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Start a Brand New Day! ~Tools to improve your life: How to get over negative thoughts

Updated on December 4, 2012

Things I needed to improve on as I got older

PLEASE DO NOT COMMENT ON THIS HUB UNTIL YOU HAVE READ IT IN ENTIRETY!!!!!

Isn't that what life is about? Evolving or growing and changing is a must if we want to get better whether spiritually, mentally, emotionally, or just in manners and etiquette.

So here is a list of 10 Things I personally have worked on ~~that you might like to try some as well.

  1. Listening

We have 2 ears and 1 mouth which means we should listen more than we speak.

2. Taking good care of a pet

This may not seem a big deal but for many it gives them an idea slightly of what having children may be like..........believe me when your cat meows all night or wants constant attention, it's sort of similar!!

3. Keep a blessings journal

I haven't done this consistently, but I know many a person who benefited of it, and changed their view into a more positive one. What do you do? Daily, you write in your journal all the good things that have happened--you think hard and write down even "little" things. Try it!!

4. Dressing Nice

This also may seem obvious but it isn't always. Ladies, have you ever been a tomboy or gotten into a phase where you stopped paying attention to your makeup or how you dress? If you're looking for a man (or you're a man looking for a woman) it's really important (out of courtesy) to not just shower and be clean, but to really try and match your clothes (See my hub on tips for matching clothes!) and have neat hairdo, and overall look presentable. Most people I think find this attractive and nice and you will get compliments. [Just don't go around with a red hat, green shirt, purple pants, and yellow sneakers......lol]

5. Practice self denial

This applies to many things: food, and sex are two things. Don't eat that extra brownie or Stop feeling sorry for yourself, Pick yourself up, fight your depression or eating problem, or whatever it is. Christians call it "Dying to oneself" "Picking up your cross and following Jesus".

6. Get help!

If you have drug problems, or alcohol problems and it's ruining your family life--Get help! If you have constant moodiness or feel you need help with depression, Get help!

7. Say "I love you"

We all have situations where it can be hard; a parent who has always been mean or a relative who doesn't show affection.........Tell your loved ones and friends you love them. Let them know- it will be best in the long run and they will know you care (it's a brave thing to do!!) And if you just can't show it, then show it by doing nice things to help out :)

8. Learn new things

Never stop learning. We are suppossed to learn something new everyday but try and take a class--no matter how old. Study the pyramids on tv or watch a new artist/comedian/singer. Learn to knit-------travel-----Explore your mind, your options, your destiny-----A mind is a terrible thing to waste!!!!

9. Be brave

Being a human often requires being brave. Don't repeat the mistakes of your parents or family. Don't always stay in your comfort zone. For some: try sky diving, socialize more, be more active --go to the gym or swim, go bowling (if you don't and want to) Try a new type of food........variety is the spice of life!

10. Never give up

Another cliche you may think....but seriously don't give up on your job, your work, your God... Keep the faith, keep yourself alive! God loves you and so do many people you may not think so. Talk to people about whether you or they care--Don't assume. (that makes an ass out of u and me!) Pray- call a hotline---------Become a source of love and care for yourself and others. It will also make you feel so good and useful (to the elderly, the sick, anyone).

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~God Bless You~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~


Brand New Day by Sting

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      schoolgirlforreal 6 years ago from USA

      @PureMusic,

      thankyou! :)

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      PureMusic 7 years ago

      Great tips, I love that Sting song!

      Peace to you!

      PureMusic

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      schoolgirlforreal 7 years ago from USA

      @ Mary A,

      thanks so much for paying me a visit!

      I too, have tried to look on the positive side and a gratitude journal or blessings journal, is a great way to start that positive process!! Hope you have a great day!

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      schoolgirlforreal 7 years ago from USA

      @heart for the word,

      my boyfriend actually helped me with that! lol I was a tom boy for a long time, but dressing nice does make me look better, more presentable, and feel good (more confident)!!

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      Mary A 7 years ago

      I liked this, especially the one about keeping a Blessings Journal. Lately I have been making an effort to look at the positive side of my life.

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      heart4theword 7 years ago from hub

      Have to agree with you about dressing nice...it does make a difference in how I feel when I get dressed up, or am wearing a new outfit. Some good tips!

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      schoolgirlforreal 7 years ago from USA

      Thankyou, the clean life

      It is easy for me to make lists, to come up with ideas on improvement, but to really take them seriously- and be confident in myself- is another thing.

      Staying positive and strong to myself~there could be no better thing.

      Thankyou for that!

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      Mark Bruno 7 years ago from New Jersey Shore

      Very good tips here for all of us. Thanks for sharing them with us. Stay Positive and stay Strong to yourself.

      God Bless all of you!

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      schoolgirlforreal 7 years ago from USA

      Peg Cole17,

      Thrilled to have you visit. Glad you enjoyed the 10 steps toward making a better life. Take care! SG

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      Peg Cole 7 years ago from Dallas, Texas

      Every day we are brand new. Loved the 10 steps toward making a better life. Thanks for writing it. Number 5 is one that a lot of people find difficult. Self denial.

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      schoolgirlforreal 7 years ago from USA

      Thank you, K9, you make my day :-)

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      India Arnold 7 years ago from Northern, California

      I always find such brave and wonderful writing when I visit your hubs SG. This is no exception. I am, as always honored to read your words.

      You are an amazing person.

      K9

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      schoolgirlforreal 7 years ago from USA

      Dave,

      Thanks! Glad to see you and hope all is well! SG

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      Dave Mathews 7 years ago from NORTH YORK,ONTARIO,CANADA

      Very good reccommendations for anyone to follow. God would definitely like what is here.