Till Death Do We Part
These words that were said to my wife and I on January 9th,1981 are haunting me. My wife died last month and it is as if I will never lose this depression.
I have had many tell me that I need to allow another woman to comfort and love me. I feel as if God does not want me to seek another woman. So who is right? I think I will trust God.
I decided to look and find the title of this hub in the Bible. Nope, it's not there. Why would clergy say these lines towards the end of a marriage ceremony if they are not in the Bible?
I think I will trust God on this and allow Him to be my comforter.
I meditate on the experiences of one of my elders. A woman who had a lot of influence on my life was my Grandma. My mother's mom is a very wise and strong woman. When it comes to death, I will take her word more than anyone elses.
Grandma and Grandpa had a lot of children. Grandpa was in World War 2 and farmed in Northern Iowa. I was just a small tyke when Grandpa had a heart problem and died. Grandma had 7 kids and crops in the field ready to be harvested. Farmers came from miles away to help harvest the crops. They asked for nothing and we saw God at work through people. Grandma never talked about Grandpa much, but you knew he never parted from her, nor she from him.
In my young teenage years, my uncle Doug was killed in a "freak" accident on a "Bobcat" on the farm. Just around 4 years later, my aunt Debby was killed when riding on the back of a motorcycle with her boyfriend and fell off hitting her head. Debby was the prior year's Homecoming Queen and was adored by many.
How did Grandma hold on? I don't know, but I do know that following her example will probably be my best bet. Grandma never let go of Grandpa. She is in her 90's now and never remarried.
Were those words put in marriage ceremonies to "get over on God"?
Now, I will never say never, but I will surely listen to God before any man.
Just a short time and I will be in my love's arms again.
No one will ever take Jonda's place. Only Jesus is able to give me what I need to get through each day. I will stand on Him and His promises.
I must thank God and also Grandma Tilton. Grandma, I love you and thank you for all you taught me. Your grief has helped my grief and I pray that my grief will help others.
With that I will leave you with the songs played at Debby's, Jonathan's and Jonda's funerals. As I think on each loved one we have lost, I also think of what we gained in knowing and being with each one. I am thinking with tears of joy about good times with each one.
Jonda, my dear, we will not part unless Heaven disappears which I don't see happening. I love and adore you.
It will be a glorious day when I see them all again!
For Debby Tilton
For Jonathan Boudonck
For Jonda Boudonck
© 2010 Greg Boudonck