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The Superhero in You
Find Your Inner Superhero
A few years ago we rented the movie "My Super Ex-Girlfriend", a comedy/fantasy about a guy named Matt (Luke Wilson) who tries to break up with his girlfiend Jenny (Uma Thurman). Only thing is, Jenny doesn't want to break up, and as it turns out, Jenny is actually a superhero named G-Girl.
The movie was cute, but I really connected with the character of G-Girl. My first name started with "G" and I liked that "Girl" sounded youthful. Although Jenny was average -looking, mild, imperfect, and insecure, G-Girl was a crime-fighting powerhouse stunner. The whole idea of "G-Girl" really resonated with me and so I declared right then that I wanted "G-girl" to be my new nickname.
"Mom," my son said, rolling his eyes, "you can't give yourself a nickname, someone else has to give it to you." Reality check.
"I don't care," I answered back. "I like it and that's what I'm going to call myself." I was acting like G-Girl already.
From that moment on, I started to sign notes to my husband and my kids as "G-girl". (I used a lowercase "g" in girl.) It was strictly an "inside the family" thing--a sort of "inside joke"--but it started to stick, at least among the four of us. I loved that my husband would call me "G-girl" here and there, and that my kids at least didn't throw up when they heard it. The most important thing was that I was identifying with "G-girl" and all that she represented, my own personal superhero inside.
Uma Thurman as "G-Girl"
What Your Superhero Can Do For You
Add a little fun. Developing your own superhero can bring some youth and playfulness back into your life. You can keep your "superhero inside" all to yourself, share it with everyone, or just with your family and closest friends. Even if it's just your secret (which is how it it for most superheroes!) you can have fun with the idea of your cool name, mighty persona and the powers you know you have.
Give you confidence. It may sound silly, but focusing on your superhero status can make you feel capable and confident. Channeling your inner superhero will help you visualize yourself at your best--your strongest, smartest, best-looking self. It's another form of visualization that you can have fun with. A superhero can achieve anything, and you'll feel like you can, too.
Make you look the part What does your inner superhero look like? How can you match that in reality, at least sometimes? Does this image make you want to go to the gym? Update your wardrobe? Try a new, more flattering hairstyle or update your make-up? No one can look like a superhero all the time (not even superheroes do!) but we can at least step up our game now and then. Having an inner superhero may motivate you to go the extra mile.
Look for ways to "save the world". Superheroes do the right thing. They fight against evil, and no one even knows their true identity. Maybe there are things you can do to make the world a better place, even if it is just leaving a coupon on a grocery store shelf. I love that there are superheroes out there who do that! Look for ways that your "inner superhero" can help the world, even in small ways. Your "powers" can be good deeds or kind words. Just think of the difference you could make in someone's day, and in turn, your own!
"The Fighter" by Gym Class Heroes
Here is a sampling of the lyrics
Ya ever feel like your train a thoughts been derailed?
That's when you press on. Lee nails.
Half the populaton's just waiting to see me fail, yeah right, better off tryin a freeze hell
Until the referee rings the bell, until both eyes start to swell, until the crowd goes home
What we gonna do ya' all?
Give em hell, turn their heads. Gonna live life till we're dead. Give me scars, give me pain.
Then they'll say to me There goes a fighter. There goes a fighter. There goes a fighter.
Here comes a fighter.
This one's a fighter.
Creating Your Superhero
Like most things in life, creating your superhero is probably not something that should be forced. Maybe you already have a nickname that you can work with. If not, here are some fun suggestions.
Choosing a Superhero Name
-Look to existing Superhero names for inspiration.
-Rapper names are great springboards for ideas, too.
-You can make an acronym from your name, using a word for each letter in your name. For example, if your name is Tim, you could be "Terrific Intelligent Man".
-Usernames are a good starting point. Maybe you can tweek or expand your username?
-Ask friends and family for suggestions. Have fun with it.
-Create something that reflects you, makes you smile and makes you feel empowered.
Don't Forget a Theme Song!
A geeky lawyer character on the show Ally McBeal used to have a theme song that he would hear in his head when he was nervous and needed confidence. Nothing wrong with having a song that pumps you (and your superhero) up to remind you that you can accomplish anything. This song can change as you need it to. Right now mine is "The Fighter" by Gym Class Heroes. Choose a song with lyrics that inspire you, and/or music that moves you. It's just another trick of the superhero trade!
My Superhero Inside
Having a superhero inside can add a little fun to your life while making you feel powerful at the same time. I may just be your average middle-aged housewife who today didn't feel like getting out of the clothes she slept in. But G-girl was able to clean a porch, renew a library book, balance a checkbook, do some accounting, help out a friend, work as an editor, send out a query, load some laundry, start some dinner, run a 5 k, write this article, and pretty herself up, all in a single bound. Or at least in a single day. It may not be saving a city, but in my world, that's superhero stuff for sure.