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Appreciating Life Through The Eyes of a Child

Updated on October 11, 2013

When Does It Happen?

When do we become jaded with life? When do those rose-colored glasses suddenly only see black and white?

We see them all around us as we go about the business of living: The walking dead, depleted of joy and aimlessly stumbling through a life that no longer holds wonder and joy. When does that happen? When is the innocence stolen and when do the weighty issues of living outnumber the simple magical thrills?

There certainly can be no conscious decision, for who would purposely choose drudgery over magical, or skepticism over joyful acceptance?

I have seen it in my middle school students, and I have seen it in my adult neighbors. I have seen it no matter the sex, age or social standing of my fellow participants in life, and quite frankly it saddens me.

So many out there have forgotten what life looked like….

through the eyes of a child.

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A Playground for the Senses

The colors are vibrant, an endless banquet for one who can see, and a child seemingly sees all.

The odors are received, categorized and filed away for future need. The scent of safety and love in a mother’s hair; the satisfying aroma of dinner taken from the oven; even the pungency of the puppy’s poo, all there as a foundation for a life just beginning.

Touch is overwhelming at times, the smoothness of the backyard lawn, the wonderful texture of spaghetti spread through hair and the delectable softness of the pillow as they lay me down to sleep.

Everything must be tasted of course, from baby food to front walk slugs to shampoo, a learning process as old as the ages and the best teacher a child could have….experience.

Oh the sounds! Daddy’s voice, Rover’s bark, Brahm’s at bedtime and thousands of other perfect pitches to an un-tuned ear….all a symphony to be repeated over and over again.

The world was so much more vibrant when I was twelve
The world was so much more vibrant when I was twelve | Source

Blood, Sweat and Tears

Trust and Distrust: The Learning Curve

A child is not born distrustful. No, that is a learned behavior. In the beginning, a child is more than willing to trust all, for consequences have not yet been established that might chip away at that trust.

Distrust only comes from continued exposure to lies, deceit and/or painful experiences. A newborn has no perspective regarding distrust, but at some point during their learning curve they become aware that not all situations or people supply pleasure, and once pain of any sort is tossed into the mix, distrust is sure to follow closely.

A newborn welcomes the world and all who are in it with open arms. A newborn has no concept of cultural differences and is not swayed by established societal norms. They look upon a stranger with eyes of acceptance, and their smile is just as genuine for a black, white, yellow or brown man or woman.

A Small Child Cannot Spell Agenda

There is no quid pro quo with a small child. There is no thought of networking for future gain, no “you scratch my back and I’ll scratch yours” syndrome. A child hugs freely, smiles freely and interacts freely, all for the sheer joy of doing so.

Community is ingrained in the very young, a sense of togetherness and comradeship that will remain until it is driven out by acts of duplicity and self-interest. Children give naturally. Tithing is not determined by percentages of income for a child, but rather by the size of their heart.

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There Has Never Been, in the History of Time….

Statisticians will tell you that approximately 30-50 billion people have walked this planet since the beginning of time. I will have to take that figure on faith for I truly do not know, but one thing I do know with certainty is not one of those 30+ billion was born a mean child.

A newborn does not strike out in anger. A newborn does not wish ill will upon another, and a newborn does not contemplate ways of revenge. There is no spite in a child, no vitriol, and no acts of pettiness. They are born the perfect loving machines, unsullied by the darkness of the human soul.

Fifty years later I again see vibrant colors
Fifty years later I again see vibrant colors | Source

But Then….

The inevitable happens to them all.

And sadness rains down upon the landscape. Wars are started. Jealousies lead to painful encounters. Anger breeds more anger and greed, well, greed buys those who are for sale and sells those it uses and spits out.

Fear…you betcha we’ve got fear, born from years of darkened experiences, and fear gives birth to anger and anger to distrust and distrust to more fear, and the differences widen the gaps and the gaps become so pronounced, so enormous, as to seem impossible to span.

And welcome to this day in history, very similar to yesterday and yesteryear, and quite likely to next year and next decade, and all because we no longer see…

Through the eyes of a child.

2013 William D. Holland (aka billybuc)

“Helping writers to spread their wings and fly.”

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      Janine Huldie 3 years ago from New York, New York

      Bill, I am seeing some many new experiences through my girls' eyes and must tell you I have recently seen Emma at 4 years old tell her first lie and you are right happens so quickly this shift that if we blink it may pass us by. I still have a bit more innocence in Lily, but I do know my time is precious here and don't take any of it fro granted. Thank you for sharing this and couldn't agree more. Now just wishing you a wonderful Wednesday my friend!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Oh Janine, yes indeedy, the lies will come.....sigh....well, all part of the joy of being a parent, right? :) Thank you my dear and have a great day.

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      W1totalk 3 years ago

      I only know one thing. I remember the first time I would smell the combination of strawberries and cream and when they mix they make a nice combination. I also found out strawberries go bad, quickly. Great article.

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      Kimmie 3 years ago

      Very reflective and oh what we can learn from a child. Thank you for sharing such a wonderful hub.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      W1, cool memory of the strawberries and cream...I found myself thinking back to earliest memories as well. Thank you.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Kimmie! I enjoyed writing this one.

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      carol stanley 3 years ago from Arizona

      I sometimes wonder how these innocent little babies can grow into criminals and devious people. Surely they are not born that way. Again the question do we bring a trail or find the trail. As I said before some people are born happy...I was always happy and my sister was born with a more complicated beginning...She turned out fine, but always seemed a little unhappy...Believe me I am not happy every minute of the day..but I do find joy in many things..of which I am grateful..Well written and rings much truth.

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      Shauna L Bowling 3 years ago from Central Florida

      It's ironic, Bill. I was just thinking of this very issue the other day. In all honesty, this subject was going to be the core of August's Perspectives theme (from this member).

      It's a crying shame that the pure innocence with which we are born is rapidly torn away. Maybe that's why I cling so tightly to my rose-colored glasses.

      I remember the first time I spanked Christopher. In fact, I don't think I'll ever forget it. He had done something very mean to a baby at daycare. When I got him home, I sat down in the rocking chair and told him to "come here". He, of course trusted me implicitly and came right to me. I put him over my knee and spanked him. He was shocked and hurt - and so was I. In that moment I saw my son learn distrust. And I was the teacher! I don't think I can ever forgive myself for the look on his face and the loss of innocence that came about on that day.

      I thank God that time has healed our wounds.

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      Sally Gulbrandsen 3 years ago from Norfolk

      I was fortunate enough on Monday, to take a young at heart grandma and her grandson to the beach for a few short hours. The love between them exuded from their eyes and it was pure joy to watch them as they both played in the water and ran together, both holding hands. It was for me, a real pleasure to see and because I had brought my camera, just in case , I recorded that precious time togethr! The child who had perhaps only been on a beach a handful of times, did taste the water, which he declared was disgusting.

      He began by looking a little tentative at first, especially as he eyed up the waves but he grew more confident and brave and it was not long before he was laying down in the waves, fully dressed in his clothes. He was drenched through and what a lovely thing it was to see. We owe it to our children to give them these special memories. That child was larger than life when he left that beach. He had grown in stature and I know he will always remember it - and they both have the photos to remind them. Thank you again Billy, another gem. Have a lovely day.

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      DJ Anderson 3 years ago

      Bill, a very nice hub, this morning.

      It has a charming idyllic quality.

      Well written--great flow for the mind to follow.

      So sad when innocence is lost and reality sends a crushing

      blow.

      DJ.

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      Bernadyn 3 years ago from Jacksonville, Florida

      Watching and interacting with my kids lately, I wonder, too, when it changes and innocence is lost. Kids are so impressionable, they learn so quickly and I often forget this so I'm surprised when my son says something and I'm questioning where he may have picked it up. I have to remind myself to watch what I do and every little thing I say. He goes to daycare every now and then so I know he'll pick up things from there and when he starts school again this month. It is sad to see all the wrongs, crime and war in the world. Seeing the world through a child's eyes, not yet knowing all the bad, must be an amazing thing and I want my kids to experience that as long as possible. Nice work here to read today!

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      Jackie Lynnley 3 years ago from The Beautiful South

      Bill I had two of the most angelic children on earth and everyone said so; while telling me how wrong that was! I loved too deeply, I over-protected; they said. Well the world always does get its way, but I have the memories of two children who only knew love and their light shown. It took the world a little while longer than most to change them over but I still see those little angels in them at times. How full are we of what the world fed us? Do we still have a light? We know you do Bill, we see it often and don't we owe that to every child?

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      Phoebe Pike 3 years ago

      You always write some amazing pieces.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Carol, it is an interesting question, isn't it? I do know we are all on the same level playing field at birth; what happens after that....not so level. :) Thanks for your insights and have a great day my friend.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Interesting Sha....the story is fascinating and it's interesting you haven't forgiven yourself for it. You know as well as I do how useless and yet damaging self-guilt is.....????

      I'm wondering how many parents have similar stories and still hold onto the guilt and shame.

      Thanks for sharing that story...it was important.

      bill

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      Graham Lee 3 years ago from Lancashire. England.

      Hi Bill. another great hub to make us all think. I remember many years ago, I commented on my niece's nose saying, 'she has her dad's nose' she heard me and replied 'I have not I've got my own' we all laughed at this of course. However, this was the first time we noticed that she was listening to the adults. She was reasoning and replying. Not much I know but we all realised that changes were ahead.

      voted up and all.

      Graham.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sally, what a lovely story. I was smiling while reading your tale.....what a wonderful moment, and who knows what kind of effect that moment will have on that child in the years to come.

      Thank you so much for sharing that golden moment.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Good morning DJ....innocence lost....it should never be and yet is daily.

      Thank you and I hope you have a splendid day.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Phoebe, thank you so much. I'm just trying to grow in my craft, and it's nice to hear some positive feedback from you and others to let me know I'm on the right track.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      BNadyn, I don't blame you at all. Hold onto that innocence as long as possible because once it is gone it is gone forever, and that is the true tragedy of life....the loss of innocence.

      Thank you! Give those kids a big hug today.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Jackie, I got goosebumps reading about your children....and yes, yes we owe it to every child....do we still have a light you ask? Yes, but it is fading and it is up to us to make sure it never extinguishes. :)

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      Man of Strength 3 years ago from Orlando, Fl

      Hello Bill,

      The world is different place but we as parents often unknowingly take our kids innocence away. I applaud you for being an eductaor, not many good men want to do it anymore. Thanks and voted up.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Man....thanks for stopping by and for the kind words...your comment about us parents taking the innocence away is brutally honest. :) As for male teachers, the numbers are small indeed and it's all economics. :)

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      Liz Davis 3 years ago from Hudson, FL

      As we continue to shove our children into boxes they don't fit into, distrust, anxiety, and animosity will continue. It's a vicious cycle.

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      manatita44 3 years ago from london

      Sad, isn't it Bill. Perhaps that's why we're needed here. I've seen this one before, and I really loved Siddhartha. Bears repeating sure. Loving thoughts.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      It is, Lizzy, and it's up to us to end the cycle. Be your child's strongest advocate...always...as I know you are. :)

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Indeed, Manatita, sad but not hopeless....we just need awareness. :)

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      Elizabeth Parker 3 years ago from Las Vegas, NV

      Yes, to see through the eyes of a child is a memory that I do miss for sure! I hope children these days get to keep the innocence for as long as they can.

      Although it's nice to get older and be wiser, I do miss the days when ignorance was bliss and those rose colored glasses remained on all day, allowing me to view the world as innocent and pure.

      Sadly, it seems that once you meet more people, those rose colored glasses become a bit warped and will need to be replaced with clear, polarized lenses that can see clearly through lies and deceit.

      I've found that if you surround yourself with people who have your best interest at heart, your personal world will be that much better...and you might even be able to wear those tinted glasses once in a while.

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      ocfireflies 3 years ago from North Carolina

      I learned a long time ago how little I know, and how much I can learn from others. This applies to what I have learned and continue to learn from my own children and the students I supposedly taught in the classroom. Excellent piece. V++

      Kim

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      Kathryn 3 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      I really enjoyed your take on what a child sees, and how every baby is born trustful and without the negative emotions and behaviors that occur as life goes on. That is food for thought.

      Thanks for sharing this, Bill, and have a wonderful day!

      ~ Kathryn

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      Michele Travis 3 years ago from U.S.A. Ohio

      My daughter has Autism, but I love her more then life itself. She goes to a school for children with Autism. Since she started going to that school she has improved so much it is amazing!

      When I see babies, I have to smile, not sure why, but it just happens.

      Very good hub. Thank you very much for writing it for us.

      Michele

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      Marlene Bertrand 3 years ago from Northern California, USA

      At this old age, I have become accustomed to scrutinizing everyone and every thing that happens in my life. I seem to have misplaced my rose colored glasses. After reading this, I longed to be able to live life in a way where trust is automatic.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Liz, I've got them on right now and the world looks fantastic. :) Not sure how much longer they will be on today, but every minute is a bonus.

      Great reflections my friend; thank you for taking the time to leave this comment.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      ocfireflies, spoken like the teacher you were...spoken like the teacher I was. :) Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Hey Kathryn, you are very welcome and thank you! How did the job interview go???

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Michele, thank you for sharing your own experience with your daughter...and I smile too at babies...it is infectious joy for all of us.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Marlene, you are younger than me so don't be throwing that old age stuff around. LOL You look fantastic and I love your attitude and spirit.

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      sheilamyers 3 years ago

      That's why I love being around little kids. They'll say or do something which reminds me there's more to life than my adult world full of nastiness.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sheila, that pretty much explains why I became a teacher in the first place. :) Thanks for visiting on this fine Wednesday.

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      Ruchira 3 years ago from United States

      I always tend to start my sentence with...I agree!

      We are born as pure souls but the circumstances lead us to a path of ugliness. It is a shame cause our parents did the same with us and we are repeating history.

      Problem is that if we do not show the ugliness to the kid...fear that how will he survive? Thus, the increase in population of the same kind, and thus the sorrows of man will continue!

      Powerful discussion and sharing it across!

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      lovedoctor926 3 years ago

      Lol. I thought you were talking about me. I haven't read this hub yet.

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      Deonne Anderson 3 years ago from Florence, SC

      Loved your article Bill. Being able to see the world through the eyes of a child is priceless. I enjoyed my daughter's childhood and teen years as I did many things with her that were new to me. Today, I still love the circus, the zoo, the Ice Capades, Disney World, etc. Though we all lose our total innocence, we maintain just a little bit of the child within. At Xmas time and other holidays, I always go back inside and find that little girl where things were oh so very simple and I believed in magic. How we parent and participate in the lives of our children is a great determinant as to how their personalities will evolve. Those of us who are following (17) year Joshua Young's trial involving the murder of a 14 year old child are seeing first hand how poor parenting can affect a child and lead to a life of anguish, pain, and suffering for that child as well as society. Joshua may be spending the rest of his life in prison, all because of having been parented by one of the worst fathers in the world.

      We all are role models for and responsible for the children of the world. Allowing the child within to come out and play, to recapture the magic, the faith and the awe can be therapeutic and life changing for us. Thanks for the reminder. I think I'll go out and play now.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Ruchira, I can always count on you to give a deep and meaningful comment. Thank you for the food for thought.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Marlene....LOL...nope, not about you.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Lady, I hope you enjoy your playtime. Make sure you take your scheduled nap after play. LOL

      Seriously, beautiful comment. The child is in all of us if we are willing to let it out.

      Thank you!

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      rose-the planner 3 years ago from Toronto, Ontario-Canada

      This is such a wonderful and interesting hub! It's funny, whenever I see a brand new baby I am overwhelmed with so many emotions. I believe it's because a new baby is symbolic of hope, new beginnings, endless possibilities and wonder. Imagine what life would be like if we never lost that pure innocence. Too bad we stop believing in Santa Claus, the Tooth Fairy and the Easter Bunny, lol. Great job and thank you for sharing your insight! Take care. (Voted Up) -Rose

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 3 years ago from Southern Illinois

      I really love this hub, so full of truth. A child is so innocent until hurt enters their life. When children are taught they are superior due to wealth, skin color, etc. their innocence is stolen because they begin to believe it too. I read a story yesterday about a mother who was pregnant with her second baby, her little five year old sang often to the baby, his head resting on his mother's big belly. When the baby was born it had a serious heart defect and was on life support, not expected to live. When the little boy was told he begged to go to the hospital to sing to the baby. The mother took him to see the baby against the nurse's caution, " He can't come in here! " The babies heart rate was so rapid the monitor was having difficulty outlining it. The boy went to the babies bed and laid his head on his chest and began to sing, the babies heart slowed to a normal rhythm. The baby lived after surgery. I thought it was such a beautiful story, i wanted to share it. Thank you for writing heartwarming stories...

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      picklesandrufus 3 years ago from Virginia Beach, Va

      Oh Billybuc, wouldn't life be so much more wonderful if we didn't forget how to see through the eyes of a child? I enjoy reading my children's picture book to kids in school because I get to remember innocence and teach them good values at the same time.

      Life has kept me busy and I haven't had time to write for hubpages, but I haven't gone anywhere.Maybe there is a hub brewing somewhere within:)

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Rose, I think a newborn baby is a sign of hope for all of us and quite frankly, I refuse to stop believing in Santa Claus. :) Thank you!

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      Pamela Oglesby 3 years ago from United States

      It would be nice if we could keep that wonder that children have when they are young. I remember how my boys changed, yet they turned out just fine. It wasn't always rosy as they grew and became more influenced by friends and so forth. I remember many things I did as a child also as I moved my attention away from my parents. Very interesting hub.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Ruby, what a beautiful story that is...thank you so much for sharing it. Brought goosebumps to me...very nice goosebumps. :)

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Well Pickles, I'm glad you are still around. There have been a lot of Hubbers leave HP and I thought you might be another of the wave. :) Thanks for stopping by and yes, life would be more wonderful.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Pamela, life sometimes gets in the way of our favorite realities. :) Thanks my friend.

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 3 years ago from The Caribbean

      This article makes me long to experience my grandson's company and learn to look at the world through his eyes. Childlikeness is such a beautiful trait!

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      My beautiful grandchildren remind me of this whenever I am around them, to see the world as a child does, and God tells us to do this in His Word too. It would be so lovely to look at all that is around us in such awe, as we should, as if seeing all for the very first time!

      God bless, Faith Reaper

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Dora, wouldn't it be lovely if we could do that?

      Thank you my friend; have a childlike day tomorrow. :)

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Yes, Faith....as if for the first time. Maybe we will be like a blind man who regains his sight some day soon, and wouldn't that be a blessed wonder?

      blessings always

      bill

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      lovedoctor926 3 years ago

      A reflective video on love. Nice hub.

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      Michael-Milec 3 years ago

      Good evening billybuc.

      Now it's more abvious how difficult process is to be newborn to a couple who are learning to be parents with each new arrival. That tiny thing is intelligent, pure , innocent and eager more than any adult will ever know. We see it during the process of growing, bringing back memories of our own experiences . We don't need to wonder " where from " is coming certin manifestation words or deeds of a child, - it came from a supply previously collected from the surrounding area. See, my dear fellow-adults, we realize not soon enough that the real world is spiritual , and all our truths, lies and in betweens are there learned and copyid and made available. I've learn from my youngest, that he made decision to tell the truth first time of related event, so he doesn't need to remember fabricated story. It was when his friends were caught telling otherwise and paid consequences. It's the adult world sowing the seeds of anger, deception , hypocrisy as well as honesty, integrity and the way of righteousness . These little creatures, will always be grateful for being for them every time, all the time when their need is begging for acknowledgment . A wisdom value remains primary if we want to see a generation morally more solid than our present one. Ups, that's it.

      O Bill you're challenging me to say these things, so I get myself in trouble.. .

      Voting up. Avesome and useful.

      Blessings be with you.

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      drbj and sherry 3 years ago from south Florida

      God bless the children, Billy, their innocence disappears much too soon. But while they are young, we adults can enjoy their view of life vicariously. They see life differently and 'say the darndest things.'

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      drbj, if I didn't know better, I'd say you were channeling the spirit of Allan Funt. :)

      God bless the children indeed my friend.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Marlene....you are appreciated my friend.

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      Chitrangada Sharan 3 years ago from New Delhi, India

      A thought provoking and awesome hub!

      The world would be a wonderful place, if everyone had the innocence of a child and everyone thought like a child---no lust, no hatred and no discrimination. How relaxing it is to be within their company!

      Wonderful hub as always!

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      Mark Johann 3 years ago from Italy

      I like you billybuc. You give time to a young soul about their nature. I am also thinking how lucky I am to have been born in this world these senses.

      Thank you. :)

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      Linda Crampton 3 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      This is yet another beautiful and thought provoking hub. Thank you, Bill.

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      Eiddwen 3 years ago from Wales

      Such a wonderful hub Billy and as always so well thought out.

      To me it is so important that little ones should stay young for as long as is possible. I do not for one minute agree with dressing little girls in clothes meant to be for a teenager and I could go on and on. Wonderful and here's to so many more.

      Eddy.

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      Madeleine Salin 3 years ago from Finland

      I really love to watch my own children grow and change. They learn things so fast, and sometimes I realize they know much more than I think, and that's a little scary. I just want them to become good people, who are nice to other people. We adults should be more like small children, who are honest and innocent. I really enjoyed reading this hub. It gave me many things to think about.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Michael, that was beautifully stated....your most eloquent comment so far. Well done my friend. The adult world sows seeds of anger, deception, hypocrisy....without a doubt my friend...without a doubt.

      Thank you for seeing the truth.

      blessings always

      bill

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Chitrangada, thank you very much. I love your statement "how relaxing it is to be within their company." Very true words my friend.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Mark, I know for a fact I am very, very lucky....and I try to show appreciation for life each and every day.

      Thank you my friend.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you very much Alicia!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Eddy, you just mentioned something that has always disgusted me....dressing little girls in makeup and adult clothes.....why rush a child from the safety of childhood to the madness of adulthood? Makes no sense to me at all.

      Thank you dear friend.

      love,

      billy

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Made, cherish every minute you have with your children. It is all gone so quickly and then there are only memories. Go give those kids a hug right now. :)

      Thank you dear friend.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Great hub with precious the moments often overlooked so interesting of you to think of this hub

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you so much DDE! I greatly appreciate you.

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      Mary Craig 3 years ago from New York

      If we could all be like children! Their innocence and trust is never matched once they grow up. We should have a National Child Day to remind everyone to stop and smell the roses and face life with childlike wonder.

      A great reflection Bill for you and for all of us!

      Voted up, useful, awesome, and shared.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Mary, I agree completely. They are so precious, and those wonder years are so short....it's sad, really, that it can't last a little longer for them.

      Thank you Mary and I hope you are having a productive and happy day.

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      Hawaiian Odysseus 3 years ago from Southeast Washington state

      This essay, Bill, challenges each reader to exercise empathy through a perspective innately familiar to newborns and mothers of infants. It's a wonderful challenge to me to not only stretch my mind far back in time to try to recall what it might have been like...but also to think of what might have inspired you to write about this and how you yourself might have been reflecting on your own childhood.

      Our minds are such beautiful and powerful gifts, benevolently bestowed upon us with grace and hope that we might put them to good use and service. As writers, we're intimately aware that we have choices every single day as to how we wield that power.

      From the daily look of things, I'd say you were doing a mighty fine job of being a faithful steward of your gift, Bill.

      Congratulations, and thank you! And, always, an aloha to top off that morning latte!

      ~Joe

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Joe, where does inspiration come from for a writer? I'm always amazed by those who say they have writer's block....how can that be? I was on my daily walk with Bev and there was a mother pushing her baby in a stroller...there was the inspiration. The smile on that child's face reminded me of all that we lose as we grow older. :)

      Thank you my friend. I'm just trying to stretch the limits of our thought process, and maybe get a few people thinking about this gift called life.

      Aloha my friend

      bill

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      Anna Haven 3 years ago from Scotland

      Very interesting hub.

      Nothing is more important than children and you are right; we should learn a lesson from them.

      Insightful and useful Mr Holland :)

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Anna, I thank you! Easily the part of teaching I miss the most was learning from my students. :)

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      Deb Hirt 3 years ago from Stillwater, OK

      That's why I take my daily dose of the lake so I can continue to innocently look at what gives my soul comfort.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Deb, if you can bottle that lake you could make a million selling its elixir. :)

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      Karen Szklany Gault 3 years ago from New England

      What a very large reminder of the power of gentle, loving parents...throughout a child's life. I have read lots of parenting books about different styles because I was raised with lots of criticism, and was taught shame at a very young age. I was very sad, especially as a teenager. I did not ever imagine that my life could become as good as it has. I am grateful for the work that I've done over the years that brought healing to my heart....and now I endeavor to parent in a way that engenders trust in my own child....of both others and herself....but also keeps her safe from being exploited. We don't watch television very much...or movies. Media seems to steal innocence away so early when not monitored.

      Now I see my daughter grow, and want to keep her sense of discovery alive. While I was working in the garden the other day, she ran through our back yard with a bunch of friends, chasing and catching frogs and grasshoppers. This reminded me of how much I loved to lay in the grass and watch grasshoppers move from blade to blade when I was a child. The children touched the rocks that bordered my garden beds and pretended my daughter's animal statues were animals that live on the moon....so wonderful to have their lovely company for a while. ~:0)

      My mother thinks that I am overprotecting my daughter...and that my gentleness with her means that I am not teaching her right from wrong...and that I am not toughening her up to prepare her for "the real world." She says things that make my daughter sad, then gets mad at her for being sad. I think that's sad. She thinks she's teaching my daughter something, but it is only damaging their relationship. It is very sad to see this happening. My own grandmother (my mother's mother) never said a cross word to me...I always felt accepted and loved by her...and I wished that my daughter could have that same relationship with my mother.

      But the best gift that I have is a young person in my life that is inspired to love the world and to create things that help people. :0)

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      Jo Alexis-Hagues 3 years ago from Bedfordshire, U.K

      Bill, this one is so very thought provoking!.. I started my nursing career as a pediatric nurse, so many beautiful tiny souls full of promises. Maybe it is already in the genes, good or bad depends on nature and nurture.

      If only we could fill each blank slate with positive experiences what a world this would be. Billybuc there you go again, making me think...great topic an excellent write. Have a wonderful week end, my best as always.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Jo, you see so much promise, so many hopes and possibilities, and somewhere, somehow, it all goes terribly wrong....yes, it saddens me my friend.

      Thank you for your kindness and loyalty. Have a great weekend.

      blessings always

      bill

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Mama, that was as beautiful a comment as I have ever received. God bless you! Keep raising that precious child just the way you are. She sees the world with eyes of wonder and it is because you have given her that gift and opportunity. Never stop giving her that freedom. From an old teacher and parent, a bravo and pat on the back is being sent to you...well done my friend.

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      Lurana Brown 3 years ago from Chicagoland, Illinois

      Very interesting perspective...I usually give only superficial thought to the idea of looking "through the eyes of a child", but you have truly explored the concept. Thought-provoking indeed! ~Lurana

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      Thelma Alberts 3 years ago from Germany

      A very thought provoking hub. I have a few months old niece in the Philippines and it was so awesome looking at how innocent she is. How she smiles at everything. I hope she will not suffer poverty soon. As long as I´m still on this earth, I´ll help.

      Looking through the eyes of a child is wonderful, but when trust is over and hunger and pain come your way, it´s gone. Thanks for sharing. Have a great day!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Lurana! It's always nice having you visit.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thelma, yes it is gone, and for many children gone much too quickly. Thank you for stopping by and bless you for caring so much.

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      Dim Flaxenwick 3 years ago from Great Britain

      I don't know how l happened to read this particular hub of yours right now after my hideous rant about the British NON Summer. I couldn't have asked for anything better,. You wonderful man. This beautiful hub is just what l needed.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Dim, honestly, I would rant about the summer you have had too. :) I do most every summer living here; we are just having a rarity with tons of sunshine.

      Thank you for your kind words my friend.

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      manatita44 3 years ago from london

      Awesome that our hearts can coincide like this. Your baby is even cuter than mines (smiles). Keep up this great and noble work. Hari Om Tat Sat. Peace.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      And peace to you, Manatita! Thank you my friend.

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      Victor W. Kwok 3 years ago from Hawaii

      Really lovely hub you have here, Billy.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you vkwok....I appreciate your kind words

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      Mothers of Nations 2 years ago

      Beautiful article - well written and thought provoking. Thanks for sharing! God bless you...

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you once again, mothersofnations.

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