universal in this hub-love. From the Burger King experience to other forms of abundance some unnecessary or maybe greed and arrogance-we see and experience these everywhere now.

      Have you heard the song "Price Tag" by Jessie J Price? Lyric goes: " It's not about the money, money, money. We don't need your money, money, money. We just wanna make the world dance Forget about the price tag."---good song, very catchy and oh, so true in the world we now live in.

      Great hub as always. Live. Laugh. Love. ~

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      Michele Travis 3 years ago from U.S.A. Ohio

      Thank you for writing this hub. I enjoyed it very much.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      My pleasure, Michele, and thank you!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Cris, I love it....we just wanna make the world dance. Love that line and thanks for sharing it.

      And of course, thank you for your loyalty and friendship.

      Have a wonderful weekend up north or in the skies.

      love from Oly

      bill

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      Linda Crampton 3 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      I love the idea of love as a glittering gem, Bill! There is a great deal of wisdom in this hub, as well as excellent advice. Thank you.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Informative, and interesting on this topic a useful and a well researched hub,

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Alicia....I love the idea of love. :)

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you DDE...have a wonderful weekend.

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      Dianna Mendez 3 years ago

      How true, you must love youself first before you can understand and extend love to others. They are the two greatest investments in life one can make. It is within us and does needs activation. Great reflections.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Dianna! It's always nice to have you visit and I appreciate it very much. Have a great Sunday!

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      Victor W. Kwok 3 years ago from Hawaii

      Thanks for another amazing and engaging hub!

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      Richard Bivins 3 years ago from Charleston, SC

      Funny how some of us were raised to believe we are measured by the things we own and possess when in reality we are measured by what we give and give away.

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      Sparklea 3 years ago from Upstate New York

      Hi Billy buc! I just love this hub about LOVE!

      I don't think I'll ever be able to visit a Burger King without looking for a Hummer!

      You are so correct about people buying material things to scream at the masses that they have money. However, I surmise many of them are not happy. Give me my little home, my husband and our four wonderful cats any day over buying a hummer!

      Speaking of cats, I listened to your video and LOVED Lucy the cat meowing, and you mentioning your animals. I have not seen all your videos, but I would love it if you had the cat on your lap in one of them. I love animals so much.

      You hit the nail on the head saying there is nothing more important than love, and bringing it to our attention we should spend more time concentrating on love rather than on buying possessions.

      You gave a great testimony of your life and the way you feel today - and the hard road you have survived. You are such a role model to your readers, I consider you one of the major champs of Hub Pages.

      I am behind as usual in reading hubs, but I have printed out more of your writing advice and I WILL be back to comment. I like to read your printed hubs at Barnes & Noble or during morning coffee.

      LOVED your quote by Thoreau, 'there is no remedy for love but to love more.' Also your suggestion that if you truly love someone look them in the eyes - so beautiful you and Beverly saying "I love you" to each other.

      Oh! KUDOS to your call on people writing, "Love ya!" on Facebook, and "see ya!" I think it is Dr. Laura who commented once that people on Facebook are screaming 'SEE ME'. It's true.

      I do not consider all these people on FB as 'friends'. I feel 100 per cent more comfortable on Hub Pages as we all share one passion: writing. I believe many on Facebook are plastic people. My opinion only.

      Thank you, always, for the blessing you are to so very many readers, especially me.

      You are amazing! Blessings, Sparklea :)

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      Deb Hirt 3 years ago from Stillwater, OK

      The biggest eye opener in this world is the truth. I found out a couple of days ago, that a woman I work with was homeless with her child back in November. I told her that I wish I had known, for I could have done something about that. Not only that, she has an INCREDIBLE voice. A neighbor of hers, who cannot sing went on a talent show and she could not sing like my friend. I told her that I have so much faith in her, that I will pay for her to get to that audition. You would have to hear her sing, Billy, and I have faith in her. I have enough faith to lay down my money where my mouth is.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      It's always a pleasure, vkwok...thank you!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      True words Richard! Thanks for stopping by and for the following.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Lea, I always smile when I see that you have dropped by. What I love most about your comments, other than the fact that I know they are honest and from the heart, is the fact that it is obvious you have actually read them. Your comments always break the hub down into segments and cover them all.

      I'm so happy you liked the videos. Our camera is broken so I haven't done a video in months, but I do enjoy doing them. It gives my readers a chance to connect with me on a more personal level and I think that is important.

      I hope you are well my friend, and you are a friend indeed.

      blessings always

      bill

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Deb, it is amazing what we don't know about the people around us. Bravo for stepping up and offering help. I love your heart and spirit.

      Thank you for bringing a smile to my face on this Sunday.

      blessings always

      bill

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      Sparklea 3 years ago from Upstate New York

      Billybuc; you are one special person. You always respond promptly to comments as well as, send comments right away to those who are following you. I truly want to eventually read ALL your hubs. There are so many wonderful people on this site that I want to read and comment but the clock does not allow. I've said many times that it's too bad we were created to need sleep because that would give us an extra eight hours in our days.

      I will return to read more of your hubs, you can count on that.

      God bless you, Sparklea ...and thank you for your lovely note. :)

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Lea, I'm still looking for the formula that would allow me to exist without sleeping. Imagine the writing I could get done if I didn't need that darned seven hours of sleep. LOL

      It's so good to see you. Take care of yourself and thank you always.

      blessings to you and yours

      bill

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      Glimmer Twin Fan 3 years ago

      Well, I started investing in me and my daughter when I got pregnant with her and we have never regretted it. No we don't have my 2nd income, but we do have wonderful memories. This hub is great advice for anyone. As my mom always used to say when my brother & I were growing up, we may not have the biggest house on the block or the fanciest car, but we are happy and manage to have nice vacations and family time.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Glimmer, I love that you have made that investment in your daughter....and it will pay huge dividends for years to come, and that is a great investment by anyone's standards. Well done my friend. You are definitely back now aren't you? This is like three days in a row I've seen you here and I'm appreciative.

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