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So You Did Something...
So you did something you are not proud of, something that given the chance would might want to travel back in time and fix. If you could just go back for a minute and change things. Not say what you said, you wouldn't slam that door behind you, or maybe you wished you would have. Whatever you would have done, you cannot undo. There is nothing you can do now in the present that will change the past, trust me I have tried. You want to change what actions you took but no matter much you think about it or ponder it or ask yourself "what if" you will never have a different past. The only thing you can do is know that you did something and you must learn from your actions as to not repeat history.
So you have come to the conclusion that you cannot change the events that took place in your life. You can learn from them and that is the solution. You are not the you that did whatever you regret, you are not the you from yesterday. You are different, because you know that you need to learn from your past actions, and if you can learn that lesson then the tomorrow you will be a bit better and wiser than the you of today. How do you analyze your past actions, well you study who you were leading up to you acting the way you did. What did you do? How did you do it? Why did you do it? See what you did not like about your past self. Then when you have done that Think about who you want to be tomorrow. Some people try to block out the past as if it never happened. I feel that you shouldn't do this, because if you don't know where you are coming from then you do not have a very good Idea of where you are going.
Yep, that about sums it up. Just a couple steps to forgive yourself and move on... yeah no. It may only be a few steps but they feel more like giant leaps. They are giant leaps that you must remember are really just personal goals hat can be accomplished. To forgive yourself is one of the hardest things to do, but it is worth it I promise. You will feel better, when you feel better, you act better and soon become better. Remember that the person you are today, is not who you really are. Today you are really the result of the actions of past you from yesterday. The you of tomorrow will really be the built of the actions in which you do today. So be a better person today, tomorrow and forever. Good luck and god bless.