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13 Intermediate Lessons To Guide Your 20s

Updated on September 7, 2017
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I love music, travel and good food. I live in Johannesburg, South Africa and find peace when I share through my writing.


Your 20s are probably the most life-defining years of your life. They can also be very overwhelming with feelings of trepidation and anxiety. They are the years you decide how you want to live out your life. Friends start getting great jobs, buying homes, getting married, having babies, starting businesses, etc and it can seem as though you are being left behind. Here are the few things I have personally learned from these years:

1. Make memories

Life is about memories. Take time to invest in capturing special moments, taking pictures, dating etc. This is an exciting decade, i suggest enjoying it.

2. Make Mistakes

Do not be afraid to make big and small mistakes. This is the right time to discover who you are and make bold steps to defining your identity. The journey to success sometimes passes through thorns. The true measure of your character will be measured on how well you overcome those mistakes. By the time you get to your 30s, you will be wiser, stronger and grounded.

3. Travel Alone

If you can afford it, go for a easy-on-the-pocket trip to an exotic destination. You will thank me for this one. I took a trip this year alone and it was life-changing. It gave me time to think, plan, and truly enjoy being alone.

4. Own who you are

This is a critical decade and many people find themselves chasing after what society will deem as success. This always leads to frustrations and a lot of regret. Rather, pave your own destiny, shine, and pursue your identity.

5. Invest in Friendships

Boyfriends come and go, but true girlfriends stick closer than blood. You will find this even more true as you grow older. They are an invaluable treasure. I have found that my close circle of friends have been my greatest treasure. Life is hard, have a girlfriend to laugh it off with.

6. Be financially smart

Your 20s are also a time to save and be financially smart. Getting yourself disciplined during this decade will save you a whole lot of financial mistakes in your 30s. Put money into unit trusts, bonds and build your small empire. This will make your life much easier when you need to do the "adulting" responsibilities.

7. There is greatness in the mundane boring staff

Learn to be content with the life you have and you will find joy in the everyday things. This is by far my most valuable lesson. I had to learn to not get over-consumed with the lingering spirit to be an overachiever.

8. Take care of your physical and mental health

Meditate, pray, eat right and find time to invest in your health. Do not waste money on diets. Eat right.

9. Finding love is beautiful. But marriage is not an achievement

Do not put your life on hold chasing getting married. Rather chase after getting a second degree, developing a business, starting an NGO etc. While I am thankful to God for connecting me to my best friend in my early 20s, I cannot say it has been my greatest achievement. Many may differ with me on this, but I can honestly say I would have still led a great life without my husband during my 20s. Having goals and knowing what I want to achieve in my life helped me realize that I need to own my own success, with or without a husband.

10. Ask for help

A whole lot of people have gone ahead of you and they know far much more. Do not be shy to take a leap and be vulnerable enough to admit that you do not have all the answers. Learn a lot during this decade.

11. You are beautiful

Do not let the world tell you otherwise.

12. Go offline as much as you can

Try and communicate more with people face to face. Build relationships. Social media sometimes sells you a dream and you may fall into the trap of thinking everyone else has got it together and that you are not doing it right. Go offline and see how much time you will have on your hands, and how less stressed you will be about achieving things.

13. Last but not least, I recently started this myself. Write letters to yourself

Being kind to my present self so I can take care of myself better. Do it however way works best for you. These letters will speak to you when you need them the most in the future.

© 2017 Amanda Chukura


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