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How to Find Spiritual Harmony: The Tao of Balanced Energy

Updated on August 31, 2016
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Catherine Giordano writes essays about health and personal growth to inspire and to inform.

What is the Tao of Balanced Energy?

Tao is a concept from Chinese philosophy. It means "the way' or “the path.” It can also mean” the doctrine” or “the principle.” Taoism is a spiritual practice which emphasizes balance and living in harmony with all existence.

Spiritual Harmony

Spiritual harmony is part of balanced energy.
Spiritual harmony is part of balanced energy. | Source

The Tao of Balanced Energy is the way to an overall healthy lifestyle. The tao (or path) of balanced energy is about keeping your yourself in harmony with the universe. Optimal functioning requires a balance of nutrition, exercise, and spirituality.

I have explained this concept in a series of three essays. The first two essays focused on keeping your body in harmony with proper nutrition and exercise. This essay focuses on spirituality—keeping the psyche in harmony.

What do I mean by spirituality?

Many people think spirituality means religion or God. I’m using the word in a much broader sense to encompass all of your emotional reactions and all of your relationships —the relationships you have with yourself, with others, and with all of existence.

In this essay, I have a few recommendations about how to keep the spiritual aspects of our life in balance by improving our relationships with ourselves (interpersonal relationship), with others (intrapersonal relationships) and with a Higher power “higher power” (suprapersonal relationship). It is important to keep these relationships in balance by giving attention to each and not focusing on one to the detriment of the others.

Self-Acceptance

Accept yourself. You have not become; you are becoming.
Accept yourself. You have not become; you are becoming. | Source

Love and accept yourself.

You cannot have a good relationship with external entities without first having a good relationship with yourself. You must begin with loving yourself. Like all human beings, you are not perfect. Accept your imperfections and the mistakes you have made.

This does not mean that you should not strive to be a better person. Identify the skills your want to improve, the bad habits you want to stop, and the character flaws you want to work on.

Assess your strengths and weaknesses in all areas of your life. Praise yourself for the things you are doing well. So many people are so focused on their failings that they don’t appreciate all the things about themselves that are good.

De-stress

Some quiet time alone is important. Take a walk or meditate.
Some quiet time alone is important. Take a walk or meditate. | Source

Give yourself some “me-time.”

Our lives today are so busy, that we often forget that we need some time to be alone with ourselves. “Me-time” is a time to de-stress.

One way to do this is too take a “mindful” walk. Step away from your work and take a short walk in as pleasant an environment as you can manage. (It is nice if you can go to a park, but if a city street is all that is available, it will do.)

During this walk focus on the moment—this is the mindfulness part. Feel your feet on the ground, feel the sun (or rain, or wind) on your body, smell the air, hear the sounds, see all the objects. Empty your mind of thoughts and worries. On your way back from this walk, let your thoughts wander to whatever topic is on your mind. You may find that this exercise has made your problems feel smaller. You may also start to come up with some solutions to those problems.

If you can’t go for a walk, just get up and stretch for a few moments. Before you resume your work, have a cup of herbal tea and listen to some soothing instrumental music. Close your eyes and be mindful (as described above).

If you have a garden, go work in the garden for 15 minutes. Again, tend to your plants with mindfulness.

Play with your dog. Play with your baby. Be focused 100% on the interaction.

Get away from screens and technology for your me-time—the TV screen, the computer screen, the telephone. You want to totally disconnect and be alone with yourself.

Meditation is a wonderful way to disconnect. It involves sitting quietly and focusing on a manta in order to empty your mind of thoughts. Consider joining a meditation class to learn how to do this.

Banish the Ugly

Banish the ugly from your life.
Banish the ugly from your life. | Source

Get the ugly out of your life.

So much of today’s so-called entertainment is ugly--video games, movies, and TV shows that focus on violence and killing. You may think it is fun and entertaining, but it is influencing your outlook on life in a negative way. Numerous studies have shown how people become more angry and fearful after viewing this kind of entertainment.

Even the nightly news—do you really need to know the details of every murder, rape and robbery that occurs in your town or city? Do you need to know every single detail of every war and terrorist act? Studies have shown that people who watched the footage of the 9-11 attack over and over were more fearful than those who did not. It is important to be well-informed, but I find a newspaper is better for this—I can scan the headline or read the first paragraph. If I decide this is not important for me to know, I stop reading it.

Good Relationships

It is important to have good relationships with others.
It is important to have good relationships with others. | Source

Have good relationships with others.

It is important to have good relationships with friends and family. So spend time with the people in your life. Try this the next time you are having a one on one conversation with someone. Ask them a question and when they answer, really listen to the answer. Then ask a follow-up question to elicit more information. Continue to ask follow-up questions.

Don’t make the other person feel like they are being “drilled” or challenged; the goal is to get them to talk more about that they think or feel. Most of the time, we are so quick to interject our own opinion or feelings that we never get to understand the other person.

Ask open-ended questions without making any assumptions or judgments. For instance ask, “How did you feel about that?” and not “Did you feel angry?”

Family

Balance family life with time for yourself.
Balance family life with time for yourself. | Source

Treat others with respect and compassion.

No one can feel good about themselves if they are not honest in their relationships. It is disrespectful to lie. Don’t showoff. People will see through you, more than you know. Besides, you want people to like the real you, not the person you are pretending to be.

It is natural to be judgmental. Try to observe yourself being judgmental. When you catch yourself being judgmental, see if you can back away from that and just be more accepting.

Part of this is compassion. Try to see things from the other person’s point of view. Try to understand what is behind the behavior you find objectionable. Why are they acting the way they are acting?

If someone behaves badly towards you, don’t respond in kind. In the Bible, it says, “A soft answer turneth away wrath.(Proverbs 15:1) Be respectful, non-judgmental, and compassionate. You don’t have to tell someone off. It won’t make you feel better; it will make you feel worse.

Is there someone in your life that needs to forgiveness? Forgive that person now. Do it for your own well-being. Holding on to anger and grief is poisonous.

Healthy Sexuality

Sexuality is part of spirituality.
Sexuality is part of spirituality. | Source

Have a healthy attitude towards sexuality.

Sex is a powerful drive. It brings physical pleasure, but it can bring a lot of emotional pain when it is misused.

Part of accepting yourself is accepting your sexuality. Sexual expression takes many forms and is a very complicated behavior. We must not be judgmental towards ourselves or towards others if we happen to not approve of these forms. Whatever happens between consenting adults is between them.

That being said, sex elicits powerful emotions, and it can be dangerous to your psychic well-being if it is seen as mere “fooling around.” Another common phrase is “hooking-up.” If you are hooking up, remember the point I made above about honesty. Ditto for “cheating.”

Sex becomes spiritual when it is used to express love and to connect to another person on a deep level.

Above I talked about getting the ugly out of your life. Erotica has its place, but too much pornography can warp your view about sex. The focus is on the physical to the detriment of the emotional and spiritual.

Transcendence

Transcendence may come from your experience of God or from standing in awe of the cosmos.
Transcendence may come from your experience of God or from standing in awe of the cosmos. | Source

Experience “transcendence.”

Religion and belief in God is one way to experience transcendence which I describe as a feeling of connection to the universe, a feeling that transcends everyday existence.

I experience transcendence when I look up into a night sky filled with stars and contemplate the vastness of the cosmos. I feel transcendence when I experience the beauty of the natural world. I feel transcendence when a young baby grasps my finger with his tiny hand.

Some people experience transcendence when they meditate. I recommend trying meditation.

Transcendence is an important part of being in harmony with the universe. It is my definition of spiritual.

Toward a Psychology of Awakening: Buddhism, Psychotherapy, and the Path of Personal and Spiritual Transformation
Toward a Psychology of Awakening: Buddhism, Psychotherapy, and the Path of Personal and Spiritual Transformation

The spiritual teachings of Buddha melded with the psychological insights of the West bringing together the personal, the intrapersonal, and the suprapersonal--the relationship with the self, with others, and with the Higher Power (as you define it).

 

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      Lorelei Cohen 2 years ago from Canada

      There really is so much anger and hurt in the news now that it is a real battle to shake off the negativity and maintain a positive kind attitude. I believe it is a necessity though to finding true inner contentment within oneself.

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      Catherine Giordano 2 years ago from Orlando Florida

      Lady Lorelei: You are so right about the negativity in the news. Between climate change and terrorism and random mass murder I sometimes feel that humanity will go extinct. I just ask everyone to keep putting positive thoughts and deeds out into the world and hope that goodness prevails. Thank you for your comment.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I can easily state that my spiritual balance is infinitely better today than it was ten years ago. As long as I show improvement I'm pretty happy since perfect is out of reach for me. :)

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      Catherine Giordano 2 years ago from Orlando Florida

      Billybuc: Perfect is out of reach for everyone. Like you, I feel that my spiritual life is in better balance as I get older. I read you hubs and you seem pretty balanced to me despite some craziness in your earlier life. Or maybe because of that craziness.

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      CrisSp 2 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      Me-Time is very important for me. I have to have it regularly and that's how I recharge my battery (self) as well.

      Very enlightening hub. Voted up.

      Love and twinkle to you from the sky. ~

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      Catherine Giordano 2 years ago from Orlando Florida

      CrisSp: Good for you. Sometimes it feels like Me-Time goes to the bottom of my list of priorities. (I noticed that I gave more words to the section on self than either of the other two.) You can't have spiritual balance unless you take time to de-stress.

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      FlourishAnyway 2 years ago from USA

      There is so much negativity in the news, especially the local news, that I prefer not to watch it any more. I used to be a news junkie, especially politics. Now, nothing. When I do catch it, I often find that there are stories such anything about ISIS that bums me for a long time. I can't do anything about those things, so really why worry?

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      Catherine Giordano 2 years ago from Orlando Florida

      Thank you, FlourishAnyway. I agree. You cannot maintain a good spiritual balance when your head is filled with ugly things that you can't do anything about. thanks for commenting.

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      poetryman6969 2 years ago

      This way of thinking seems to promote peace, harmony and serenity. Be blessed.

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      Catherine Giordano 2 years ago from Orlando Florida

      Thank you Poetryman6969. Peach, harmony, and serenity sums it up very well.

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      Marc Hubs 2 years ago from United Kingdom

      Another excellent hub. Personally, I stopped watching television, listening to radio and reading the news many years ago and I feel like a completely different person now. For the last couple of years I have been on a path of spiritual enlightenment and have reached a point where I feel at one with the universe, so I could definitely relate to this hub.

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      Catherine Giordano 2 years ago from Orlando Florida

      Sparkster: I am so impressed with your accomplishment toward living a more spiritual life. I appreciate your endorsement of my ideas. Thanks for commenting. It was an inspiration to me.

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      Oztinato 2 years ago

      These ideas come directly out of religion. Taoism is a religion with gods, reincarnation, enlightenment, temples,chants, rituals, temples etc etc

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      Catherine Giordano 2 years ago from Orlando Florida

      Oztinato: Some of the philosophy of "The Tao" has been incorporated into religions. The Tao itself is just a philosophy of life. In any event, I thought I had made clear that I simply use the word "tao" to mean a path and not Taoism as a religion as it may exist today. Spirituality can be found within and without religion. In this hub, I explain my ideas about spirituality as the relationship you have with yourself, with others, and with the cosmos/nature/Higher Power. I advocate balance.

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      Mary Norton 2 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      I am glad you stressed spirituality is not religion. I have learned earlier that one can't neglect spiritual growth. As you've said, balance is key.

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      Catherine Giordano 2 years ago from Orlando Florida

      aesta1: Thank you for your comment. My definition of spirituality does not involve religion unless you want it to. To me spirituality is you relationship to the universe including your inner self.

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