The High Self-monitors And The Low Self-monitors
Self Monitoring: High self-monitors and Low Self-monitors
Self-monitoring is the capability of shaping and mould up of oneself to the required situation. So it can be called a mini-transformation of oneself to particularly suited condition which favors in every means. It is usually called as a personality trait which determines alteration of one’s behavior so that those changes could somehow benefit him. It is voluntary unlike the Stimuli-Response process or reflex action. To simplify this even more, here is one simple example of self-monitoring: Before flying abroad i.e. to Spain where you might have to communicate with Spanish countrymen, if you learn some very commonly used Spanish words such as “Yes”, “No”, “Thanks”, “Sorry” and “My name is” etc, they might be very helpful to you in various occasions. Here you fully know that learning few words won’t come handy to a large extent, yet you learn them so that they might just create your good impression to the foreign countrymen. This is an example of self-monitoring as well as impression management simultaneously.
So, we learn that Self-monitoring is actually a mental capability which uses human reasoning or simply rationality with conscience to bring about some suitable behavior which serves the purpose of being practically useful. A baby can’t self-monitor during his/her infancy, however by growing age they develop a certain tendency and favorable approach which suits them. For instance, if a baby wants to display his anger, irritation and even their urge to eat something, they would simply cry out loud so his mother could realize that he’s bothered by something and might as well help him overcome the problem. This is because children at their small age are not capable to self-monitor, yet they adopt other convenient ways to counter their issues (such as crying off course). On the other hand, grownups are careful in their way of dealing with things. If they are angry, they shout and yell at people because it’s their way of expressing anger. However if they are angry at their boss, they would never scream at him knowing that consequences would be troublesome. This is another example of self-monitoring in which the employee uses his reasoning to determine which attitude he should adopt towards his boss. (Who may fire him instantly he doesn’t behaves properly with him)
Let’s jump to the heart of discussion. There are two types of self-monitors, namely the high-self monitors and the low self-monitors. Both the traits are opposite to one another by every mean. They are scales of determining whether a person is moody and straight-forward or sensible and humble. ( Well, it’s only an apparent feature which means it may not totally defines one’s character and type of personality as it’s mostly influenced by surroundings)
High self-monitors are those lads who are watchful of their actions and they tend to think a lot before doing anything. This means they consider every possible consequences and results which may emerge from their move. As a result of their thorough contemplation they manage to escape from hurting sentiments of people and are affirmed enough that their actions would hardly disturb or offend anyone. In a simplified manner, high self-monitors are those who choose to act in a certain appropriate manner in which they are very vigilant not to hurt anyone’s feelings or create bad impression either merely to maintain their good image and reputation or because they consider it’s morally and ethically inappropriate to be rough with anyone.
On the other hand, low self-monitors are those who do not bother to consider any outcome of their words or actions. They say whatever their gut makes them say, even if it is distasteful, unpleasant and insulting. Low self-monitors argue that by adopting such behavior they imply a sense of truthfulness and honesty but their behavior is considered as rude and inappropriate because they speak truth which is harsh most of the time and hardly easy to digest for almost everyone except for those who are strong enough to accept their mistakes and flaws.
SO YES! Welcome to the prevalent social perspective, which considers a high-self monitor as a sensible person and low-self monitor as a rude person. Society as a whole is uneasy with the low-self monitors, believing their approach of interaction always proves to be bothersome. Sensitive people are highly vulnerable to low-self monitors as they lack the tendency of dealing with rough comments (or the truth according to low self-monitors themselves), this way they are very susceptible to the inevitably impolite strike by low-self monitors.
Low self-monitors compel and provoke a strong argument and display a remarkable sense of strength in telling others in how and why they are right in what they say. They may talk in a complete inappropriate tone and disregard any kind of respect for one another because their sole theme and motto is not to portray a polite attitude but to put up a fight to show their strength and determination of their strong belief in something. Arguments with low self-monitors mostly result in a pointless fight where both parties may disappoint each other by disagreeing with one another and showing an utter disrespect for other’s opinions.
However while talking about high self-monitors all the aspects differ. High self-monitors are meticulous in their regard of dealings. They make sure they don’t intentionally disappoint someone. They have greater ability of coping up with the requirements of their environment. They train themselves in a manner that they avoid many contradictions and conflicts with people around them. When someone enters into an argument with a high self-monitor they realize that even if they don’t seem to share or exchange mutual views, the person with a high self-monitoring trait was very polite and he fully respected every contradictory view which might otherwise could have been a root of conflict with a low self-monitor.
Consequently, High self-monitors are more socially interactive then low self-monitors. Meanwhile, it is very convenient to deal with a high self-monitor who are very less likely to come up with an inappropriate response. They are mature grownups who are good to everyone and are sensible enough to walk away from any conflict to avoid any hurdle on their path. This way they are able to minimize all types of hindrances coming in their way. This amend of high self-monitors raise them up to the high ranks in different fields. Low self-monitors might call the high self-monitors as fake, two-faced and ‘puppets of circumstances’. On contrary, the high self-monitors call the low self-monitors as overly straightforward people which makes them ill-natured and rude to everyone around them.
Nevertheless, the debate of who is right and who is wrong continues, but it is important to note that both types of self-monitoring are basically the personality traits which vary from one person to another. It is difficult to judge who is making the right use of their intellect because both the types have pros and cons and this is how it is a good topic giving an instant initiative to ever-lasting debate.