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The Power Of Self-Talk - Part 4

Updated on October 11, 2009

When we capitalize on a social, political, or economic inequity to justify our unhappiness, we disown responsibility for the thoughts and actions that more often than not, brought about the unhappiness in the first place. That is true for those individuals that we just talked about. They could have allowed their poor economic backgrounds to dictate their lives. But they didn't. They thought positive thoughts and spoke positive words about what they wanted to become and where they wanted to go and then they took responsibility and control of their lives and moved on. The same can be true for those that seem to be at the top and have success, but can drag themselves down just as quickly.

One good example is Eugene Fodor, a man who rose to musical greatness. As a young boy, he would stand in front of his violin and tell himself how good he was and how great he was going to be. He would imagine himself performing in front of large crowds and receiving standing ovations over and over again. His parents were wealthy and gave everything they had to further the ambitions of their son. He became the winner of the prestigious Tchaikovsky violin award in competition. His self-talk had paid off. He had the fame he had for so long imagined. He played for two presidents in the White House. He was given the key to New York City, and featured on the Tonight Show. But he convinced himself that it wasn't enough. The more successful he became, the "high" he was seeking became less. He convinced himself that he needed that "high." He eventually turned to drugs and became addicted. He was at one time even arrested for burglary while he was trying to support his drug habit. What made a man who had fame and fortune become a failure? Was it his family upbringing? Perhaps it was the people that he hung around that forced him into drug use. Eventually, he took control of his life again and turned his life around. But he had to make that conscious decision himself and convince himself that that was the thing to do.

The list could go on and on. Elvis Presley rose to fame and had everything, only to kill himself with drugs. Michael Jackson's story is similar. Then there is Howard Hughes who had amassed a fortune and a life of spectacular adventure, but died a lonely and isolated man full of fear and delusions. What was going through the minds of these people as they lived their lives? What did they say to themselves to convince them that they could continue to live the way they were and escape destruction? You know they talked to themselves.

How do I know? Because the best proof of all is you and I. Are you talking to yourself right now? What are you saying? When you say something to yourself, you're telling yourself something that you believe. That in turn reinforces whatever it is as a fact. Tell yourself that you're tired and you'll be tired. Make an excuse. You know it's a lame excuse, but you're convinced that it is valid. your self-talk determines what you continue to like and dislike, how you're feeling, and how you react to certain situations.

You hold the key to your success and failure. What you say to yourself, despite what is going on around you, will determine your success and failure, yesterday, today, and tomorrow. You decide by the words that you speak what your life is like. The research proves it and the testimony of others prove it as well.

Let these final words speak for themselves: How successful you will be at anything is inexorably tied to the words and beliefs about yourself that you have stored in your unconscious mind. Speak well to yourself. It will determine what you will become.

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    • Hal Licino profile imageAUTHOR

      Hal Licino 

      9 years ago from Toronto

      You're welcome. Now show your mind who's the master! :)

    • quicksand profile image

      quicksand 

      9 years ago

      It's not just both of them, I am in it too!

      I too subscribe to the view that the mind is the master. So thanks again. :)

    • Hal Licino profile imageAUTHOR

      Hal Licino 

      9 years ago from Toronto

      I'm glad both of you enjoyed this series! Hope that your positive self talk bears fruit! Happy (self-)talking! :)

    • maggs224 profile image

      maggs224 

      9 years ago from Sunny Spain

      A great series of hubs I enjoyed reading them very much and I am now off to give myself a real positive talking to. lol

    • jiberish profile image

      jiberish 

      9 years ago from florida

      Wow, that was great. I really enjoyed reading this. Thanks!

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