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Too Much Information. TMI How much is too much.

Updated on October 15, 2014

This little guy does not want a lecture on Koi.

At this stage he would rather tell you all about them.
At this stage he would rather tell you all about them. | Source

Too Much Information

Hey, life is really good. Do not take this article into the negative, keep it in the positive please.

TMI or Too Much Information is about fun. If it is all serious to you. Get a life. I just love the 80's and 90's concept of "talk to the hand" also. TMI is not what we want but I ask you that from time to time you just listen to TMI. It might do someone else some good just to vent in a personal manner.

How often do we think "I really love her but she just gives Too Much Information"? Get over that and love her. You just may do it also.

So just sit back and read this fun piece from a lunatic that writes more from outer space than down to real earth --- Ooops that was TMI ;-)


TMI is a fun term today. I also like PDA, Public Display of Affection. Which if you think of it is a close cousin. I like to cup my hands under my face and lean forward on a desk and listen to someone's story. Sometimes that is unnerving to the speaker so I do not do it always.

Sometimes I get to explaining the intricacies of how we handle a problem and the listener who just wants their problem resolved sometimes gets a haze over their eyes.

I also use both techniques on purpose depending on the speaker and the listener. Some people want all of your attention and need to tell a story. Some people are shy about themselves. And some people really do want you to stay aloof and "act professional" which for some reason nowadays translates into not caring. As though you have more important things on your mind. That one I get but it bothers me.


Here is a fun story about TMI

My children think I talk to much. Most people think I do not. The children are two fold why they think such. 1. I love them and have much to say. 2. They are my children and kids think parents are boring to an extent. Three of them are in their twenties. The love to come to me with a problem and like my solutions. And generally they like my stories. But not when they are in a hurry. And they seem to love telling me of their stories, knowing that I am a dad and I am always interested.

But sometimes they are not listening and sometimes I do not want to talk anymore. So I have a phrase I use to stop the conversation in a light hearted way. Appropriate of nothing I just say "so your mom and I were making love". Hands go to ears, T M I is yelled and normally a walk a way is involved. Certainly the last thing a child wants to have is a vision of old people doing it and most horrendous would be the thought of your parents. That is just Too much information.

(funny about that if you really think about that night that made them. hihihihi)

I hope that last section was TMI

Late teens and early twenties
Late teens and early twenties | Source

ACA Affordable Care Act.

I through this in because at this time I could not rightfully enroll. Being that I would have to give a site and person that I cannot trust my personal and my wife's personal and my youngest son's personal information. TMI is also appropriate to apply to anything and everything on line. From a 1250 word hub that should be 950 words to giving away private information to sites you do not know and or trust.

I would much rather read something short and chock full of goodies than a longer one with basically the same data. But apparently algorithms and publishers know better and so there are two niches. Short and Long and the niches have nothing to do with quality. Well that one bugs me a bit. On the other hand I am long winded and like to spin a yarn. So I am stuck with the longer ones. With perhaps TMI.

The boundaries between private and personal and the TMI line are important to notice and to know. How do you? Well basically good judgment.


The ultimate TMI story -- do not confess and give them motive.

Legal is really easy.

Shut up. Shut up. Shut up. A fool opens his mouth and removes all doubt. A wise man keeps quiet and appears intelligent.

Any situation where what you say can be used against you is a good place to shut up. Funny about the term "shut up". In all the homes I have lived in that term is considered a cuss word. Strictly frowned on and not acceptable. Yet it is some of the best advice a father can give a child.

We also have privileges with people we really trust. And need that to function well. Here are four: Spouse, Doctor, Lawyer and Priest. And there are others as the law recognizes the need and expectation of privacy. What it really means is that they cannot speak of matters discussed between you without your permission. In the case of a spouse it can be hard to invoke because what are you going to do sue half of your home. But that means in that case it must be very guarded and sacrosanct.

Here is the common problem. Spouse in business. Other spouse knows about the business. And other spouse talks too liberally. Not good at all. But especially bad when the business has other partners. Best to have a document that prohibits some conduct.

Have you been burned?

Have you ever trusted with TMI about you and it came back badly

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So we must be careful with TMI

Think the other way. "What right do you have to burden someone else about your private stuff". This is important. And personally I like to pay them or have the goods on them also. It just really is better that way. But hey I am old and I have friends and family I can trust. And thirty years ago there were a lot I should not have trusted. So we live and learn.

But make no doubt you must have someone you can open up too. Hey even if you do not have issues. Therapists are good for that -- plus they are not involved in your TMI.

I am a preacher man. So I get a lot of TMI. That is cool it is part of the non-paying job and it gives insigts and really does help that you just cannot talk about it with others. Some times boundaries and fences do make for good "neighbors".

Funny but if you read about these guys -- they gossiped.

Makes you wonder.
Makes you wonder. | Source

Another fun fact.

Just look at these boys. Jesus is giving them TMI. One guy there is astonished because Jesus is ratting him out ahead of time. Jesus is telling them about bad stuff that will happen and believe me they do not want to hear any of it. They even tell him - no way Jose'. But that is life and I think we can all live with a little TMI sometimes.

I had a girlfriend once (stop snickering I used to be lovable) She was my heartthrob. But people told me way too much information about her. Well the gal broke up me one month before she got married to a buddy of mine. Well OK he went off to be a hero in Vietnam. But still.

My point is that sometimes what we think is just too much might be what we need to hear. Do you hear me?

Be happy, I am.

Here is definitely TMI --- like those legal announcements at the end of contest announcements.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I have been burned before; one of the advantages of reaching this age is eventually you just reach the point where you don't care what people say about you....I'm there now. :) Have a great day my friend.

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      Kathryn 3 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      I have learned to be more careful about who I give information to, although I still may give a little TMI.

      Thanks for sharing this with us. As always, I enjoy your writing style.

      Have a great day!

      ~ Kathryn

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      Eiddwen 3 years ago from Wales

      A wonderful read Eric and by today I am also thicker skinned than I used to be and this is a great asset in life. Voted up for sure.

      Eddy.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Bill I think I am with you on that. But I think most are a bit more sensitive.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Kathryn, Sports cars and good judgment are a little sad -- they are wasted on older folk who have earned them. It is the youth that needs them more. hihihi

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thanks Eddy, I hope I have not left any uniforms laying around ;-) I admit sometimes thick and all I often am just to busy to care.

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      Dil Vil 3 years ago from India

      Your hubs are always so sweet to read (TMI - HE HE just kidding), here is another one and i really had an excellent read. Thank you my friend.

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      Marlene Bertrand 3 years ago from Northern California, USA

      I happen to be married to a good man - love him to pieces. But he is also very good about giving out TMI. He doesn't mind me sharing this with the world, because he knows it's true. He says he can't help himself. He doesn't care whose information it is. If he has it, he gives it. So, I have to be careful what I share with him, or he'll be at the grocery store telling the store clerk about the time my friend Sally did such and such or the time his wife said this and that. He's not so much a gossip as he is a man who just loves to talk. Oops! Was that TMI?

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Awesome --- my wife feels exactly the same about me!! So I am trying to be a better listener -- as that requires me to keep my trap shut. hihihi Thank you Marlene for your sunshine today.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Hey my Cookie -- I cannot stop thinking about your chicken -- oops TMI

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      Dil Vil 3 years ago from India

      LOL :D :D :D

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      The Frog Prince 3 years ago from Arlington, TX

      Information is power so there ya go...

      The Frog

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Very true. Strange about that, having it an holding it often the most powerful.

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      Brian Prickril 3 years ago from Savannah, GA

      Loose lips sink ships, or at least that's what I was taught growing up. I can count my good friends that I REALLY trust on one hand. Everyone else must earn the right to know my deepest secrets. I never just GIVE it away. But I find I am always surprised that complete strangers will tell me their entire life story. Strange...very strange.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Yes that stranger part is strange --- I understand that it is nearly universal though. Thanks Brian for coming by your comment added a good touch.

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 3 years ago from The Caribbean

      Sometimes TMIers have no control. It may be a mental disorder (not serious). Anyway, most people forget if they're not interested in what they hear, so all's well that's ends well.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you MsDora. Memory is nice that way.

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      Mark 3 years ago from Moundsville,WV

      That was a very interesting hub. I learned a great deal by reading it. Thanks for sharing

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Mark. It is very nice of you to come by and leave such a nice comment.

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      Mark 3 years ago from Moundsville,WV

      Thank You for posting such an insightful hub. Some of the messages in it has been in my thoughts since I read it. It is a hub that I need to read again because you learn more about it with each read.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you much Mark. I kind of write these hubs for that reason for myself. I need the constant reflections to stay focused.

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      C E Clark 22 months ago from North Texas

      Generally it's best not to say or write anything you would't want to hear when you turn on the evening national news.

      Then there are those people who always, and I do mean ALWAYS have to fill in between the lines no matter how hard they must pry those lines apart to make it fit. With them it doesn't matter what you say because they will add their assumptions to it no matter what.

      Maybe that's what 'they' mean when they say we all construct our own world in our heads? And that no one really sees the world accurately because the only one we see is the one we've constructed?

      A thought provoking article.

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      Eric Dierker 21 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      CE I am sorry I missed this a few weeks ago, and I cannot say why I did. I know my little head gets filled up with my little notions, And I really do not care for others to crowd them out. We sure are funny creatures. Thank you for your very interesting comment.

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