Unblocking Looping Thought Patterns: 6 Tips for Stopping Them
What governs your perception?
"I Can't Stop My Negative Thoughts"
"I can't seem to stop my negative thoughts and they make me feel helpless." My thoughts are driving me crazy and feel out of control." "I don't know what to do? I feel like such a failure."
I get told these types of statements over and over again by my clients especially when they get fearful and mentally fixed on negative thoughts. Once they get caught in thought looping they get told by others “just stop worrying about what happened to you. It is over. The past is gone."
Think about when you fixate on your past and what happened. You are generally thinking: "I need to stop trying to fix the past." "I need to do something. I need to live in the moment.”
As a result, you think, "I can't do anything. I am confused. I am totally lost in my thoughts. I am so stuck. I can't seem to move forward."
Everyone has accumulated blocking thoughts during our life. It is a normal part of life. The important part is what you do with your thoughts once you have recognized you have a negative thought pattern. What is harmful is when you get caught up in a thought or set of thoughts that endlessly circle without closure in your mind, like a whirlpool and no matter what you do, and nothing you do stop it. This mental occurrence is called a thought addiction (TA). TA is a habitual focusing on one thought or set of thoughts that consume your mental energy and life. Thought addiction is the returning to thought over and over again which does not serve you and has damaging results mental and emotional effects as well as depletes every system of your body of energy.
Do you find yourself mentally stuck often?
In order to move forward and attain what you want out of life, you first have to recognize that which is blocking your progress. Many people are not aware that the one thing that is stopping them from a personal, relational or career success is their own thinking patterns.
Understand, you are a product of your own thoughts. Thoughts shape your life and determine your mindset toward yourself and others. Thoughts patterns have a powerful influence on emotions, behaviors, and reactions as well.
There are those who fall into deep denial that they develop an addiction to a particular thought pattern. Some are so scared to see what is holding them back when in fact it is his or her own thoughts that are blocking. He or she is so afraid that they are addicted to their thoughts that they will not stop to look at what they are thinking and are afraid to take responsibility for his or her own thoughts because they feel out of control.
See what is real is that addiction to a thought or a set of thoughts clouds his or her ability to view themselves or life realistically.
Thought Pattern and Their Themes
I have found that most people use habitual thought patterns to keep him or her stuck. Generally fixated on the past or projecting on what might happen in the future), to numb out emotions or to avoid the present by allowing thoughts to loop over and over as a distraction from what is really going on. Anxious, depressing, suicidal and worried thinking are just a few forms of habitual thought looping (also known as a thought addiction).
It is a habitual thought pattern is what blocks you from reaching success, fulfillment, happiness, and success.
There are three thematic thought patterns.
I would like to briefly address themes that you may tend to fall into.
Theme #1 habitual thought pattern is Fixer. A Fixer is when you are always thinking about what has happened to you in the past. Many Fixers spend the majority of waking time constantly thinking about what happened, how it went wrong, how he or she failed or could not stop the event and going over every experience in order to figure out how to fix them. Involvement in this thought pattern is an attempt to fix, need to fix or how to change what happened. This theme will cause you to become depressed or disappointed because you learn that you can't change or fix the past.
The habitual thought pattern theme #2 which you may get stuck in is the Worrier. A Worrier is when you are afraid of what is going to happen in the future. Your thoughts focus and loop on projecting or predicting what is going to happen tomorrow, next week, next month or next year. Only in hindsight do you find out that 99% of those projections never happen or come true. This habitual thinking causes you to be overly fearful and anxious about anything in their future.
Theme #3 is Daydreamer. A Daydreamer is when you are unhappy with your life and spend the majority of your time mentally escaping through excessive daydreaming. When in this type of looping thinking occurs, it causes you to have a false view of yourself and the world as well as cause you to disconnect from yourself and others around you.
Is my thinking straight?
How to Unblock Looping Thoughts: 6 Tips
1. Recognize you have a problem where you get stuck in your thoughts.
2. Identify and create a list of all the thoughts you repeatedly fixate or ruminate on during your day.
3. Next, to each thought on your list, write down which theme each thought fits into.
4. Then decide your options. Is each thought a barrier or a motivator? Does the thought stop you from accomplishing what you want or living your life in the moment? Or is this thought to motivate you into success?
5. Take action. Now join up with your imagination and correct the thoughts that are stopping you from living life in the moment.
I know you are very proficient at using your imagination, but maybe you do not know to effectively use your imagination to improve your life. Whether you know it or not you use your imagination to create images that support blocking thoughts and you generate feelings of anxiety, fear, and worry which is counter-productive to your emotional, physical, mental and spiritual health. Instead of always expecting only bad things to happen to you based on your past or worrying about things in the future which might never happen in the name of “being cautious”, create positive thoughts to fixate on. Make a decision to imagine these new thoughts happening in your present situations, relationships, outcomes, and future successes. Also, create new “feel good” images to connect with your new positive thoughts.
6. Develop discipline. So in order to embed the new list you've created, you need to develop a new positive habitual thought pattern. Extract 10 of the most important thoughts with the most powerful associated emotions in your list. Now, repeat the list to yourself 20 times a day with your eyes closed while you mentally visualize the imagines you developed for each as well as feel the associated emotions connected thoughts. This is a very powerful combination. Also, give yourself permission to open your mind to accept new possibilities.
Simply, make this statement your new mantra:
“See it, believe it, feel it and desire it and it will become true.”
If you put these 6 tips into action, you will soon produce new positive and productive patterns of thoughts. These new thoughts will embed into your mind over time and become part of your mental life.
© 2011 Bill Tollefson