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Tips for When You Lose Yourself

Updated on February 20, 2018
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Dylan is a freelance writer specializing in the self-development and cryptocurrency investment industries who loves producing great content.

It wasn't but a couple of months ago that I found I had lost myself. I had given up on everything that I wanted and I had become a shell of a person rather than a true individual. This event is always upsetting and it can be confusing to try to figure out who it is that you were or who you want to be. It can be even more difficult to try to find your way back to that person. However, it is possible. In this article, I will show you how to find yourself again after you've become lost.

1. Write Down Who It Is That You Want to Be

There is a reason why to-do lists and calendars are so popular among professionals. They help to keep us on track so that we don't forget things or get behind. The same idea can be applied to a "self-map". In this self-map, you can write down all of the things that you want to be and all of the things that you want to do so you won't be able to forget them. When you feel as though you have lost yourself, you can come back to this map and remind yourself of all the things you need to do and be in order to be your best self.

2. Have a Great Support Group

People seem to know us better than we know ourselves. Even when we think we know everything there is to know, people have a view on our habits and ideas that we never even considered. A great way to help you find your way back to yourself is to a great group of friends who know who you are and who can help you get there. Surround yourself with people who pay attention to you and you will always be able to get back home.

3. Take a Short and Solitary Vacation

Alone time is absolutely necessary during these confusing periods. You can't possibly expect to find yourself when you are surrounded by the daily noise of life. Pack your things, take a short vacation, and get away from your life. Whether you spend your time in the woods or at a beach, it doesn't matter. Spend that time thinking about your life at the moment and where you would rather be. Who are you in this situation? What are you doing? How are you acting? These are the things that you truly want. Write these things down so you can start working on them when you get home.

4. Do Something That You've Always Wanted to Do

We tend to give up on our dreams as we get older. No matter what people have told you about your dreams, don't listen to them. If you want to sing in front of a large audience, go sing your little heart out. If you want to surf 20-foot waves, go surf. These things will give you a rush that will remind you what life is all about. You may be feeling lost because you aren't doing anything that you value. Feel this rush and chase it relentlessly.

5. Consider Reaching Out to a Professional

Life can get messy. It can even get to a point where it seems as though everything is unfixable. While it is certainly not true, it can help to have someone by your side to unravel your tangled life. Perhaps you need a life coach who can assist you with finding what you want in life and achieving it. Maybe you need a therapist who can listen and help you solve your problems while you try to make your way back to your true self. Whoever it is that you think you may need, get them. You can't do everything on your own and you shouldn't have to. Help is amazing! (When it comes from the right place and person, of course.)

There it is! A short guide on how you can find your way back to yourself when you get lost. Remember, this is a guide that will be used time and time again. Losing yourself is something that happens a lot and you will always need instruction on how to get back. Did this guide work for you? Let me know in the comments below!

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