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Top ten common conversation mistakes
Making effortless and fluent conversation with others is an art by itself. It is very easy to interact with persons you are familiar with, but very difficult to converse with strangers. If you have the capacity to make friendly conversation with everyone, it paves the way to your success. But there are many unknowing blunders you make while conversing with others.
‘Conversation should be pleasant without scurrility, witty without affectation, free without indecency, learned without conceitedness, novel without falsehood.’ William Shakespeare
Do you feel tongue tied when you are in a crowd?
It is because you give great importance to others than to you!
When you place others in a pedestal you cannot interact with others normally.
Do you know that Barrack Obama or Narendera Modi are all as human as you and I.
It is power that makes them stand out.
If you are unnerved by their position you won’t be able to interact with them normally. But when you shove aside their powerful position from your mind you see them as normal as you. You now do not fear to interact with them, do you?
So never give undue importance to others and freeze your mind!
What are the common conversation mistakes you make?
1. How does your voice sound when you are talking?
When you talk with others, your tone should be firm and measured. If your voice booms loudly you will be considered uncouth and ill mannered. But if you whisper feebly, you will look negative and incompetent.
2. Do you talk without giving others chance to have their say?
Conversation between two people should always be a two way path. You listen, the other talks, you talk, the other listens. This is how good conversation evolves.
3. Are you ever complaining and cribbing about your life as if everyone were interested?
When you complain about everything in your life and go into minute details about your sufferings it makes others desist from talking to you. No one likes to talk with someone who is always cribbing.
4. Do you know manners also matter in conversation?
Suppose you are in a restaurant or a function. What do you do when someone approaches to talk with you? Do you remain seated, while the person who approached you stands? Plain ill manners on your part! You too should stand up, or you should ask the person to sit down.
5. Do you concentrate on the person who is conversing with you?
While the person is talking with you, your concentration should be focused on him. You should always maintain direct eye contact while talking. It signals to the person who is talking to you that he has your complete attention.
6. Do you interrupt time and again?
When you keep interrupt unnecessarily while the other is talking, it makes the person back track from talking with you. If you want to put forth your views you should wait till the other finishes. You should let others have their say and then talk out your thoughts.
7. Do you boast?
When you boast about your deeds and make out as if you are some sort of a super human being, no one wants to listen to your self- trumpeting. You will be thrust aside as a boasting and self centered person.
8. Do you use expletives while talking?
No one likes you if you do not know your manners and curse at your will. You should be dignified in your usage of words as this makes people respect you. You come out as a person of great character!
9. Do you like checking your mobile often?
Do it when you are alone and not when you are with others. Checking your mobile while someone is talking to you is bad manners. When you get a call while you are in a conversation, ask excuse and attend the call. Be brief and tell the person who has called you that you will call back. Instead, if you go babbling in the mobile about all personal matters, the other person fidgets uneasily.
What do you do when you are with someone who has just been introduced to you and your friend approaches you?
You should not begin a personalized conversation with your friend and completely ignore the other person. Imagine yourself in the place of that person and you know how belittling it is! Introduce your friend and include that person to make a conversation of common interest.
Conversation skill is something that can be cultivated. You should feel the pulse of the other person to know the trick of making good interaction. When you close your mind to others and concentrate only on yourself, you will be boring. But when you open your mind to the views of others and make conversation which is of mutual interest, you will be sought after as a person who is interesting and exciting to talk to.
© 2013 mathira