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The Things Lost and Gained

Updated on October 21, 2016

What Makes Me Smile

I am a Barcelona fan and love the colors on this emblem.
I am a Barcelona fan and love the colors on this emblem. | Source
The view is great.
The view is great. | Source
My new attempt in making nut liquor the walnuts are soaking in the alcohol in a sunny spot to mature easily that is something to look forward to.
My new attempt in making nut liquor the walnuts are soaking in the alcohol in a sunny spot to mature easily that is something to look forward to. | Source
The mountainous region in a shady color.
The mountainous region in a shady color. | Source
My surroundings takes me further in thought.
My surroundings takes me further in thought. | Source
The beautiful sunset.
The beautiful sunset. | Source
Great features of the mountains.
Great features of the mountains. | Source

Life is challenging!

I lost and have gained many moments.

I lost a part of me, and have gained a whole lot of love together with family and friends and filled that void.

An increased knowledge of true living showed me more about life.

I have gained happiness and freedom.

I can't get back what I had once lost and sometimes felt unhappy about the change in my life.

I don't understand my life the way it all began what I once was just feels very different to my new life.

I yearn to be but fail to be.

I want to be happy and am happy. On the days when I feel good something occurs to upset me. I fall right back to the old thoughts.

Nothing will be the same again and too much has changed and my life just says it all.

My positive mind allows me to think more and do more of what I need to make my life a good one but at times that don't matter to me.

I feel like I am falling away.

Deep down I don't want to do it anymore.

Life is no bed of roses, and on certain days I want to run away from it all. The lovely free life has given me more courage to stay and live and let be.

My plans are enormous and so useful to me.

The negative people drain me from my good energy. I got to stay away from that negativity.

I did not grow up with a negative life but now it is like I can't escape from this negativity.

I am better off on my own and not with any disturbances when I am around certain people I feel so drained and feel less energetic.

I grew to accept a different life and a new kind of life that gave me the chance to explore and know myself much better.

Bad days affect everyone and if you think that life is perfect then you are wrong.

No life is rosy and cheerful, all days are not good days.

Life has its cause you have to live with it, ignore it, put up with it, or walk away from your situation.

I have come to live in a foreign country and still have those days when I wish, ''I did not.'' or the words, ''should have'' comes to mind.

Those days don't vanish and I have to live with what I know makes me feel the greatest.

My new sunny days and lovely friends open up my good thoughts.

I enjoy certain days while other days feel bleak writing about how I feel allows me to feel good about me all over again.

A laughter is good that is my best medicine and I don't hang on what others think is good for me I know what I need to feel good what they think would ruin my thoughts.

As tough as it all has been I have to see myself for who I am and accept me for who I am.

I live the way I like and have made the necessary changes to my life as a good one.

The way I choose to live is my option and only I can make my life happy nobody could do that for me.

It is easy to look at how others live and how they pass their days my days are different and simple for me.

I avoid the strenuous work to not have too many aches and pains which as yet don't have and feel well and healthy in that way.

I sometimes feels like I can't do it, like I hate everything around me.

I am, however, very grateful for my loved ones, and enjoy my new days with much laughter the true kind of laughter that comes from within.

What I had lost I will not have again but I can still start of new and look ahead of what has got me to this point in my life.

The greater challenges and new experiences has opened my mind to a new culture and always a new moment.

Days come and days go without a focus of what was but only with what is my best way of thinking.

I tried and I found myself in a better place. I look and I see, I talk and I am who I am. Nothing can be taken away from achievements and my hard work has paid off in some way.

I may not have noticed how but feel that goodness.

I have is love, happiness and good health all that matters to me for now and forever. To enjoy my life whenever possible to be t hat woman who can share her thoughts to her readers and her strong words to her family.

The meaning of true living is how I choose to be not of what others think I should be and do.

My opinions matter most than others I like my life the way it is what will be only remains to be seen my thoughts are great and powerful.

What I think is from the heart, I do from the heart, and I smile from the heart. The heart knows better and my less-stressful life shows that too.

I have what makes me laugh and I have what makes me cry if I feel down I cry to let out my frustrations and disappointments it does make me feel better to shed some tears.

Crying may not be for everyone and works fine with me and not all the time only when I feel all knotted-up.

  • Ever felt that knotted-up feeling and you just wanted to let go with some tears?

As crying is good to let and let be I don't always fall into tears.

I manage my days with a good walk though recently I have not been for my long walks it feels so different and hectic.

I like to be on my own to work at what I want without being told how to unless I require the advise of another then only do I ask for it.

My strong mind proves that to me.

I need to clear my thoughts and require a full mind of things.

I learned right from wrong and sometimes I feel that what I have learned in my new life has made me this way.

  • What I knew and now know has changed me in many ways:

I like doing and being the following:

Prefer to be with family more than friends

Look at my life in positive way.

Avoid negative people

Look for what makes me happy

Life made my appearance new

Love and care more.

Look for good moments and face the bad moments with great courage.

Is happier making my own decisions, I decide for myself.

Look forward to each day with a new thought.

The less-stressed feeling and more freedom has shown me of my life.

Enjoy working around the house.

I like meeting new people.

Don't forgive and know what I want from my life.

I have not always been this way but since my life has changed so much I choose to be sometimes harsh, sometimes soft.

Telling lies is not what I enjoy doing it would hold me back from achieving my goals.

I prefer telling the truth the side of me that shows from all sides.

Feel Happy

Feel less stressful

Does Crying help you let go of what hurts you the most?

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Don't give up in life

The open-minded writer who enjoys sharing her interests.
The open-minded writer who enjoys sharing her interests. | Source

© 2014 Devika Primić

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      MG Singh 3 years ago from Singapore

      Nice hub DDE. You have lovely ideas

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      Dave 3 years ago from Lancashire north west England

      Laughter is the best medicine and crying is a back up to alleviate the hurt. Your wonderful outlook and confident personality will see you through to a warm and happy future. Great Hub. Voted up. useful and interesting.

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      Dave 3 years ago from Lancashire north west England

      ps-- {I am a Liverpool fan but I love to watch Barcelona hope they come through against Athletico Madrid next week. }

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      Yvette Stupart PhD 3 years ago from Jamaica

      Thanks DDE. Your hub challenged me to focus on the blessings I enjoy. I also found the video clip helpful.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Well done

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      kidscrafts 3 years ago from Ottawa, Canada

      Great hub, Devika! Life brings us challenge and we have to go with the flow otherwise it will brake us. And I think that with all the changes that life brings us, it pushes us to change also.

      Sorry if I have not come for a while but I have a lot of work at the moment and I have to take a pause from HP for a while! I wanted to stop and let you know! I am not deserting you ;-)

      Take care! Have a lovely day!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      We live, we learn, we laugh, we cry, we embrace, we fear....we are humans.

      Lovely thoughts my friend.

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      Nell Rose 3 years ago from England

      Hi, I do feel for you, by changing countries you have lost your roots, and roots are really important. just by moving into another town I felt lost! I am glad to be back where I belong, but you are a strong person, you will make it into yours so to speak, great hub, Devika, I am sure you will do well, nell

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      jtrader 3 years ago

      What we have lost is in the past. By looking back too often we often miss the things around us in the present.

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      ARUN KANTI CHATTERJEE 3 years ago from KOLKATA

      Many persons are more willing to think and speak negatively about themselves than they are to give a positive spin. Yes negative thoughts ruin our self-esteem If we feel badly about ourselves we are at greater risk of being depressed and dissatisfied with our lives and it can affect the quality of our relationships, So it is better to be in positive frame of mind and instead of lamenting what has been lost we should think over what may be achieved now or in the future.

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      Martie Coetser 3 years ago from South Africa

      Life is indeed no bed of roses. But thank heavens we have the right and the ability to change our circumstances. If we really cannot change it, we can always change our attitudes. A positive attitude enables us to focus on the roses instead of on the thorns.

      Ignore negative people - they are the thorns on the rose bush and they will always hurt you. Don't let them!

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      Linda Crampton 3 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      You have been courageous in dealing with a new country, culture and language, Devika. I know the journey must have been hard. Congratulations on the success that you have had so far and best wishes for the future.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      thank you MG Singh

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      D.A.L. thank you for all the votes. In the English first league my bes team is Liverpool and in the Spanish league its Barcelona so kind of you to come by your presence is greatly appreciated.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Purpose Embraced thank you

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Ericdierker thank you

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hello kidscrafts so nice to read your comments I was thinking it has been a while since you write something new I fully understand thank you for coming by have a great weekend.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi billybuc well mentioned thank you

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Nell thank you kindly for the encouraging words your presence is always appreciated.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      jtrader great point made ''What we have lost is in the past. By looking back too often we often miss the things around us in the present.'' Thank you.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      ARUN KANTI thank you kindly for sharing such great words and so true I try my best to be positive and focus on my future plans

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      MartieCoetser ''Ignore negative people - they are the thorns on the rose bush and they will always hurt you. Don't let them!'' So true and I am doing just that thank you for sharing such a positive message.

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 3 years ago from The Caribbean

      " I like my life the way it is." That's hard to beat. You have gained more than many.

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      CraftytotheCore 3 years ago

      This is a really great Hub. It's amazing how others can affect our moods. You said it here, "The meaning of true living is how I choose to be not of what others think I should be and do." It takes a lot to learn this because as humans we are always seeking approval. We have expectations that are set high. So when we feel disappointed, it brings a negative feeling over us.

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      Raymond Philippe 3 years ago from The Netherlands

      "My new sunny days and lovely friends open up my good thoughts." What a lovely thought!

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      FlourishAnyway 3 years ago from USA

      You have been through so much change. Search for something that inspires you and don't give up. You are a special person, Devika.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      AliciaC thank you for sharing such great words here thank you

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi MsDora an absolute truth and so kind of you to come by.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi CraftytotheCore I enjoyed reading your comment and so good of you to stop by your true words allow me to see myself in a much more positive way. Thank you

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      raymondphilippe thank you very much for showing an interest in my hubs have a lovely weekend.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      FlourishAnyway so true and still coping with much only time will tell thank you for sharing your thoughts at my hubs.

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      Jo Alexis-Hagues 3 years ago from Bedfordshire, U.K

      Devika, I agree with Flourish, you have achieved so much and life is full of opportunities. I think as we travel through life, the wonderful things we encounter we can never lose, even though we want to hold on tight to them for as long as possible. The time comes when we must let go and move on, you've done this admirable. There will always be good times and bad times, but in my experience, the good times helps us get through the bad. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and reflection, always interesting and though-provoking.

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      Nithya Venkat 3 years ago from Dubai

      Life is full of changes and ups and downs. You have made the best of what life has given you. Great hub.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi tobusiness your true words are so helpful thank you for a lovely comment

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Vellur thank you for sharing such kind words

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      John Hansen 3 years ago from Queensland Australia

      Devika, no life is perfect and it seems like you have your good and bad days as do we all. Just be positive and concentrate on all the good things. It will all work out. Good hub. You write from the heart.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Jodah thank you for such an encouraging comment your positive words lets me know it is part of life

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      Cherylann Mollan 3 years ago from India

      The honesty touched my heart. Your strong personality, wonderful thoughts and brilliant writing skills are admirable and inspirational. I once read this wonderful line that I want to share with you here. It goes like this, "Nobody said life would be easy, they just promised it would be worth it." :)

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Cherylann Mollan "Nobody said life would be easy, they just promised it would be worth it." :) Those are true words and so meaningful the ups and downs of life will go on and is not perfect thank you for sharing such kind words.

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      Harish Mamgain 3 years ago from India

      So apt description of what life is all about. You are right life is not always rosy, it throws some thorns also on our way and has some surprises kept for us. I love the way you take on onslaughts of life and make it beautiful with your fine thinking and bold attitude. Well-written hub, Devika, voted up.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Harishprasad, thank you for the vote up and so glad you came by take care.

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      Boo McCourt 3 years ago from Washington MI

      I like reading your hubs, you have such a gentle way of looking at life. Even when the worst times overpower you, you strive to see something positive. That is inspiring.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi crazybeanrider thank you very much for such an encouraging comment your kindness is greatly appreciated.

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      shelpeare 3 years ago

      They say that experience is the worst teacher. It gives you the test first and then teaches you the lesson. We have to focus on the positive and not on the negative. As Philippians 4:8 says "Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things."

      In fact, like a photographer, we must transform the negatives into a beautiful picture by learning from the negatives and allowing those lessons to transform us to make us stronger and better.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      ''In fact, like a photographer, we must transform the negatives into a beautiful picture by learning from the negatives and allowing those lessons to transform us to make us stronger and better.'' shelpeare thank you kindly.

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