The Thin Line Between Sanity and Insanity - Is Everyone Born Sane?
Before you read this hub I would like to make you aware that I do not condone any type of violent or hateful behavior.
What Causes Some People to Cross the Line
We are all taught to treat others the way we would want others to treat us. The differences of what is right and what is wrong is instilled in our brains at a young age. We are taught to love and not to hate. But why do so many of us cross the line between right and wrong everyday? What causes one to cross the line between sanity and insanity? The line is always right there in front of us, but why do some cross it to the extreme and others walk away causing no harm? It happens everyday, every hour or even every minute, some have the power to think and others lose control causing damaging consequences on themselves and/or others. Is it something we are born with or something that is taught to us? Or is it something that some of us just learn on our own like self control. Here are a few examples of what I mean.
Physical Harm to Another Person
We are all faced with another person at one time or another that just gets on our nerves. Someone that makes you so angry you just want to smack them. But not everyone follows through. But some do follow through and may cross two lines at once. What I mean by this is that some people just have the thought of smacking or hitting someone else but would never act on it no matter how angry or annoyed they get at another person. Then there are those that would smack or hit the other person to a certain degree. Yes they are wrong for physical harm but they didn't do anything that extreme. Then you have the cases of someone beating another person to death just over the simple fact of being angry with that person. The first person uses self control and deals with it in a positive way, the second person crosses the line into the wrong, and the third person crosses the line into insanity. But why can't the third person just walk away and what is different between all three of them? Did they each get taught differently through life or were they born differently?
I know there are all different forms of child abuse and each form is no better than the other. Child Abuse is wrong on every level and there are no minor forms in my eyes. But what causes some to lose complete control and take it out on a child. I am a mother of 4 children. My children are not angels, they break rules and have to face their consequences. I believe in spanking and also disagree with spanking. My kids know that if they do something very wrong they make get A smack on the rear. It doesn't happen often but it does happen. I know for myself if any one of my kids have me to the point of complete anger I will not even think of smacking them. Mostly because I feel that if I am that angry I may smack them harder than I would if I was less angry. No matter how mad they have me at that moment I will walk away from them or send them to their room. Why am I able to make that decision while other can not? I was spanked as a child so what stops me from spanking them every time they misbehave? What causes parents to beat their children? Why can they not just walk away? A child is just that, a child. They are not born knowing right from wrong, we spend years teaching it to them. How can we as adults lose control that badly to harm our children? Why doesn't everyone realize how much stronger you get when you are angry and just walk away and calm down? We as parents know what it is like to feel like you are going to snap, or feel like knocking your kid's head off, but the fact is we don't do it. You come close to that line but you stay on the right side never crossing over. But why can't everyone stay on that side?
Love is something I think you are taught from the moment you are born. The love you feel from your parents and family shows you how to love others. I don't think you are born knowing to love. But for some of us even love is dangerous. You go through life loving others, some will love you back and some will not, some will accept your love and some will reject your love leaving you in heartache. But those are all lessons in love that shape us as we grow. What causes some to be so blinded by love that they do unimaginable things? It is one thing to love someone and drive by their house with them unaware, but there is the other side of stalking someone because you love them so much and they do not love you the same. People will kill for love, being the person they love or the person keeping them from the one they love. The person you may love may not always love you back, what causes some of us to react so dangerously to this rejection, while others just chalk it up to heartache and move on? Or you love someone so much and you hurt them because the thought of them loving another is just to much for you to handle. Where is that type of love learned?
Hate is a strong power. How do we learn to hate? I know as a parent this is not something I am teaching my kids, so where does it come from? I think hate is the worst thing of all. It can cause unimaginable pain for everyone without having any special reason for doing so. What I am trying to say is that someone can hate the face you made and in return for bothering them take your life. People can hate everything, from the grass to the sky and everything in between. They can hate people based on race, religion, styles, etc... With all the possibilities it makes the world a scary place for all of us. But again what causes some to act so unimaginable just because they hate something. I hate when it is very loud, so why can I contain my feelings and not put everyone around me in danger? Why can someone take the lives of others and say it is because they hate those person's beliefs, race, etc.? A lot of the times the person who harms that other person knows nothing about the person in general, nothing about their life, to the person committing the act they just picked someone in the category of what they hated. How unfair is that to everyone else? How do you even begin to put a stop to it?
Sane or Insane?
What causes some to live a sane life while others live an insane life? Why do some cross the line but other do not? Do our genes play a factor in self control, or how we love or hate? Will we ever know the truth to why some can stop but others can't? Is it in our control to always do the right thing or is the fact of the matter none of us have complete control and at any moment we may cross that line?