The Power Of Self-Talk
Have you ever wondered how you got to where you are today? You look at you surroundings and personal situation and then compare it to others around you. You perceive that some are doing better than you are and some are not doing quite so well. It is a great mystery to you as to why you are not as financially successful as some people are. What makes them, or you for that matter, any different than the person who is living on the streets? The answer to that question is the way that they talk to themselves. Regardless of external factors, self-talk is the determining ingredient between success and failure.
What actually is self-talk? It can be positive or negative. It can be an actual verbalization or silent. Silent self-talk includes anything that you might think about of others or yourself. It can even be an emotion or a reaction. In the 1930's, American Linguists Edward Sapir and Benjamin Whorf developed the linguistic-relativity hypothesis. What they said was that a person's thoughts are controlled by patterns that they are unaware of. Self-talk is produced by and in turn produces thoughts in such a way as we are unaware. Whether it is positive or negative, it will have just that result in our lives.
Research has shown that the brain is like a computer and will input and store whatever you tell it. It will then attempt to create that scenario. Whether it is true or false, the brain does not know the difference. It will simply seek to produce what you have placed within its memory banks. Words and thoughts is the fuel that the brain uses to reproduce. However successful, or unsuccessful, you will be at anything you attempt to accomplish, is undeniably linked to the words and beliefs you tell yourself and that you have stored in your unconscious mind.
How can you relate this to you? Look at your job and your fellow employees. What do you think is the single most important difference between a content and fully motivated employee and one for whom nothing ever works out right? It is all fully dependent on each individual's attitudes and feelings, both of which are entirely dependent on that employee's determination to view their work in a healthy, realistic, and positive perspective... or not.
If the individual has a negative attitude or exhibits negative feelings, then that will be the outcome of their perception in life and therefore be the cause of their frustration. Of course, the opposite is just as true for the individuals who have that positive outlook and self-talk in their lives. Tell the brain you're happy, and soon enough you'll be happy. Tell it you're sad and miserable, and you will most certainly be sad and miserable.
However, sociologists are not in unanimous agreement. Some believe in a theory known as behaviorism, which is a theory that simply states that all behavior is learned and that learning occurs through the process known as conditioning. Conditioning is the shaping of behavior through reward and punishment. That means that what they have learned in their environment is the reason they act the way they do.