The Rich Child Syndrome
The syndrome of the rich child or "ricopathy" is not a disorder that is a direct consequence of growing up in a wealthy family, but is a phenomenon that affects children from rich and middle class families. It relates to the child who has been spoiled and spoiled throughout his life, which often leads to various future problems.
The education that the children receive is important for their future emotional development.
Therefore, it is not a condition associated with social class, but it does influence the education that is given a child by the parents. Sometimes we see parents, whether they are rich or not, who seek to make up for the lack of time and attention by buying gifts for their children, or we see parents pushing their children too much to stand out from the rest.
In these situations, the behavior of parents, in many cases being overprotective and in others to give access to too many material goods, leads to different problems in the child's emotional development. This educational style will manifest itself in boys and girls in different ways: psychological (stress, disinterest, aggressiveness, behavioral disorders, anxiety) or physical (headaches, vomiting, diarrhea).
Children idle, lazy and not tolerant of frustration.
The concept of ricopathy arises from a book by Harvard University professor Ralph Minear called "The child who has everything in excess." In this book, the author says that:
"The child who has been pampered all his life, can have serious problems later in life, as well as emotional difficulties. Some consequences are: excessive consumption of alcohol or marijuana, discriminatory treatment of others and serious behavior problems, or a lazy attitude and not tolerant of frustration, not having to worry about never winning things and have always received what He has wanted".
Children who have everything but feel empty.
Unfortunately, even though these parents may think giving them everything and not being strict with their children is an act of love, in the long run this becomes a negative consequence for the little ones. Children have to learn to earn and suffer when necessary to continue growing as people. Being overly protective and giving away everything thinking that they will be happy will only turn them into people who will not know how to tolerate frustration or will be able to postpone their cravings. Therefore, when they grow up and face the harsh reality, they may end up suffering from this lack of learning.
The parents, on many occasions, think that this type of behavior is a good father or a good mother, because no one wants their child to go wrong. But getting things on by themselves, struggling, struggling, and even having a hard time when you have to go through it is valuable learning that helps the child develop psychologically and ethically.
to love children is to set limits.
In short, children who have everything and do not need to strive to get the things they want, always want more and better because they are in a stage of egocentric thinking. You just have to think of a teenager to whom parents buy a high-end BMW. If at any point you have to get rid of that vehicle, you probably will not be happy with a normal car.
Experts have long warned parents of the dangers of spoiling a child. And while no one doubts that depriving a child of what he or she wants is not pleasant, values are learned from experience. The family is the socializing agent that has the most influence in the development of the child and therefore, parents should know that frustration is also part of the child's general learning.
© 2017 Gabriel Alejandro