The Terrible Remarks People Make About Your Weight! Body Shaming!
Do They Call You Fat?
I'm sure you have thought about the terrible things people say about weight? I have, I know there are lots of people with this kind of problem. Nasty rude fat remarks people make. You're not alone, I have received many. People never call me fat, but it's their meaning with the remarks they make. Weight is an issue in this country. The governor of New York is trying to take large soft drinks away from people. The government is also checking what mother’s are putting in kids lunches.
I'm short, so even five pounds on me shows up very fast. I may be only ten pounds over my weight goal, but it looks fat on me. Thank goodness my weight goal has gone up I could never keep my weight at 100 pounds. That's the advantage to getting old the weight scale goes up.
I go up and down with my weight. I stay on Weight Watchers. I have to weigh in and face the leader each week it keeps me from gaining more.
I'm a stressful eater. My husband the minute he gets stressed he loses weight because he stops eating. When he's happy he gains weight.
Here are some of the nasty remarks I have heard through the years.
I'm well over my weight goal now so I do need to lose.
Nowadays it's called body shaming and it's awful for people. The internet has made things so much worse. There are people online that just look for reasons to be nasty. Children are going through this from classmates online. Body shaming bullies. These bullies shy my granddaughter because she was thin. They would say she had anorexia.
Skinny Photo Taken Long Ago.
A List of Remarks People Have Made To Me
Once I was walking in a hallway in the Mall when a couple teen boys walked past me and went "oink, oink."
Mother introduced me as her fat daughter. My mother is a very lovely person and loves her children, but she can never drop the fat thing.
Once while visiting in RI downtown Newport. A truck passed by with three or four men in it, construction workers. They yelled two by four at me.
A so-called friend once said to me, you've gained at least four sizes since I have known you. This was said by a heavy man. He knew me when I was only 95 lbs.
My mother and I were standing at the window doing dishes when the lady down the road came outside she was about 300 lbs. my mother said: "She looks like you" at the time I had just had a baby and weighed 115 lbs. I have pictures of myself on vacation how I wish I looked like those pictures now. No matter how much I weigh my mother will always think I'm fat. She thinks just about everyone she sees is fat.
Trying to join a swim class at the Y for health reasons than knowing a person there is saying how fat I am. I stop going to the class because I found out what was being said. No one will ever see me in a swimsuit again. I don't let people bother me too much, but this is more than I can even take.
Once had a neighborhood lady say to me when I was about 7-8 months pregnant, she had heard I went way overboard on my weight gain. Through the whole pregnancy, I only gained 25 lbs. Just the amount the doctor allowed me to gain. I wasn't overweight when I started out. It was my third pregnancy. We women all know how we feel so big while pregnant and then have someone make an unkind remark hurts. I thought I was doing so good kind, proud of myself. After the remark the woman made, I was no longer proud.
My first pregnancy I gained 35 lbs. the nurse and the doctor yelled at me each time I went in for a check-up. They made me feel like not going in. When I went in for delivery they were still on me about it. For crying out loud, it was too late. My first pregnancy was why I was careful with my weight with the next two pregnancies.
My second pregnancy I was two pounds overweight, so the doctor allowed me to gain 23 lbs. I went over I gained 25 lbs. He didn't yell. He always reminded me not to gain more. When the baby was born, she was 8 lbs. 41/2 ozs. The doctor came in the room a day later patted my tummy and said you need exercise. Geez, just let me get home with my baby and enjoy her before going on about my weight. When I saw Kate Middleton's tummy after she had George I realize I wasn't any bigger than she was when I had my babies.
I had two heart attacks when I was 38. People would say to me "Well, now maybe you will take better care of yourself.” As if they did everything perfect, but I didn't. At the time, my weight was 115. I had a houseful of kids, animals, and husband I took care of each day. I gardened, bowled, walked and helped my husband get wood. I was very active and didn't overeat never ate fast food. I made meals at home with fresh food. We had a large vegetable garden and our own chickens.
I had a friend stop by my house, I hadn't seen since I was seventeen and the first thing she said to me, "I can't believe you would gain weight." When I was seventeen I weighed about 95 lbs. it's hard for anyone to stay the same weight forever. Karma will get you for making that kind of remark. Karma got her.
I was once compared to a friend, someone thought we were sisters. This person is way overweight and they thought we looked like sisters because of our weight. I don't even understand it. I was never anywhere close to her weight and we don't look alike at all. I don't understand people who say those things. I guess I never will. This was also a family member who made the remark.
I once had a person say to me, "I will never wear a size 12." Well, she does now, at least, a size 12. Payback when you start making fun of the size clothes someone wears. It will come back to bite you every time. Karma got her.
When one of my babies was two months old I decided I had to learn how to drive. I needed to get the kids to doctor appointments. I didn't want to depend on other people. While in the driving class I talked to another lady and she said to me, "You need to exercise to lose your tummy." I knew this woman about two weeks. My baby was three months old. Hard to believe anyone would say such a thing to another person. The reason I remembered this was I saw the woman yesterday in the store. My baby is now in her 40's, but I never forgot what this woman said to me. She has gained some weight. I don't think she remembered me.
I have more to add to this list once I remember them all. The list goes on and on. I have no idea why people think it's alright to say anything they want. I would never be so rude as to say anything nasty to anyone. I keep trying to lose my weight. I struggle with it each day. Sometimes you just want to say: "Oh, forget it eat what you want."
I was once at a funeral and I wore a dress which was high wasted. Someone wanted to know if I was pregnant. They didn't ask me they ask someone else and the person, let me know what they said.
Look at what celebrities go through with their weight and what the tabloids say about them. It always surprises me at what people consider fat. Jessica Simpson is a size four in this picture.
Just go on the internet and see what terrible things they're saying about Jessica Simpson just because they think she has put on some weight.
Just look what they're doing to Jessica because she gained weight during her pregnancy. I have heard other stars tell about the weight they gained. It was as much as Jessica has gained. Jessica seems to be the one they like to pick on. She always seems like a happy person I'm not sure why people dislike her.
There are some Florida doctors refusing to treat overweight women.
There is nothing you can do about ignorant people. You just have to go on and be happy with yourself.
I saw a pretty young woman yesterday I had not seen in a long time. I know she has three little girls, pretty little things with bouncy curly hair. I was shocked by the weight she had put on I could tell she was breathing hard as she tried to do her work. I don't know if she has health problems could be the cause of the weight gain. She very well is completely happy with herself just the way she is.
I felt bad for her because I know she very likely goes through much each day from people she meets. Many people have this attitude if they say something about your weight it will help you lose it. WRONG! It just causes more sadness and in some more eating.
I'm not unhappy with myself, but it seems many people are unhappy with me.
I have heard it said fat people don't realize they're fat so they have to be told. They underestimate their weight. What an untrue statement. Everyone knows what their weight is. They may decide to ignore it, but only because they feel lost and unable to go about losing the weight. All we have to do is walk in front of a mirror, we will know what our weight is. Just getting on a scale, we can see it in the numbers.
Men like Charles Barkley make it worse with what they think are funny jokes. I don't think his jokes are funny, but I don't expect him to apologize. He's just an unkind man and nothing we can do about it. Actually, all the men at the table were in on it and laughing.
I hate the word obese.
My most hated word: "OBESE!"
A BMI over 25 suggests you're overweight while 30-39 indicates you're obese.
They're doing BMI charts for kids in school. Girls coming home thinking they're overweight. What will this do to our kids I don't think it will help. It's fine to teach healthy eating in school and let kids know what they should eat, but to embarrass them by doing BMI is just crazy. It is not up to our schools but for our doctors to manage. You know there will be children asking the overweight child what their BMI was. You know the child will have a hard time lying about it. Overweight children have a hard enough time in school with being bullied this will just add to it. I know they will be asked questions about their weight.
I'm asked about my weight all the time in WW. These are questions I don't want to answer. I try not to ask other people because I don't care how they did, but once they ask me then, I will ask them how they did. I just truly don't care and I don't like putting people on the spot. They have to lie if they feel they need to cover up their gain. Many people will lie because they're embarrassed.
A federal agent inspects lunches in North Carolina and tells a child her lunch is not good enough. What the heck does this mean we are now having agents looking into our child's food. This child had a lunch and it was not a bad lunch at all. We're losing our rights to feed our kids the way we want. Our kids are being told we're bad parents because of the way we feed them.
I understand making sure a child has food to eat while they're in school and not going hungry. I know children come to school hungry this happens every day in schools. Checking their lunch, that's crazy.
You're Not Alone
People have their own way of dealing with their weight and should be left alone. We're grown ups we have to be able to make our own decisions. I hope this hub has helped others to realize they are not alone, terrible things people say happens every day to many people.
A Little Word To Grandmothers
A comment on this hub reminded me about what my mother once said. She said to my daughter and my niece when they were about 12. My mother had made cookies, so she sat the girls at the table gave them a big glass of milk and some cookies. This was a fun, happy thing for the little girls, but my mother ruined it for them. She said to them, "You girls are getting so chubby you shouldn't be eating cookies." The girls are in their 40s they still talk about the remark she made.
She also saw our son who she hadn't seen for years instead of saying "I love you" and giving him a big hug. She said, "You've gotten so fat." He never forgot what she said and still brings it up.
This grandmother has alienated her grandchildren from her. Most of her grandchildren won't visit with her because she just can't be a sweet, nice grandmother. She should love her grandchildren no matter what. All she seems to know is how to criticize.
She's gone now lived to be just a few days away from her 93rd birthday.
After my husband and mom passed away my weight went up. I wasn't eating the right foods and I was very depressed. My sugar went up. My blood pressure was up. I have never had problems with my blood pressure. I knew I had to do something. I didn't want to take pills.
When the snow went away I started walking my little dog. One day I stopped at the animal shelter and got another small dog. I have two to walk now. I walk them at least, six times a day. I have a path to the meadow and that's where we walk. I can go right out my back door and right onto the path. I lost what I gained plus some.
Kids love you no matter what.
Visit this lady's blog and see what her kids did.