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Why Am I So Ugly? Because Ugliness Has Major Perks

Updated on April 5, 2012

Looking good has always been a big deal, and appearance is especially important in today's society. We're constantly presented with articles, advertisements, treatments, tutorials, movies, shows, and books that encourage us, either directly or indirectly, to look a certain way.

When you stop to think about it, you'll quickly realize that the "ideal appearance" varies significantly. Heck, the only thing all these differing ideals have in common is the fact that they don't mirror your own appearance. Yet still these standards of beauty get to people.

I know this. I know this for a fact. We all do, right? Why else would image-based advertising be effective? Why else would we buy magazines and books filled with beauty tips? And why else would thousands of people type "I am ugly" and "Why am I so ugly" into Google each month (because literally thousands do)?

Let's accept the fact that society's beauty standards get to us. But let's also consider the fact that we might not want to adhere to them. Why? Because being really, really, ridiculously good looking has major downsides. I'll touch on some of them below, and I bet you can think of many more.

C'mon, people. Let's revel in our mediocre appearance.

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Gorgeous People Can Be Intimidating

Have you ever avoided talking with someone because they're drop dead gorgeous? I know I have! I rather enjoy drooling over beautiful people from afar, but I don't usually make a point of talking to them. This makes me a silly coward, but I am most certainly not alone.

It's an unfortunate thing, isn't it? I love it when complete strangers strike up conversations with me, and I don't know if so many people would do so if they didn't find me accessible and approachable (which is a nice way of saying I don't appear to be "out of their league").

So while you might sometimes watch gorgeous people sail by with a certain amount of fearful jealousy, keep in mind that it might be preferable to be viewed with friendly interest as opposed to a mixture of admiration and jealousy.

GAAH!! BEAUTY!!!
GAAH!! BEAUTY!!! | Source

Gorgeous Folks Can Stress People Out

Beyond being intimidating, beautiful people can literally stress others out.

In a 2010 University of Valencia study, it was found that men left alone in a room with a young attractive woman experienced raised levels of cortisol, the body's stress hormone.

While exposure to cortisol is not bad over short periods of time, chronic exposure can worsen conditions like heart disease, diabetes, hypertension, and impotency. So hey- gorgeous people might be so intimidating that they're actually making their intimidated buddies sick with stress.

Ok... maybe I'm stretching things a little, but it's still worth noting that being around folks who you consider to be out of your league is stressful. And I don't know about you, but I'd prefer to have buddies who are not stressed out while in my presence.

YOU'RE STRESSING ME OUT, PRETTY LADY! MAKE IT STOP! MAKE IT STOOOP!
YOU'RE STRESSING ME OUT, PRETTY LADY! MAKE IT STOP! MAKE IT STOOOP! | Source
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Being Attractive is Stressful

Keeping up appearances, whatever those appearances may be (happiness, wealth, sanity...), is stressful, but it's even worse when that "appearance" is physical. If you're known for being beautiful, people will notice when you look like crap. They'll hold you accountable. And that's a total drag.

One major perk of being just moderately pretty, normal, or even unattractive, is an ability to get away with appearing however you please. If you aren't known for looking a certain way, you don't have to worry about checking yourself in the mirror every couple of hours. You don't have to always dress tastefully or make sure your brows are plucked. If you want to throw on that chartreuse muumuu, you TOTALLY can! DO YOU REALIZE HOW FANTASTIC THAT IS???

Chances are you take your average appearance (and the freedom that comes with it) for granted. Stop that. It's silly.

Helen Mirren, you are a goddess. We all bow down to your greatness.
Helen Mirren, you are a goddess. We all bow down to your greatness. | Source

Looks Don't Last Forever

There's no sense in arguing that being very attractive does not have its perks. Beauty brings with it popularity, friends, free drinks, special treatment, and sometimes even great fame.

The problem with these perks is that they're fleeting. Unless you're Helen Mirren, your good looks will fade, and all that special attention may seep away, too (unless you're on the ball and establish a non-appearance based escape skill/trait). No amount of plastic surgery or witchcraft can save you from this unfortunate fate.

While unattractive people are forced to develop something else that makes them worth hanging out with (wit, wealth, amazing fire breathing skills, power, physical prowess, undeniably compelling pheromones...), they do not have to worry about these hooks decaying over time. More often than not, the traits that give them social clout are more likely to gain strength and worth with time.

So before you curse fate for giving you a normal face and body, ask yourself this: Would you prefer to have an asset that appreciates or depreciates over time?

Do you really want to invest your time and attention on your appearance? Because... there are other things you can do. Y'know... like change the world. Or something.
Do you really want to invest your time and attention on your appearance? Because... there are other things you can do. Y'know... like change the world. Or something. | Source

Do You Really Want Appearance to Be Your Legacy?

What is your life's purpose? What do you want people to remember about you after you bite the dust?

I don't know about you, but I'd like to be remembered for something aside from my appearance. "Oh yeah, Simone... she was that crazy woman who used to shoot at kids with animal tranquilizers, right?" is so much cooler than "Oh yeah, Simone... she was really hot, wasn't she?"

Seriously though- it's almost an insult to be remembered for your physical appearance. I acknowledge the fact that being beautiful does take a lot of work, but despite one's efforts, all the credit beautiful folks get goes to their body parts; not their personalities, not their feats of strength or wit, and not their significant achievements. That's dreadfully disappointing.

Even while still alive, many gorgeous people are not given due credit for their actual skills. Take famously good looking actors as an example. Often typecast as token heartthrobs, they have difficulty developing reputations as serious performers (many succeed, but with no small amount of difficulty).

Isn't it nice that us Normals get to speak for ourselves when it comes to legacy-making? I think so.

There are People, dude! They can DO things do you! Magical, magical things!
There are People, dude! They can DO things do you! Magical, magical things! | Source

Beauty is Always an Option

If you're still not satisfied with being average or below average-looking, consider this: If you need to, you can look exceedingly good. Anyone, if properly lit and styled by a team of professionals, can be made beautiful. We have the technology.

If you're not gorgeous by default, you have the privilege of turning to attractiveness as a sometimes activity. If you want to look good, you can. But you are also free to be judged by the content of your character. You have the best of both worlds.

It's nice that we have the ability to look good when we need to. It's also nice that most of us can let OTHER aspects of our identity shine without appearance getting in the way.
It's nice that we have the ability to look good when we need to. It's also nice that most of us can let OTHER aspects of our identity shine without appearance getting in the way. | Source

There's No Pleasing Everyone

Besides having some serious drawbacks (only a few of which I've outlined above), beauty in itself is a flawed goal to pursue. Attempting to be gorgeous is just about as practical as attempting to find the end of a rainbow. There simply is no pleasing everyone, and there is no true success. No matter how attractive you may become, you will always have flaws and insecurities, and you will always be ugly to someone.

On the flip side, no matter what you look like, someone will find you attractive. That's just how beauty works. It's a subjective thing.

So why continually attempt to grasp at straws? Why not just accept the fact that you were given a certain body and make the most of it? So long as you're healthy and happy, I say you've won.

The truth is this: No matter how closely you conform with modern standards of beauty, you'll be truly radient so long as you flaunt what you've got.

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      Melanie 5 years ago from New Buffalo, Michigan

      Hmm interesting points, here. There's this drop-dead gorgeous guy that I share a billion interests with, but I am a billion times too shy to talk to him simply based on the fact that he is so drop-dead gorgeous. Very thought provoking hub and video. :)

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      Sooner28 5 years ago

      This was extremely entertaining, like always. I also enjoyed the fact you actually made an argument out of it, which as a philosophy major I can appreciate. Keep up the funny hubs!

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      RTalloni 5 years ago from the short journey

      I just realized the first part of my comment did not come out right!!! :)!!!!

      Bottom line is, pretty is as pretty does. 'Tis true, beauty is what you are inside, and it reflects in your eyes. It is not something physical.

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      Emerald Strachan 5 years ago

      I have never had a problem talking to someone because of looks before but then again, I am not too keen on other people's appearance. I do notice that they look good but I will pick up on personality traits too and that's where I determine whether it's someone worth talking to. I like your hub, it's very productive reasoning.

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      Shasta Matova 5 years ago from USA

      Interesting points. I am not concerned about being good looking either. I would rather work on bettering myself on the inside.

      It is true that beauty is subjective. When I was in college, my group of three friends and I picked the most good looking boy from across the quad. Each of us chose a different one!

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      Christin Sander 5 years ago from Midwest

      I really enjoyed this hub :). I think natural beauty is something that reflects through regardless and many plain jane types such as myself (ahem) are able to just value being in good health and focusing on being our personal best.

      Then there are people who are overly made up and have tons of cosmetic surgery and all that nonsense and why? What does it prove? It doesn't make true beauty - it makes a "false image".

      I think one of the primary reasons we have this condition in society is that it is a great money maker! What better way to get people to spend money than play on their fears that they aren't "enough" somehow? I think this hub highlights that very well - we need to start to value the uniqueness that is in every person - that is what I find beautiful. No amount of makeup or lighting can give you real beauty, it comes from within and is reflected outward.

      People I think see all the great Photoshopped magazines and get an unrealistic (literally) image in their heads of what beauty is and then spend tons of money to chase this idea that is merely an illusion. Great for business, not so great for individual self-esteem.

      I think it's great to look your best and feel your best, but not to be a "super model" but to just be the best you that you can be. :)

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      Simone Haruko Smith 5 years ago from San Francisco

      Hahaa, I'm glad I'm not the only one who has trouble talking to super gorgeous folks. But dude, you should totally talk to him melbel.

      Thanks Sooner28! It's a weak argument, but one worth making, eh?

      Well said, RTalloni.

      That's a fortunate thing, Emerald Strachan! Personality is what really counts.

      I'm glad to hear that, Millionaire Tips. And hahaa, that's a fun experiment! I'd definitely like to try that out with friends someday. Yay for people watching-based discussions :D

      So true, ChristinS!! And I agree that money probably has a lot to do with the emphasis we put on appearance. It is indeed unfortunate that such a thriving industry should have to prey on the confidence of others. Thanks for the great comment.

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      Sooner28 5 years ago

      On a purely argumentative level, it does have some problems. People who are attractive generally have more job security and have higher income levels. They are also less likely to be arrested by the police. However, this hub is more about just being fun, so I don't think that really matters :P.

      I still enjoyed the article! I actually think you could turn this idea into a book. It would be a great read.

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      anglnwu 5 years ago

      Did that British lady (what's her name?--goes to show looks not everything, I can't even remember her name) who claimed that she's victimized because she's so insanely gorgeous inspired this hub? Your case is so appreciated--growing up, I always thought myself ugly but hey, time helps. There comes a point in time, where it becomes less important. Enjoyed your video.

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      Brian L. Powell 5 years ago from Dallas, Texas (Oak Cliff)

      Interesting. I think you just suggested an alternative to plastic surgery.

      I could use a marketing campaign to make myself the standard for gorgeous male looks.

      Humm.... I should just work on my fire breathing skills. Of course, cooking would be safer.

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      Angie Jardine 5 years ago from Cornwall, land of the eternally youthful mind ...

      It's the beautiful people who are smart and do something worthwhile that you need to watch out for, Simone. Damn them!

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      emdi 5 years ago

      The title of this hub doesn't fit at all for the girl in the video :-)

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      Urmila 5 years ago from Rancho Cucamonga,CA, USA

      I agree. We should not be worry about outside beauty which does not last longer. I love your video and by the way you are beautiful! Interesting and Voted up!

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      vespawoolf 5 years ago from Peru, South America

      Another great hub with a generous dose of your unique sense of humor! (BTW, I think you're super cute.) I like the point that looks fade, but what we are inside does not. It's better to spend time cultivating our inner person instead of fretting over our looks which are bound to disappear.

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      India Arnold 5 years ago from Northern, California

      Outstanding hub on the ugly (and beautiful) sides of life! My favorite words within the work are:

      "Do you really want to invest your time and attention on your appearance? Because... there are other things you can do. Y'know... like change the world. Or something."

      As always a fun, informative read!

      HubHugs~

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      Ali 5 years ago

      Love this hub :) thx Simone

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      Daisy Mariposa 5 years ago from Orange County (Southern California)

      Simone,

      You're beautiful...inside and out.

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      Ruchira 5 years ago from United States

      Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder...so chill :)

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      kelleyward 5 years ago

      This is so cleaver. I think your points are very important. Sometimes people who are very attractive have a hard time being taken seriously in their field of work. An extremely attractive male doctor might have a hard time getting women patients to open up to him about their health concerns, who wants to tell a drop dead gorgeous doctor about their depression or stomach virus. The video you added here was great! Voted up and useful!

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      Poetic Fool 5 years ago

      A fascinating and entertaining hub, Simone. It's always frustrated me that so much importance and value has been given to something as superficial and temporal as youth and beauty. I have lived long enough to see both fade (though I was never handsome myself) and many so favored fade into mediocrity. Those that cultivated their inner beauty, though, somehow seem to remain beautiful on the outside even with their wrinkles and gray hair. Funny how that works! I hope your readers take the message of your hub to heart. Thanks for sharing.

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      Sushmita 5 years ago from Kolkata, India

      Simone,funny and argumentative Hub- counting the blessings for us, 'the ugly ducklings'. Yeah, I used to get intimidated by gorgeous looking people till the college days, I suppose. But probably as you become you, the fear breaks and you realize there is scope for every Tom, Dick and Harry in this world! Sometimes, on closer scrutiny the gorgeous people of everyday, do not add up to being really gorgeous, inside out. Enjoyed and voted up.

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      cebutouristspot 5 years ago from Cebu

      Hmm you do have a point I do find people who are beautiful before as intimidating but all it took was one date with a drop dead gorgeous girl to realize that they too are human being. :) But I always make it a point to stay away from people who use their physical beauty to their advantage :)

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      Cynthia Calhoun 5 years ago from Western NC

      Hehe, I like what K9 said about investing your time in changing the world or something. Informative and thought-provoking hub. I've often thought that very attractive people have their looks to contend with - more of a curse than a blessing. But, I dunno. I admit I'm glad I don't look like I stepped out of a magazine - I can get on with other things. :)

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      CashFlowsToo.com 5 years ago from Ft Washington

      Learned less about the topic and more about the delivery. I'm impressed that you have a video with this hub. You have shown me that the game of having a hu has moved to another level. Thank you, @simonesmith. I hope you have a beautiful, I mean fugly day.

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      Lauren 5 years ago

      This helped me cause im naturally good looking and i always get guys but i dont care if im hurting other people just cause they r ugs as dosnt mean i cant b gourgeous xo luv me

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      rosika 5 years ago

      This is so amazing hub and adding video makes it more interesting....even though there are so many things to do in the world, yet our society is just obsessed with beauty. But when it fades, there comes the depression....If all of us could spend some of our time in helping others and not think about just and just beauty, our soul,if not face,would be beautiful and happy. And I believe happy soul makes the happy person:)...

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      emilybee 5 years ago

      You are funny! I liked watching your video! You are right on - I agree completely. Anyone can look good!! Put on some makeup if you are having an ugly day and you will be presentable!!! I feel the same way!!! For me, I find attractive people a whole lot less intimidating when I am all beautified with fancy clothes and heels (yes, the heels do it) and makeup. I'm generally ok with myself tho cause I know everyone just has ugly days. Some days you're like...man, I am so ugly today. I call it my moose days. I'm like, wow I look like a moose today. lol Excellent hub.

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      Tara McNerney 5 years ago from Washington, DC

      Simonette you are the cutest. I think our value of beauty is just evolutionarily hard-wired. But luckily we also possess a sense of humor - so we can decide to not take beauty seriously and have more giggles poking fun at ourselves. =)

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      Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 5 years ago from Chennai, India

      A truly thought-provoking hub! You voiced your views very well in this engaging hub. Beauty is skin-deep and it is inner beauty that makes one more charming rather than outer beauty!

      Thanks for SHARING. Interesting. Voted up.

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      Teresa Coppens 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      simone, what a fantastic topic for a hub. A million young girls would so benefit from watching this. So much teen and in some cases adult depression results from poor body (facial!) image. Bravo on a hub well done!

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      Peter Allison 5 years ago from Alameda, CA

      Thank you Simone! This explains why my cortisone levels have DROPPED since I quit taking the ferry to and from work! This is a good topic though and your advice is right on as always. For me feeling good about oneself is key - though I'm not sure even that would buffer 'being alone in a room with gorgeous (person)' as far as stress goes. I think it's important to understand that feeling good about yourself doesn't revolve around looks, but somehow always makes you look better.

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      Simone Haruko Smith 4 years ago from San Francisco

      So true, Peter Allison!

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      Nicole Canfield 4 years ago from the Ether

      Simone, can I just say that I absolutely ADORE you? Your videos and thoughts are just so awesomely useful. I have to say that I agree with you 200,000%! Why is everyone so dang concerned with being that playboy bunny or male model? Who cares? And good point with letting your other qualities, more important qualities, shine through your outsides. I was telling my husband the other night that I want people to say things when I'm gone like this, "She was such a sweet person." "She truly cared for others." "The world was better with her in it." "She really made a difference in peoples' lives." Not things like, "Gosh she was so beautiful." Bleh. Thanks!

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      Simone Haruko Smith 4 years ago from San Francisco

      Wow, thanks kittythedreamer! I suppose everyone is so preoccupied with this stuff since we're more or less trained to be. Ah well!! I LOVE the idea of finding OTHER aspects of a person to compliment- perhaps if enough people focus on non-appearance-related-attributes, a moderate paradigm shift can take place... at least amongst a couple of social sets!

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      Pamela Kinnaird W 4 years ago from Maui and Arizona

      I loved your video! I hope you are in local plays because you sure are talented. And thanks for mentioning the ugly muumuus. That's my main style whenever I can get away with it -- Daughter can't stand being with me when I'm wearing an old muumuu. You made so many good arguments here and you're so funny. Great stuff!

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      Simone Haruko Smith 4 years ago from San Francisco

      Thanks for the kind words, Pamela Kinnaird W! Muumuus FTW!

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      PeZzy 4 years ago

      You're hot. Can we arrange a date?

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      Debra 4 years ago

      I really liked your comments about beauty. What people do not realize when there young is beauty and age is fleeting. It's who you are as a personas what really matters.

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      Larry Wall 4 years ago

      I found your presentation and your personality to be absolutely drop dead gorgeous. You make the point, it is how you see yourself and not how others see you that matters. Being a male, shy, with a speech impediment, I was never comfortable talking to girls and that carried on into my adult years until I met my wife. She will tell you I do not talk much, but she deals with that.

      The only think I will add, is that you noted that the "beautiful" people may make more money and advance up the corporate chain. Trust me, as a male, with glasses and bad hair, the beautiful and the not-so-beautiful, did not show much interest in me. Good looking women want good looking men. There are exceptions, but unfortunately attraction is often based on attractiveness. Maybe that is all right and maybe it is something we just cannot help. I have known people who once they got to know the person who was not the homecoming queen type, they found that the person had a lot of good qualities and in her own was was very beautiful.

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      Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

      How could I resist this title? lol! I grew up thinking I was really ugly, and by the time I realised I wasn't that bad I was older so I started to lose my looks anyway! haha! looks fade, but its definitely the personality that works the best, so yeah for us uglys well uglyish, or plain or well just normal!

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      Jo_Goldsmith11 4 years ago

      This is a very well written hub. I have enjoyed reading it. I believe that "beauty is only skin deep." The most *plain* of persons have beauty. I think the ones that are *gorgeous* should be in paintings. Like you said, looks fade but the persons character will be forever. Take care. Voted up beautiful lady! :) Shared too.

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      CBartelmey 4 years ago from Colorado, United States

      This was just hilarious; I absolutely love your take on this. I think I will be laughing into tomorrow. Well done!

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      Kimberly Shelden 4 years ago from Idaho

      Great Hub, I will say that I have always been approached more when my hair is not great, no make-up that day, and wearing sweats than when I dress up- so I definitely think your on to something.

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      JanHeath 4 years ago from Australia

      You make some really good points. I've often noticed that many gorgeous people don't necessarily have the great and perfect life that we might imagine they would be enjoying because of their high level of attractiveness. Really enjoyed your hub. Voted up and funny!

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      Peter Geekie 4 years ago from Sittingbourne

      Dear Simone,

      I have a friend, who is blind, but there is one positive thing about his affliction, he tells me, every woman he meets is beautiful. To him their voice, their humour and warmth is wonderful. Their touch and to be touched is real beauty. Perhaps we are all deceived by what Hollywood tells us is beautiful or ugly.

      kind regards Peter

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      VelvetTears 4 years ago from Miami

      Luvs it!!

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      CJ Baker 4 years ago from Parts Unknown

      As a sexy beast I can testify to the fact that it is not easy being attractive. Thank you for your personal understanding of my plight.

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      meloncauli 4 years ago from UK

      Great read! I truly believe in the fact that beauty lies within. Sadly much of today's beauty is about false eyelashes, inch thick make up and cosmetic surgery. It takes me about 5-10 minutes to put my make up on ( and that's not every day). Imagine being Jordan aka Katie Price - I expect her make up takes an hour or more and much of that is done for her by someone else. Give me ordinary looking any day!

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      squarestudios 4 years ago from Los Angeles

      Great postage!

      I just want to let you know that I tweeted ur vid, and ur tweet counter doesn't seem to have gone up a tick... just sayin!

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      squarestudios 4 years ago from Los Angeles

      looks like the tweet peeped up now :p

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      Kelly Umphenour 4 years ago from St. Louis, MO

      Really interesting hub and something I've thought a lot about. Some people swear I'm gorgeous - other people say I'm very ugly!

      I don't care though - at the end of the day it's about how I feel and I just feel like I look fine. Every thing is passable:) lol

      I do know what you mean though I do find it much more difficult to approach the model type if I don't know them:) I guess I think they have all they need by the looks of 'em! Lol

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      TycoonSam 4 years ago from Washington, MI

      What a fun and funny hub. Very entertaining and I must say I think you would look smashing in a chartreuse moo moo...just saying.

      Voted Funny and Awesome

      Thanks again for making me smile

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      Sherry Hewins 4 years ago from Sierra Foothills, CA

      I like your point about how if you're know for being pretty you are expected to live up to that standard. Just look at those "celebrities caught without makeup" pictorials on magazine covers. Those people are beautiful, but they need help to maintain what's expected of them. I like to go without makeup most of the time, and then on that rare occasion when I use a little people wonder why I look so good.

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      Penelope Hart 4 years ago from Rome, Italy

      I waited for minutes till the streaming ended on your video and got fed up. Too bad i couldn't see your video.

      I bet few of us love the bodies and the faces we have! That takes some growing up.

      Coool hhub.

      (Dreadful streaming on your video) I GIVE UP.

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      FullOfLoveSites 4 years ago from United States

      Hollywood stars are no doubt beautiful and glamorous, but they are nevertheless dissatisfied with relationships -- maybe because someone better-looking is just around the corner. ;)

      Great and humorous hub. :))

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      Amy 4 years ago

      I used to be considered attractive, even into my early forties. Now, in my late forties, I'm downright homely. I never was gorgeous, but I did get some attention because of my looks. I try not to let it matter, but when your good looks fade you kind of lose some of your identity. I know how stupid that sounds. But if you've always been perceived a particular way, and then it stops—well, you have to get used to it.

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      Heather Rode 4 years ago from Buckeye, Arizona

      Great video! I'm actually very curious what kind of camera you use? I need to buy one and yours always seems to do such a great job. :P Thanks

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      Rachael Cleveland 4 years ago from Woodbridge, VA

      Love this! Unfortunately, I couldn't get the video to load or play. Why, video, why must you torment me?!

      Will try again soon because I'm creepy and need to watch you talk. Meant to be said in the least creepy way possible...

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      il Scettico 4 years ago

      When I saw the title of this I said "woah woah woah... false." Until I actually read the article. It has some very valid points and I applaud you for that.

      This seemed somewhat presumptuous stating that people gain fame BECAUSE of their looks. I've always said physical looks attract, but inner beauty keeps a person there.

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      Mary Hyatt 4 years ago from Florida

      I read somewhere that it was a fact that attractive people advance in the work place faster than unattractive people. I do think beautiful people have an advantage in many ways over "plain" people.

      When we age, our poor eye sight fools us into believing we are still as attractive as we were in our youth. We can't see all the wrinkles!

      Great Hub. I voted it UP, etc.

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      Elizabeth Rayen 4 years ago from California

      Well this was a very interesting hub. I think it comes down to how we feel about ourselves and how secure we are in ourselves. Beauty IS in the eye of the beholder and it surrounds us in so many ways. I say, we are all beautiful and we all have a great deal to offer the world. You are a cutester Simone and I loved this hub. :)

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      Simone Haruko Smith 4 years ago from San Francisco

      I am sorry to hear that, Amy, but I hope that your feelings have inspired you to cultivate new areas of your life.

      Heather Says, I use a Nikon D1500, and love it!

      Sorry about the video loading issues, rmcleve.

      I am glad that you find some of my points valid, il Scettico- and that's a very good point you make, too!

      I have read that, too, mary615. Love this perk of poor eyesight though!

      You're so right, Rusticliving. Thank you!!

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      greencha 4 years ago from UK

      Very interesting article. Without being patronising you look absolutely fine to me (even attractive). So when you coming round for dinner?

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      greencha 4 years ago from UK

      I am a good cook honest.

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      Simone Haruko Smith 4 years ago from San Francisco

      Hehee, depends on what you're cooking, greencha!

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      greencha 4 years ago from UK

      Well I would start with a nice homemade vegetarian soup,sprinkled with baked Nori ,then baked Tofu with rice noodles and soya sauce.

      followed with red plums ,and homemade Apple Strudle -of course with cinnamon,and a glass of a good red wine.........

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      greencha 4 years ago from UK

      x xx

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      Simone Haruko Smith 4 years ago from San Francisco

      Holy cow, you know what you're doing, greencha!!! Sign me up.

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      greencha 4 years ago from UK

      Of course Simone, I got the cooker on....drop by on your travels...

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      Simone Haruko Smith 4 years ago from San Francisco

      On it, greencha!

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      greencha 4 years ago from UK

      I got it on slow cook...

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      Crissylite 4 years ago

      I thought this article is beautiful! Great points & makes one think. It reminds me of one of my favorite proverbs: "Favor is deceitful and beauty is vain, but the the woman that fears the Lord shall be praised."

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      emdi 4 years ago

      just curious: do hub authors get share of the revenue from ads in the video?

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      This is a great article! I go through phases where I try to look cuter, and wish I were more attractive, to not caring so much. I am likeable, attractive to some, and I have everything I need in life to make me happy. And I would certainly not want to be known for my looks. There are better things to be recognized for.

      I love your opinion, and your attitude!

      One more thing I would point out as far as the disadvantages of being ridiculously gorgeous is that you sometimes have too many choices for "relationships", would have to reject people all of the time (and that is really hard), and you may not attract people for the right reasons.

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      Melissa A Smith 3 years ago from New York

      Why do people worry about their looks so strongly? This hub answers the question quite well. You (and many others) call Helen Mirren a "goddess" with greatness merely for her superficial facade. Looks seem to make people earn respect. It's nice to try and make people feel better about not measuring up, speaking of the perils of attractiveness, but really, that doesn't exist.

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      Simone Haruko Smith 3 years ago from San Francisco

      Melissa, I would argue that the perils of attractiveness absolutely exist, though it is also true that (typically) the benefits outweigh the drawbacks. :D

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      greencha 3 years ago from UK

      Attractiveness is not just 'looks',- atractiveness of a person is/or can be inclusive of charisma,personality,sensitiveness,understanding,humour,-yes good looks help but not always essential.

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      Hawaiian Odysseus 3 years ago from Southeast Washington state

      I am featuring you and your video Hub here at the end of my next Hub which I'm hoping to finish sometime tonight. Congratulations on the new phase of your career, Simone Haruko, and know that I've really appreciated all that you've done for me as an aspiring writer as well as for the collective literary community of HP.

      Finally, and please take this as it is intended--with the utmost respect and admiration for your brilliant creativity:

      Simone Haruko, you are HOT!!!

      Aloha, my friend, and have a fantastic future!

      Joe

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      StitchTheDamned 3 years ago from Clifton Park, NY

      I really love this hub. I have had self esteem issues for years. I modeled in my younger years and that ability faded after I had kids and my skin got bad. This article really gave me some positive things to think about. Thank you so much!

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      Karla D 3 years ago

      Ummmmmmm. this was downright awesome.

      thanks for the laughs. you made a great argument!

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      Nigham 3 years ago from Pakistan.

      I wish I could tag each person on this planet...this hub!!!

      Really thought provoking... :)

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      Kelly Kline Burnett 2 years ago from Southern Wisconsin

      Simone,

      You are beautiful inside and out. What great energy this hub has! Delightful! Thank you for sharing the journey!

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