- Mental Health
The Sociopath Next Door: Would You Be Able To Recognize A Sociopath?
- Inside The Mind Of A Narcissist
- The Aftermath Of The Narcissist (NPD)
- Personality Psychology: The Narcissist In All Of Us
- Narcissistic & Sociopathic Ideology Within Bloodlines
- NPD: Is It Me? (Narcissistic Personality Disorder)
- Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) - Malignant Self-Love
- Recognizing Narcissistic Abuse
- Recognizing The Narcissist
- The Sociopath Next Door
- Psychological Murder: Inflicted Suicide
- Narcissistic Alien Psychology
- The Female Abuser: Paternity Fraud, The Perfect Crime
- The Female Abuser: Protected By Society
- Psychological & Mental Abuse
- Social Psychology: Cognitive Dissonance
- How To Relieve Depression Without Medication / Drugs
What Is A Sociopath?
The title of this article is actually the name of a book written by Martha Stout (which I highly recommend by the way). I thought it would also be an appropriate title for this hub because it aptly implies that you are probably a lot closer to a sociopath right at this very moment than you may realize.
In fact Martha Stout believes that 4% of the US population maybe sociopaths indicating that if you know a few hundred people then it's highly likely that you know a small handful of sociopaths and given that sociopathic tendencies are often of a covert nature, it's also highly likely that you don't even realize who those people are.
Statistically the numbers seems shocking. However, the term 'sociopath' has become a fairly universal one within the personality disorder niche of psychology and one that is now not officially used or recognized any more. A psychopath and a sociopath are now essentially the same thing though the official diagnosis of someone considered to be a full-blown psychopath has now been labelled 'Antisocial Personality Disorder'.
The term 'sociopath' could therefore be used generically and could refer to a number of personality disorders or the combination of a few, such as Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) or Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) which explains why the statistics may be so high. All of these disorders possess similar traits therefore it's not uncommon for some people to be diagnosed with, or be believed to have, one or more personality disorder. The was an attempt to narrow this down in the American Psychiatric Association DSM-5 which is officially used to diagnose personality disorders, in order to result in a more accurate diagnosis and to prevent personality disorders from overlapping with each other. The aim was to be able to diagnose an individual with having just one of the disorders without having to consider the possibility they may have several.
Would You Know If Your Daughter Was A Sociopath?
According to these statistics I think it's pretty safe to say that everybody probably knows a sociopath or two. However, how would you recognize them? How would you pick them out from the rest of the crowd? You can't. Sociopaths are born with an invisible secret that only they know about and that they can use expertly to their advantage throughout life to get what they want without anyone having a clue as to what's really going on. The only person who might have any kind of suspicion on the matter would most likely be her boyfriend or husband who may be being abused without even realizing it.
For now, imagine you only know 100 people. The chances are that 4 of those people are sociopaths. 4 out of every 100 of your Facebook friends are probably sociopaths! Would you even know if your own daughter was one of those 4 inflicted people? How would you be able to tell?
The reason I ask about your daughter and not your son is because there is already a major bias in society of the man being the abuser and the woman being the victim in a typical case. However, many women are also sociopaths and the true statistics regarding abuse are now starting to come out of the closet. In actual fact, male victims of domestic violence wrongly suffer from gender bias despite research showing the opposite.
A study of 11,000 men and women aged 18-28 at the Harvard Medical School and US Center for Disease Control showed that 24% of heterosexual relationships involved abuse. Half of them had experienced reciprocal violence (each partner assaulting each other) and of the other half, women were responsible for over 70% of the non-reciprocal violence, the women were the ones who struck first. In addition a study which was part of the National Family Violence Legislative Resource Center shows that there is more abuse/violence in lesbian relationships that there is in heterosexual ones. Statistical research clearly shows that women are more abusive than men and that 70% of single-partner abuse/domestic violence is committed by women.
Recognizing Sociopathic Abuse & The Damage It Causes
In the case of your daughter (metaphorically speaking, of course) you would need to take a look at her life-partner/husband/boyfriend. That's assuming she has one and has been with him for a few years or more. Ask yourself the following questions:
Has he distanced himself from you and your family and/or friends over the years?
Does he sometimes seem ignorant or weary of you and unwilling to get too close?
Does he seem stressed out (long-term) or like he wants to say something to you but can't?
Does he look worn out, tired, anxious and/or uptight?
Does your daughter accuse him of abuse, lies or cheating?
Does he appear to have no money, no value, no car, unable to take family on holiday and unwilling to go out to work?
Can you remember a time when he used to seem happier, talk more and communicate with your more?
Does your daughter regularly complain that she's had enough of his accusations?
Would he rather be on his own than go out with your daughter and her friends/family yet he previously used to?
If the answer to the above questions are yes then there's a good chance that your daughter may have subject him to secret (covert) sociopathic abuse. Of course, you need to do much deeper digging than that to find out the reality, sociopaths are experts at fooling everybody around them and using people without them even realizing it and a true diagnosis is not something which is easily done.
Sociopathic women usually pick out a nice guy, someone who's quiet but friendly, open minded and honest and someone that doesn't like to say no to people. Over time they subtly suggest that he may have mental problems and eventually, after years of subtle abuse, openly tries to convince him that he's sick in the head and paranoid for making accusations or that he needs to see a shrink. This is, plain and simple, mental abuse which is used to cover up and get away with the fact that she is the one committing the abuse.
Sociopathic women are usually very charismatic people that have everyone, including their own friends and family, fooled into believing that they are the 'good girl' of the family, the one that would never do anything to hurt anyone yet they commonly have secret one-night stands, secret affairs (sometimes with family) and they use shock tactics to make people think that they'd simply had too much to drink and have them cover up their lies. Every time there is an attempt to do something about it, literally everything is twisted back around onto the true victim and the sociopath plays the victim successfully manipulating their family and friends into hiding their twisted secrets.