Well Being: Gratefulness for the Life You Have Been Given
Enjoy Your Days Every Day
Sometimes, this life we have been given can seem like one giant aggravation!! In the past week, too many things have either broke, cracked or torn or simply disintegrated for me to even count. One of these things happens to be my shoulder. Rotator cuff injuries are no joke. They can be as serious as having no power in your arm to not even being able to lift a cup of coffee. Now I injured both shoulders at different times in the past ten years and two days ago re-injured the left shoulder for the second time in five years. The thought occurred to me that I am carrying way too much weight on my shoulders (figurtively) and they are (literally) tearing apart. I'm pretty good at enjoying whatever comes my way, but I'm also very good at stressing myself out over things I absolutely cannot control. The very real incapacitation of my left arm made me completely stop and evaluate the important things in my life and what I want to get done. At one point I couldn't even type. I am quite happy to say my shoulder is on the mend using special exercises from the last episode.
There's no reason not to enjoy your life, wherever it may take you. I actually enjoyed my forced rest. That intense shoulder pain will teach you to either be buried by your situation or you will learn very quickly how to cope. I could not bend over at the waist to pick something up because of how out of line my shoulder was. My body couldn't do anymore, so I just decided to relinquish my ambitions and just accept the situation. I put ice on my shoulder while I just sat and thought about my favorite place (any beach) and just imagined digging my toes into the warm sand. I immediately could feel myself smiling from the inside out. Your mind is really all you have along with your good health. Nurture your mind and take care of your happiness. It's not a luxury, it's a necessity. Sometimes a mini mind vacation is a lifesaver.
There is a well known story about a buddhist monk who was standing on precipice of a cliff, reaching out to get a perfectly ripe fruit. Well as bad luck would have it, he slipped and started to fall from this very high cliff. He decided all at once that even though there was no way he was going to survive the fall, he gave in to this terrifying moment and chose to focus on the fruit instead. One of the last things he did was pop that fruit right into his mouth! Now buddhist monks have very highly developed and disciplined minds, but if we can take anything from this story it is this: pay attention to the positive part of the moment you are in, because it can all be taken away in an instant!!! I'll bet you that right before he died he was smiling. Insane? Maybe. Or, maybe there is a really good lesson to learn here.
Send Happiness, Not Low Expectations
We are very powerful beings. Just the act of a positive thought can transform lives as can a horrible thought. Contrary to what you may think, people just don't do things. There is always a thought that precedes an action. Always. With that in mind, guard and monitor your thoughts like the priceless jewels they are. Don't let negative disastrous thinking destroy your day. Tackle your problems as a baby, small child or animal would. One step at a time. Trust me, this child or small animal has high expectations, they assume they will succeed before they even begin. If you watch a small animal or child, you will notice they are completely engaged in the moment. They are not thinking about what they had for breakfast. The cat wants to unravel that ball of yarn, the dog not only wants to chase, but catch his tail, the kid wants to figure out how to make his/her toy racing car zip down that ramp without falling off. Talk about the eternal optimists. This is hardwired into all living things for survival. Too often, this initial positive expectation of the world is de-programmed as a child gets older. What a shame. Don't go around hypnotized. Believe in your ability to solve your problems and live the life you desire. Open your mind and you will in turn open up new possibilities.
Why I Walk Away From the Complainers
I am a compassionate person to a point. If a friend needs me to listen to their problems, I will for awhile. But I will not endlessly listen to them. It's not that I don't care. I just don't care to be a doormat. Like so many other people, I have serious challenges right now. I don't want to hear endless complaining. Unfortunately, if a person is spending energy complaining, they are not spending that precious resource solving the problem at hand. Complaining and not doing gets to be an insidious habit. Why waste your time? Concentrate on what you can do. It will uplift you and energize you, giving you momentum. Carpe diem! Remember the buddhist monk, this moment is all you have.
A Few of My Favorite Things
- A great cup of coffee with the perfect amount of cream
- A wonderful (made in very small batches) guacamole from a neighborhood grocer
- English Tea
- The surprises you will find in the garden
- Cats being cats
- The beach on a cool evening
- Merino wool
- Beautiful shoes
- The ocean and it's unique inhabitants
- A great meal
- Many other things