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Forgive Yourself

Updated on September 28, 2012
John Rostron [CC-BY-SA-2.0 (], via Wikimedia Commons
John Rostron [CC-BY-SA-2.0 (], via Wikimedia Commons | Source

So You Did Something...

So you did something you are not proud of, something that given the chance would might want to travel back in time and fix. If you could just go back for a minute and change things. Not say what you said, you wouldn't slam that door behind you, or maybe you wished you would have. Whatever you would have done, you cannot undo. There is nothing you can do now in the present that will change the past, trust me I have tried. You want to change what actions you took but no matter much you think about it or ponder it or ask yourself "what if" you will never have a different past. The only thing you can do is know that you did something and you must learn from your actions as to not repeat history.

What Next?

So you have come to the conclusion that you cannot change the events that took place in your life. You can learn from them and that is the solution. You are not the you that did whatever you regret, you are not the you from yesterday. You are different, because you know that you need to learn from your past actions, and if you can learn that lesson then the tomorrow you will be a bit better and wiser than the you of today. How do you analyze your past actions, well you study who you were leading up to you acting the way you did. What did you do? How did you do it? Why did you do it? See what you did not like about your past self. Then when you have done that Think about who you want to be tomorrow. Some people try to block out the past as if it never happened. I feel that you shouldn't do this, because if you don't know where you are coming from then you do not have a very good Idea of where you are going.

By Américo Nunes from Recife, Brasil (Nascer do Sol em Porto de Galinhas) [CC-BY-SA-2.0 (], via Wikimedia Commons
By Américo Nunes from Recife, Brasil (Nascer do Sol em Porto de Galinhas) [CC-BY-SA-2.0 (], via Wikimedia Commons | Source

Simple Huh?

Yep, that about sums it up. Just a couple steps to forgive yourself and move on... yeah no. It may only be a few steps but they feel more like giant leaps. They are giant leaps that you must remember are really just personal goals hat can be accomplished. To forgive yourself is one of the hardest things to do, but it is worth it I promise. You will feel better, when you feel better, you act better and soon become better. Remember that the person you are today, is not who you really are. Today you are really the result of the actions of past you from yesterday. The you of tomorrow will really be the built of the actions in which you do today. So be a better person today, tomorrow and forever. Good luck and god bless.


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    • Jordanwalker39 profile image

      Jordanwalker39 5 years ago from NC

      Thank you very much mary I really appreciate the feedback.

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      Mary Hyatt 5 years ago from Florida

      Sometimes it is harder to forgive ourselves than to forgive others, but you wrote a good Hub on the subject.

      I voted this UP, and will share.

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      Jordanwalker39 5 years ago from NC

      Thank you Mike I appreciate the feedback. I couldn't have said it any better unkownspy. Jools99 thank you for sharing your wisdom with us. Daisy jae I am glad I could share this hub with you and I am glad you liked it, hope it does find someone that needs it. Thank you huckelbury for the insightful comment and input on my hub. ALUR you sound like you speak from great experience and it does make for great writing can't wait to read what you have. Once again I thank each of you so much for taking the time to read this and giving me great feed back.

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      ALUR 5 years ago from USA

      Lament has been part of my life for the past few years. Though "forgiveness" is the key element to progress-namely forgiving oneself it remains a formative task. If only I can let go of my own prison walls. Then again, they make for great poetry/prose/fiction!

      You're welcome to read/rate my hubs as well!

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      huckelbury 5 years ago

      We can't make yesterday any better, but it's often challenging to forgive oneself, especially if past actions have inflicted a lot of pain on those we love. Your hub is an excellent place to start the process. Nice work.

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      daisyjae 5 years ago from Canada

      It is so hard to forgive yourself sometimes. I am glad you have shared this hub with us, i hope it helps people.

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      Jools99 5 years ago from North-East UK

      Forgiving yourself for something is very difficult sometimes but if you don't do it (eventually) then you don't really move on. It remains there, lurking in your head and it owns you; that is never a good feeling.

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      IAmForbidden 5 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up.

      forgiveness is a key to the chains that binds our hearts...

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      Mike Robbers 5 years ago from London

      Your hub is very interesting and contains good points on how to rid yourself of resentment. Good job!

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      Jordanwalker39 5 years ago from NC

      Thank you midget. We have to learn or we are doomed to repeat...

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      Michelle Liew 5 years ago from Singapore

      I agree with Linda there. If you cannot forgive yourself, it is hard to move on. We make mistakes...we're not perfect and we must accept it while making sure not to repeat the same mistakes. sharing!

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      Jordanwalker39 5 years ago from NC

      Thank you very much. I know how hard it can be to regret something. So I figured I could perhaps helps someone else who might be having trouble with it.

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      Linda Bilyeu 5 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Forgiveness is crucial for a healthy mind, body and soul. Excellent hub Jordan!