- Quality of Life & Wellness
Why Everybody Needs 'Me' Time
Everyone needs to have an alone time solely for the purpose of just that, for oneself. Never underestimate the power of this underrated but useful tool in coping with the stress of daily living and in finding inner peace and happiness.
An alone time refers to a moment set aside for oneself to allot time, space and opportunity to restore and reinvigorate. Others simply refer to it as solitude time, though the term may have different connotations. Learning to harness the power of alone time to ones advantage will be the path to solving some answers to your inner health.
Indeed, it is difficult to set aside time in this technological age when one is surrounded by the constant buzzing and beeping of cellphones, email alerts, Facebook and add to that the demands of home and work. But everyone needs to have a time out once in a while from all of life’s distractions.
Your Own Alone Time
Alone time is well-spent doing things that involve or allow introspection, inner growth, mental analysis, and self-healing. All of which are great channels to improve yourself and be more resilient in meeting the challenges of one's day to day existence. This alone time will clear out your mind and allow you to give more focus and emphasis on what you really want to achieve in your life, job, family, relationships and other equally important aspects in your life. Tuning out distractions will give you time to concentrate on the more significant areas of your life.
Think of the alone time as a time to restore yourself and opportunity for self-discovery. This view is supported by a noted psychologist, T. Byram Karasu M.D., current Editor-in-Chief of the American Journal of Psychotherapy and Life Fellow of the American Psychiatric Association (APA) who stated that the constant presence of others throw our rhythm out of sync. Another noted psychologist, the late Esther Buchholz, Ph.D., in her book The Call of Solitude: Alonetime in a World of Attachment, described alone time as a basic need. Dr. Buchholz further sums the importance of solitude time by saying that it is hard to maintain a sense of personal integrity if individuals are always outwardly focused.
Happiness linked with time alone
A study by Skoda, an automaker, revealed that more than 60% of motorists are happier when driving alone, citing top reasons as listening to the music and the radio, followed by looking at a beautiful scenery and having the time to think as sources of their happiness. Leading psychologists also note that lone motorists make for healthier people.
Set a schedule for alone time
Imagine setting an important date, but only this time, it’s with yourself. You may opt to spend this alone time in many different ways depending on your own preference and availability. Choose a time that will harmoniously fit in with your schedule and not create more stress in your daily life.
Reserve a day in the month to visit a spa, get yourself a whole body massage, or sit in the sauna to rid of those bodily toxins. Pamper you vain side by going to the salon and get a great hair cut or nails done for women. You can spend some of that time in the gym getting a toned body or spend an afternoon shopping for that perfect tie or shoes for the ladies, go into a gastronomic adventure and indulge in a sinful dessert concoction at the newest restaurant in town, read an engaging book by a quiet corner of your favorite coffee shop, or simply revel in the complete stillness and quiet by doing self-meditation and yoga in your room. For women, this getting time for yourself is a bit trickier but still possible. If you have kids, arrange for a baby sitter or ask a reliable relative to look after them on your solitude moments.
For good measure, try giving yourself alone time once a week if you can, if not, once or twice a month will still create wonders. You will also realize that an alone time is a healthy way to enjoy yourself, deal with fear, cope with insecurities, and find contentment and achieve goals easier. The sooner you set alone time for yourself, the sooner you will experience the positive results on your own well-being and confidence and how you deal with others in your own home, work and acquaintances, and more importantly, with yourself.