The People Pleaser
Stop People Pleasing!
Know when to stop being the People pleaser
Feelings matter to you
Are you the People Pleaser?
Are you that person or do you know someone like that?
It is something I will not do.
Pleasing other people is not how I was raised.
It is all about how you were raised or taught from childhood.
I see it all the time in our small community and there are many people pleasers in this world.
I can't change the way people think and do, but I can change the way I think and do.
He is a people pleaser!
No matter what it is happening his motive is to please other people. If he had pleased his wife as much as he pleased other people, he would have a much happier marriage and relationship.
You are only taking advantage of you if pleasing people is your way of life.
How does that feel?
It is time you stopped making other people feel happy. In trying to make others feel the best while you feel at your worst is no my way of life.
Unless that someone is special to me I don't care.
When will you focus on your needs?
Why accommodate others so much more than your loved one?
Make you the focus of life.
It is your life and you’re doing.
When will you say NO?
Making up stupid excuses is not going to make much right in your life.
He don't care about his family’s needs instead thinks of others needs.
What he is unable to handle or cope with does not matter.
He wants the other person to be happy and fails to see what it is doing to his family.
When attending a function to only please some other person is not the way to go.
People pleasing is everywhere you just got to control what you do.
Sometimes what you want can't be tolerated but you do it to put up with it.
I don’t shut up and put up with anyone, or anything I know will bring me unhappiness and problems.
Say, ''no thanks!''
Why is it so difficult to say NO?
Be polite nobody is asking you to be rude and inconsiderate. Be calm and respectful toward the other person and don't do what they want of you.
You don't need to hang on to the less powerful and thoughtless people.
Make sure you mean what you say.
The world does not end at anyone's feet!
Be straight forward and make your point heard.
Why do you want to be the people pleaser?
If you are the people pleaser only you will be most unhappy with yourself.
Every person has a mind of their own and no one can or should make you do what you don't want to.
As when I first came to Croatia, for me it was only about pleasing other people.
I had to visit family and neighbors to make them happy. I could not continue that routine.
I had to stop and when I stopped I saw a turning point in my life.
I could not go on visiting people,
I did not know and sit in silence for hours with these people making myself bored and tired and with no communication.
I knew then it was up to me to get out of that situation and something I was not born into.
Speak up and don't be afraid to let your words heard.
People have different choices what makes you any different?
Make your opinion heard and put your foot down on such issues.
I managed to make myself heard when I could no longer live that boring and pleasing life which made me more unhappy by the day.
If you keep silent nothing will change for the better.
The key is to stop being that people pleaser!
I know of people pleasers and will do anything to make them elves present at events to be at their best to the other.
To have a good appearance because of that person and to make that person happier is a whole lot of a nonsense to me.
What will they think does not go with me?
Who cares of what they think?
Let your opinion be heard and don't get too involved with such people.
You don't have to do what others do. Don't do what others make you to do for their own satisfactions.
Do whatever you like for you.
Don't think of what others will think of you. It is self-destructive to think that way.
There must be something that you like to do for you.
Don't be the People pleaser!
Be your true self!
Avoid being the People Pleaser!
You shouldn't be a pushover or manipulator.
I am not asking you to be selfish completely. Those people pleasers out there are weak and less- confident.
Be focused on your life.
It is your choice of what you want to do.
Nobody should have control over your life.
I moved away from a restricted life to my own life. Nobody can control my thoughts and my life.
You can get yourself locked in a trap if you don't speak up.
Walk away and don't look back.
Do you think it is worth having a people pleaser in your life?
The people pleaser thinks of their needs and not yours.
It is always about what makes them happy and what makes you most unhappy.
Is that how you want to live your life?
Life has limits when you go overboard definitely you have reached your limit and that can become very unpleasant for you.
You should check it out for yourself.
Analyze what is coming between you and friends.
See who you are up against.
Open your eyes to these individuals.
Have you chosen to tolerate the intolerable?
Behave normally and accept, don't accept if you have had enough of People pleaser.
I have seen behaviors that can be most frustrating. People pleasers are often expecting you to do for them and I have been through a lot of that sort of behavior. Until one day I said NO.
It was hard to say NO. When I first got acquainted with the local people I could not say No and was not actually getting the whole concept, but when I realized how unhappy it made me I had to stop it.
Nobody saw how unhappy that pleasing people thing made me. It was about making those people happy with the cost of my true happiness. I had to present myself like was from the convent something I did not have to do in my past life. I quit that behavior very fast.
I tried to understand this behavior but could not see it right away.
Everything to me at that time felt temporary, though it wasn't and I did not see what was happening around me.
The early feelings were just too mixed up.
I learned that most people pleasers live their lives in that fashion due to putting their need aside from childhood years. They had grown up in such environments.
When you better understand yourself you will know who can stay in your life and who will have to get out of your life.
If you are raised with people who lived that way can get you to be that point of being a People Pleaser.
If you live by the expectations of others you will not see well in your life.
You are expecting the other to be happier and you don't see it from your side.
You are just known as the one who runs the chores or errands.
Your true image will not be recognized by others.
It is normal and nice of you to help others. Only do it if you want to not because others told you so.
Once you know to help yourself then you will want to help others. When you know to help others you will feel much better to do that from your heart.
Do what you want by choice your actions speak louder than words when you approach the situation from within.
You would want others to help in the same way.
Do not neglect your thoughts.
People pleasers are more about giving than taking.
Their lives are less fun-filled and more about being controlled by the other.
Usually people pleaser rush along for no reason.
Your life is not seen as useful to you.
You feel that person is no longer your friend for you not helping them out, but you don't realize what you are doing to yourself.
People don't see your true self.
Be true to yourself and do what you enjoy and really want to.
Are you the People Pleaser?
Have you chosen to tolerate the intolerable?
Life is what you make of it!
© 2014 Devika Primić