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The Power in being your own Person

Updated on April 11, 2018
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Devika enjoys sharing her work with a friendly community. Writing is a big part of her life. Online work has improved her lifestyle.

Self-confidence means believing in yourself

Can you be your own person?

It is never easy to be your very own person in character or in personality.

· What do you need to be your own person?

I have become my own person from the changes in my life, and grew up through tough experiences, and that happened very quickly.

· How do you assess your real being?

Your life belongs to you and improvement must come from within.

First allow the following into your life:

Find Acceptance and move on with new experiences.

Be happy and and confident on any given day.

Share conversations to feel good about yourself, and positive.

Be the hard worker in your marriage or in friendships.

Face up to challenges and take advantage of your strengths.

Learn and never stop learning something new daily.

Use your determination to be that great person.

Be motivated in daily activities.

Show your confidence without doubt.

Use your positive thoughts to feel good each day.

Use your perfection to show in a project or task.

Independence is part of you and be that independent person.

True emotions are necessary.

To truly be your own person you need to adapt to everything around you.

Bring out your feelings, actions, and a sense of direction.

Suck up everything you see, want, and work it out from there.

Be able to think independently.

Don’t rely on the opinions, thoughts or decisions of others.

Don't take responsibility lightly.

I found that in me through the tough experiences from one country to another.

You don't have to live outside your culture to be your own person.

Think and act evenly in your thoughts.

The character you have shows for everything you really are and from your own person.

I know of some people who feel the need to depend on others for their strengths.

Usually, when this occurs such individuals are insecure, and feel confused about their lives.

They feel the need to hang on and wait for better days.

I don't believe that would work out for me.

Such individuals feel there is a missing part about their lives.

Their weaknesses are shown more than their strengths.

Lonely people do feel that way in life.

The less confident person waits on the opinions of others before taking that leap.

They feel pressure in life and choose to have confident people on their side.

· Does that work out for you?

· No!

To be your own person you got to be positive, confident and alive inside to accomplish your goals.

Be proud of your own deeds.

Avoid jealousy, envy and hatred.

I know evil is in most people but you don't have to carry that around with you.

When you choose to live through other people it is does take the place of your true being.

You are destroying your true being by depending on others.

Depression can take over rapidly if you choose to live unsocial-ably.

Cope with your being truly and positively.

Your interests matters more to you than others.

A balanced lifestyle can take you places.

A healthy individual shows healthy relationships.

Communicating becomes easier and everyone is happy.

The support from other people allows for interactions and plans to move on with new experiences.

All your encounters prove great when you show a healthy lifestyle.

Are you a unique person?

Do you weigh in evenly in your marriage?

Are you afraid to speak up?

Sometimes traditional lifestyles can cause many issues and these issues are overlooked by such couples.

Both partners require free speech.

Dysfunctional families have many problems, and the deeper these families get into their problems, they tend to ignore the real problem.

You don't want to lose your uniqueness through any traditional habits.

Traditional marriages show dominance from one partner, mostly from men.

This way of life can make one feel down and troubled over time.

Control from another can make you feel unhappy.

Think about it!

Is that you who really want to be?

Always being afraid to speak and don't know when it is your turn to speak up, can make you feel down or depressed.

To be your own person you need to stand up for yourself.

Take charge and show your true values!

You come from somewhere and have your own roots.

Be able to fight for your right in life.

Show your personality and be proud about it too.

Live in good faith.

When you show your greater values to others, they see you for who you really are. In this way you gain respect and you will be highly thought of by others.

Observe and gain your own being from what you know best.

Your decisions, self-control and responsibilities have a greater effect on you.

Think rationally!

Use your thinking caps widely.

You are open to all discussions and like to know the opinions of others.

Though, you don't depend on the opinions of other individuals.

An open mind allows you to be aware of your events.

Opportunities can go by fast, so make the attempt to finish up a project.

Be able to control your emotions, depression, anxiety, guilt, phobias, the irrational feelings, or any other aspect that you know can take over your life easily.

When you prove to yourself you can handle situations, your own person comes up easily.

The power in you comes to light with a natural feeling.

You know when it is the right time to move on from the negative experiences.
Certain behaviors can over-power the mind.

Such as:

The use of drugs.

The psychotic behaviors.



And other addictions.

Daunting challenges can bring you down.

You can fall apart easily if you let any substance take over your mind.

Mentally, psychologically, physically, socially and personally, all can take you apart and bring you together.

Are you the kind of person who fails in decision-making?

The decisions you make can affect you and others if not carefully thought of.
Sometimes hasty decisions can be good or bad.

Are you lazy in attempting daily activities?

Individuals need to build willpower to be that independent person.

Practice makes perfection!

An example:

Some people don't have the willpower to give up smoking.

I had and have the willpower to move on in a foreign country.

With self-confidence you don't need anyone to tell you, how, who, what and where.
There is no need to prove to others of your achievements or abilities.

When you accept who you really are these actions are not required of you.

Learning from your mistakes shows that you have created a positive life.

Don't self-devalue and self-defeat that brings misery to your life.

The way to go is to avoid hanging on the shoulders of others.

You have you own mind so think and do for yourself!

Pleasing others is not a happy life for you.

Confiding in others for what went wrong in the workplace is not always the way to go in life.
Life is a roller coaster it all depends on how you choose to handle ride ahead.
You learn from all mistakes freely on your own.

You want to be own person not another person.

As frustrating as certain cases can be your personal happiness should come from within.
Be encouraged by your being.

Do you like trying new adventures?

Do you depend on others for new ideas?

I believe in myself.

People are not the same wherever you are.

Life in general is challenging and different for every person.

Do you rely on others to tell you what to do, what to say, or to tell you how to feel?

Do you live through others?

Do you cave in when a group?

Do you keep to yourself and avoid a social life?

Are you lost in yourself?

Do you play your role at home and forget the real you?

Do you feel like an ornament in your relationship?

Do you obsess about situations?

Do you believe that medication can clear your mind?

Are you side-tracked by your decisions?

Do you feel less worthy from your thoughts?

Do you wait for the approval of others to validate your self-worth?

Are you afraid of life?

Once you have identified with the above questions you will find your own person.
One step further into reality.

Your happiness is important and becoming your own person will gradually show in yourself.

Lovely Views from my side

A view of birds in the sky.
A view of birds in the sky. | Source
Beautiful Dubrovnik.
Beautiful Dubrovnik. | Source
Beautiful country view.
Beautiful country view. | Source

Be your Own Person

Life is challenging

Do you live through others?

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© 2015 Devika Primić


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    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      ahorseback thank you kindly for stopping by always appreciated.

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      Devika Primić 

      3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Padmajah Badri thank you for the vote and for sharing your comment here.

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      3 years ago

      This is so amazing , and funny , why ? because of all of the above ....I am Lazy !

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      Padmajah Badri 

      3 years ago from India

      Hi.This is most interesting hub.Being independent and confident , self loving can eliminate any stress,worry and gives the confidence to overcome any challenges.A must read hub.Voted up.Thanks.Happy Writing.

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      Devika Primić 

      3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      snerfu thank yo for stopping by here

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      Vivian Sudhir 

      3 years ago from Madurai, India

      Being independent brings out the creativity in a person and that is when the fun begins. Nice article.

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      Devika Primić 

      3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      jatrader thank you and so true!

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      3 years ago

      Without confidence, according to Marcus Garvey, people are twice defeated in the race of life. Good points DDE.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi ezzly so kind of you to vote up on this hub. I appreciate all comments and thank you very much

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      4 years ago

      I love this hub, voted up. Exactly, we don't need the opinion of others to validate our self worth !

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      aesta1 thank you kindly for stopping by.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      ahorseback, thank you kindly for stopping by.

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      Mary Norton 

      4 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      This is really interesting. I do try to be my own person and the more I try I keep discovering layers. We are wonderfully made but a bit complex, too.

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      4 years ago

      Awesome , amazing , you can always tell when someone is "their own person " ! Thanks for this one !........Ed

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      SANJAY LAKHANPAL, Changes are great if one accepts these changes I did just that, accept my new life. Thank you.

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      Sanjay Sharma 

      4 years ago from Mandi (HP) India

      I am always surprised, if I had a chance to relive my life again, would I be the same or a different person, than what I am now.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      swilliams thank you kindly for all votes and comments.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hello lovedoctor926 I look forward to reading more hubs from you. Thank you for commenting here. I know you for a few years now don't I? I appreciate the sharing!

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      4 years ago

      DDE, you provided such useful information that is comforting to those who are trying to discover their position in life. Thanks for sharring such meaningful information! Voted up! Useful and beautiful.

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      4 years ago

      Hi DDE,

      Thank you. I am going to start writing soon. I haven't been active in a while. This was a very good hub worthy to be read twice. I will share this on social media.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      AliciaC thank you

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi lovedoctor926 I am so glad to have a read a comment from you it has been a while. Thank you for the vote up and I live my life the way I PLEASE. Hope you still writing?

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      Linda Crampton 

      4 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      There are some excellent suggestions in this hub, Devika. Thank you for sharing them.

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      4 years ago

      Excellent hub. You couldn't have said it better. Learning to say No without feeling guilty of hurting someone else's feelings is an effective assertive technique to deal with manipulative people who will try to convince you that there way is the right way. Learning to say No is another way of regaining your power back. You make very good points here. Be yourself, learn to stand up for yourself and don't allow others to define you because once you allow other people to dictate how you should live your life. voted up!

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi tobusiness thank you kindly for stopping by.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Thank you. I feel more encouraged by your great words. I appreciate all votes from you.

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      4 years ago from Lancashire north west England

      Hello Devika,another excellent article you have produced which can only help people to understand themselves and to help them gain self belief through your enthusiastic words. Voted up,interesting and very useful.

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      Jo Alexis-Hagues 

      4 years ago from Lincolnshire, U.K

      Devika, more food for thought. Interesting and so very true. As always well done.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Ericdierker thank you for sharing your thoughts here.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Harishprasad Thank you kindly for stopping by. It has been a while! I appreciate all comments.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      billybuc thank greatly for stopping by

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      ZRMoore greatly mentioned thank you for stopping by

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Smilealot thank you kindly.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      always exploring thank you

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Ann You are a good person and very kind. Thank you.

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      4 years ago

      Confidence in who you are is important, well said:-))

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      Ruby Jean Richert 

      4 years ago from Southern Illinois

      Thinking positive is the key to feeling ok in one's own skin. Good advice!

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      Ann Carr 

      4 years ago from SW England

      Good philosophy here, Devika. You've always got to be positive, be true to your own personality and true to yourself. Great advice.


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      4 years ago

      Being your own person requires strength and knowledge. But knowing who you are is equally important.

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      Bill Holland 

      4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      You speak simple truths that many people could benefit from.

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      Harish Mamgain 

      4 years ago from New Delhi , India

      When we give our attention to how we act, think, behave and interact and more than that how we see ourselves in our own eyes, that culminates into the personality that we have. Devika, these thoughts are very important and one needs to ponder these often. I love these thoughts that penetrate so deep into the being that we are.

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      Eric Dierker 

      4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Very interesting. These are important concepts for anyone at anytime. We should all be aware of how this plays into our lives.


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