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The importance of encouragement in life! Changes it for the better!

Updated on August 18, 2014

‘Correction does much, but encouragement does more.’- Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe

When you face persistent failures in life you feel depressed and miserable. You also feel that your life is meaningless and aimless. Do you know what you want most is this traumatic phase of your life?

You need some words of encouragement to say that you are worthy and capable. Your morale is boosted when you hear encouraging words about your ability!

A stage performer needs the applause of the audience to perform even better. A child is in absolute glee at your words of encouragement when he takes his first tottering steps. An employee wants to give his best when his work is appreciated by the management.

So everyone needs some sort of encouragement in their life. Why does your mind seek words of support? The modern world is very harsh and mercenary. You are thrust aside unworthy of notice when you face failures. You are also respected for what you are worth.

You face harsh situations and there are times when you feel absolutely pulled down by the negative comments you hear about you. Your mind crumbles in dejection and frustration. You feel terribly friendless and lost.

When I was facing many traumatic situations in my life my mind screamed for some words of encouragement and support. I got it from my family. I need not say that their encouragement and support helped me pull through the miserable phase of my life with some hope.

What happens when you are left alone to fend for yourself when you are in the doldrums? You feel that no one understands your capacity and talent. Terrible loneliness envelops you.

What are the sort of encouragements you need?

  • You want to be shown that you are worthy
  • You want appreciation for your hard work.
  • You want the moral support of your spouse.
  • You want your friends to encourage you.

Encouragement in your workplace

Your work decides how successful you are in your life. You face tough competition from your colleagues and you have to compete with them to prove your worth for the management. You work hard with the aim of moving up the ladder of success.

But what happens when the management keeps criticizing your work and makes you appear as a worthless contributor to their company. You hate your work atmosphere don’t you? A sense of frustration envelops you.

Let us reverse the situation! What happens when the management appreciates your contribution to the company? You feel at the top of the world, don’t you? You feel absolutely worthy and you want to do better and better in your work. This is the magic of encouragement.

Encouragement in marriage relationship

Most marriages would work fine if couples encouraged each other. But this never happens in modern marriages. In actual fact you accuse and demean your spouse rather than encourage him\her. Wife overlooks the contribution of her husband to the family. She nags him about his irresponsibility and disorganization. Her encouragement could have made her the queen of his life.

Husband fails to understand that his wife is the pillar of strength in the family. He takes for granted that it is her duty to look after the family. He never appreciates her hard work, her strength in handling family issues. He coolly enjoys the comfort she gives him. He fails miserably as a good husband.

If only couples know the magic of encouragement! It makes you come closer to each other because your spouse knows that you value him\her. Most marriage struggle because you do not encourage and appreciate your spouse.

Your children too need encouragement

Ask your children what they dislike about you. Their answer is invariably that they hate their parents when they make discouraging comments about their ability. They also hate it when you compare them negatively with other children.

Encouraged children are always very happy and loving. They do not develop complexities of a discouraged child.

‘I consider my ability to arouse enthusiasm among men the greatest asset I possess. The way to develop the best that is in a man is by appreciation and encouragement.’- Charles Schwab

Every human being wants to be loved and appreciated. But sadly most of you go unnoticed and unobserved. Encouragement can make you a new and confident person. Encouraging and appreciative words make you move along your life with courage and confidence.

© 2014 mathira


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      Wendy Zijdel 3 years ago from Lusaka, Zambia

      Encouragement is seeing the beauty in someone and acknowledging it. It about sending out loving energy to someone, and 'seeing' the person. I think it is a crucial important part in any relationship. Thank you for placing this under our attention.

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      mathira 3 years ago from chennai

      Thank you elle64 for your visit.

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      mathira 3 years ago from chennai


      I think the best encouragement I got was from my husband. Though he is no more I have nostalgic memories on his words of appreciation and encouragement for all I did. Encouragement is the best medicine for many relationship problems, but no one seems to understand its proper value.

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      mathira 3 years ago from chennai

      Yes billy, the craving to be encouraged is lifelong. It does make us feel worthy and valuable.

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      mathira 3 years ago from chennai

      MsDora, thank you for the visit. I always feel energetic when someone encourages me. I am one parent who feel that encouragement brings the best out of your children.

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      Denise W Anderson 3 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

      Encouragement is indeed magic! It is amazing what a few words of encouragement will do to a person! Criticism is never constructive, in my opinion, no matter how we look at it. Far better are a few words to keep us feeling that we are worthwhile, appreciated and loved!

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      elle64 3 years ago from Scandinavia

      True .True,Some excellent points to consider

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Excellent points my friend. I don't know of anyone who doesn't like encouragement now and then.

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      Dora Weithers 3 years ago from The Caribbean

      I can identify with the sentiments you express. I like attention, appreciation, the encouragement--the whole deal. It's just good to know that you matter to someone, and that someone has your interest at heart. Thanks for this article.