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Tips for Highly Emotional Persons on Maintaining Personal Happiness

Updated on March 12, 2012

Get off that Emotional Ride


The Emotional Roller-Coaster

For highly emotional persons, it is hard not to let the actions and comments of others negatively impact our days. We feel so much that we are quick to react to both the situations/circumstances surrounding us and to those around us. People learn that they can quickly agitate and get a reaction from an emotional person, so we attract people who feed on that kind of attention. We get into relationship cycles in which we devote a lot of time and energy towards feeding off the emotions of others, allowing them to upset us at the drop of the hat. Needy people like emotional persons because they can get attention from us as we bond with their emotions and feel their pain. We can be quick to get mad when someone pushes our buttons or quick to get sad when someone hurts our feelings. Many of our days are spent like roller-coaster rides, with others at the controls, and we feel emotionally drained in the end.

What to do

If you are tired of allowing others to control your emotions or being punished by your emotional nature, there are things you can do to gain control of your life:

  • Embrace your emotional nature. There are good things about being an emotional person. Instead of punishing yourself for getting overly emotional or allowing someone to ruin your day, forgive yourself. Know that you can learn new ways of dealing with trauma, pain, and stress ~ ways of coping through life’s challenges that take care of you.
  • Develop resilience and emotional health by taking care of you. Focus on improving your emotional health by using your emotions as a way to get in touch with your creative side whether it be designing your apartment/home, blogging, writing poetry or painting a picture. Creativity is a great way to utilize our emotions to enhance our life. Appreciate your emotional sensitivity by enjoying the sensual things of life such as music or the beauty of nature. All of these are great stress releasers that help us feel more emotionally balanced.
  • Take a time out. It is okay to walk away from an overly emotional situation for a few moments to gather and recompose. Take a moment to remember to breathe and remind yourself of what is good about your life. Return to the situation with a clearer head and in greater control of your own feelings. When we are rash and don’t stop to think, we get lost and pulled by the emotions of others. Taking a time out allows us to get in touch with how we really feel. We may find that we are not as angry or as sad as we originally thought.
  • Center and ground yourself in your inner happiness. It’s all right to be a little selfish and focus on you. Focus on the things you like and the people you like to be around. Pursue your hobbies and interests. When you are pursuing your own happiness and your own life, you are less likely to allow yourself to be controlled by others. You have your own life. You are more balanced. Now, you can learn to feel empathy for others without taking on their problems and emotions as your own. Attention on yourself allows you to see that we all have responsibility for our own individual feelings.

In Conclusion

There are many positives to having an emotional life. We are able to love others and develop deep bonds of closeness that enrich our lives in so many ways. Remind yourself everyday about the things that make you happy. Happiness is a precious aspect of life and we all deserve our moments of happiness. Keep your happiness close to you, choose to be happy and focus on developing emotional health by managing your stress and not allowing others to emotionally jerk you around.


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      truthfornow 5 years ago from New Orleans, LA

      Balance is hard to come by today teaches12345, remembering to take a breather and relax makes all the difference in the world.

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      Dianna Mendez 5 years ago

      Lovely article and covered so nicely. I believe that my listening to music and placing myself in a calm surrounding brings balance back in my life. When it gets to hectic around the home or work, we all need to spend a few minutes just encouraging our inner being to relax, breathe and think of positive things. Thanks for the additional suggestions.

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      truthfornow 5 years ago from New Orleans, LA

      Great ways for you to take care of yourself, Sparklea. Thanks for your uplifting and supportive comments ~ they always brighten up my day.

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      Sparklea 5 years ago from Upstate New York

      You are SO correct that needy people like emotional persons. It has taken me years to recognize this, and thank you for the reminder! Your suggestion to pursue your hobbies and interests is wonderful, because when you are focused on the positive things that you love, you are not thinking about the negative effects others often manifest to you.

      I have learned I CANNOT save people. My sister always suggests, "leave the house to change the energy" and it works. I love to go to Barnes and Noble to read and write. I spend a minimum of 7 hours in their cafe. I go there when they open. Love their soup and chai tea for lunch. Often I go to Starbucks or a movie. Or get a manicure. All these things contribute to your suggestion of doing things for yourself...I call it self caring. Voted Up, Useful and interesting...Blessings, Sparklea :)

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      truthfornow 5 years ago from New Orleans, LA

      I know what you mean christianajohan. It is so hard for me to walk away when I get really mad at someone. I just want to let them have it. But, it is just wasted energy usually and a lot of drama could be saved by just taking a time out. Most things aren't as serious as they first seem. People just love to jack each other up.

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      christianajohan 5 years ago

      I thank you for this hub. I think taking time out is what I lack at. Time is a big factor .

      Time to recollect one self is really helpful.

      Thank you and vote up!