6 Tips on Unblocking Looping Thought Patterns (Video)
What governs your perception?
"I Can't Stop These Thoughts"
"I can't seem to stop my thoughts and I so feel helpless." My thoughts are driving me crazy and are out of control." "I don't know what to do? I feel like such a failure."
I get told these statements all the time from my clients when they get fearful and mentally fixed on the future. Then they get told by others “Stop worrying about what might be due to what happened to you. The past is over."
Think about when you fixate on your past, you are generally told "Stop trying to fix the past." "Get off your butt and do something. Just live in the moment.”
As a result you ask yourself "I can't do anything. I am confused. I am totally lost in my thoughts. I am so stuck. I can't seem to move forward."
Everyone has accumulated blocking thoughts during our life. It is a normal part of life. It is what you do with your thoughts once you have recognize there is a pattern which is important. What is harmful is when you get caught in a thought or set of thoughts that endlessly circle without closure in your mind, like a whirlpool and no matter what, anything you do does not stop it. This mental occurrence is called a thought addiction (TA). TA is a habitual focusing on one thought or set of thoughts that consumes your energy and life. Thought addiction is the returning to a thought over and over again which does not serve you and has damaging results as well as depletes every system of your body of energy.
Do you find yourself mentally stuck often?
In order to move forward and attain what you want out of life you first have to recognize that which is blocking your progress. Many people are not aware that the one thing that is stopping them from personal, relational or career success is their own thinking pattern.
Understand, you are a product of your own thoughts. Thoughts shape your life and determine your mindset toward yourself and others. Thoughts patterns have a powerful influence on emotions, behaviors and reactions as well.
There are those who fall into deep denial that they have developed an addiction to a particular thought pattern. Some are so scared to see what is holding them back when in fact it is his or her own thoughts that is blocking. He or she is so afraid that they are addicted to their thoughts that they will not stop look and are afraid to take responsibility for his or her own thoughts.
See what is real is that addiction to a thought or a set of thoughts clouds your ability to view yourself or life realistically.
4 Steps in Changing Looping Thoughts
Thought Pattern Themes
I have found that most people use habitual thought patterns to keep him or her stuck (generally fixated on the past or projecting on what might happen in the future), to numb out emotions or to avoid the present by allowing thoughts to loop over and over as a distraction from what is really going on. Anxious, depressing, suicidal and worried thinking are just a few forms of habitual thought looping (also known as a thought addiction).
It is habitual thought pattern is what blocks you from reaching success, fulfillment, happiness and your success.
There are three thematic thoughts patterns.
I would like to briefly address themes that you may tend to fall into.
Theme #1 habitual thought pattern is the Fixer. A Fixer is when you are always thinking about what has happened to you in the past. Many Fixers spend the majority of waking time constantly thinking about happened, how it went wrong, how he or she failed or could not stop the event and going over every experience in order to figure out how to fix them. Involvement in this thought pattern is an attempt to fix, need to fix or how to change what happened. This them will cause you to become depressed or disappointed because you learn that you can't change your the past.
The habitual thought pattern theme #2 which you may get stuck in is the Worrier. A Worrier is when you are afraid about what is going to happen in the future. Your thoughts focus and loop on projecting or predicting what is going to happen tomorrow, next week, next month or next year. Only in hindsight do you find out that 99% of those projections never happen or come true. This habitual thinking causes you to be overly fearful and anxious about anything in their future.
Theme #3 is the Daydreamer. A Daydreamer is when you are unhappy with your life and spend the majority of your time mentally escaping through excessive daydreaming. When in this type of looping thinking occurs, it causes you to have a false view of yourself and the world as well as cause you to disconnect from yourself and others around you.
Is my thinking straight?
6 Tips for Unblocking Looping Thoughts
1. Recognize you have a problem with getting stuck in your thoughts.
2. Identify and create a list of all the thoughts you repeatedly fixate or ruminate on during your day.
3. Next to each thought on your list, write down which theme each thought fits into.
4. Next decide your options. Is each thought a barrier or a motivator? Does the thought stop you from accomplishing what you want or living your life in the moment? Or is this thought motivating you into success?
5. Take action. Now join up with your imagination and correct the thoughts that are stopping you from living life in the moment.
I know you are very proficient at using your imagination, but maybe you do not know to effectively use your imagination to improve your life. Whether you know it or not you use your imagination to create images that support blocking thoughts and you generate feelings of anxiety, fear and worry which are counter-productive to your emotional, physical, mental and spiritual health. Instead of always expecting only bad things to happen to you based on your past or worrying about things in the future which might never happen in the name of “being cautious”, create positive thoughts to fixate on. Make a decision to imagine these new thoughts happening in your present situations, relationships, outcomes, and future successes. Also create new “feel good” images to connect to your new positive thoughts.
6. Develop discipline. So in order to embed your new list you've created, you need to develop a new positive habitual pattern. Extract 10 of most important thoughts with the most power images off your list and repeat the list to yourself 20 times a day with your eyes closed while you mentally visualize the imagines you developed for each. This is a very powerful combination. Also give yourself permission to open your mind to accepting new possibilities.
Simply, make this statement your new mantra:
“See it, believe it, feel it and desire it and it will become true.”
If you put these 6 tips into action, you will soon produce a new positive patterns of thoughts. These new thoughts will embed into your mind and become part of your mental life.
Dr Bill Tollefson, Ph.D., Certified Master Life, Health and Mindset Coach, Human Behavior, Addiction & Relationship Expert
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