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Unconditional is impossible

Updated on February 14, 2014

This here is a portrait of the greatest love on earth it is a picture that holds my understanding and love for my wife.

My San and Hang Pham Tuyet Nguyen Dierker (baptized Elisabeth and called Hanna) Let me not know another so angelic except that son she gave me.
My San and Hang Pham Tuyet Nguyen Dierker (baptized Elisabeth and called Hanna) Let me not know another so angelic except that son she gave me. | Source

Unconditional love is impossible for humans.

Do your best and try your hardest unconditional love is impossible. Once you actually realize that you are free to a huge degree.

If you say you love unconditionally you are a liar. Or you are not a human being. There is no "iffy" here. While you are in your body you cannot love unconditionally. Wow!

My wife and I do not do Valentines day. It is just so commercial it makes us both kind of get nauseated. We love love but not like candies and flowers and all that stuff. Truly we do not like much material stuff except for our 4 year old who is starting to act as though it is not so cool.

But this morning after I had been working for hours and around seven thirty this morning my wife came and gave me a great big hug. OK truth be told it is a great small hug, because she is as tiny as a mouse, and I am as big as a house. Our eyes met for only a brief second and we knew that our love was as unconditional as possible.

OMG we have seen each other and held each other through hell. But we do not let go, and more importantly we will not suffer our love, we always celebrate it. We are not perfect but our love is. On marriage she was Buddhist and I Episcopal and now we are just loving Christians. No way any of that is perfect. But it is built on unconditional love. At least that is what we think.

Money and my actions cause a friction around here. Or is it that lack of money and her desire to control my actions cause friction around here? Or is it that we both have friction and are best friends so we vent our friction on each other and that makes it seem like friction between us? Or, or or or.

We simply do not care. We are not hand in glove. We are vein inside the hand and inseparable without each other we cease to exist as we are.

So what? We should celebrate Valentines day? Well I would like to. But if I make a big deal of it, is it not for the day instead of my wife?

And so in my home we sing this song which was song at my mother's memorial and reminds me how not great I am. In this moment that girl and boy are unconditional

There is a song I love. Do not hold me rightful in comparison. But it reminds me of an unconditionally love. My adoptive parents told me this is my father's bir

The song goes something like this:

I don't know if you can see
The changes that have come over me
In these last few days I've been afraid
That I might drift away
I've been telling old stories, singing songs
That make me think about where I've come from
That's the reason why I seem
So far away today

[Chorus:]
Let me tell you that I love you
That I think about you all the time
Caledonia, you're calling me, now I'm going home
But if I should become a stranger
Know that it would make me more than sad
Caledonia's been everything I've ever had

Now I have moved and I've kept on moving
Proved the points that I needed proving
Lost the friends that I needed losing
Found others on the way
I have kissed the fellas and left them crying
Stolen dreams, yes, there's no denying
I have traveled hard, sometimes with conscience flying
Somewhere with the wind

[Chorus]

Now I'm sitting here before the fire
The empty room, the forest choir
The flames have cooled, don't get any higher
They've withered, now they've gone
But I'm steady thinking, my way is clear
And I know what I will do tomorrow
When hands have shaken, the kisses float
Then I will disappear

[Chorus]

Caledonia's been everything I've ever had
Caledonia's been everything I've ever had
Caledonia's been everything I've ever had


It is these words that get so close to unconditional: In these last few days I've been afraid
That I might drift away.

That is the essence of drifting away.

We are not allowed to drift away and not come back so unconditional is not possible.

This boy is in a house though is heart and soul is on a horse. Not his fault.
This boy is in a house though is heart and soul is on a horse. Not his fault. | Source

The man though old can jump the heather and flip over the cactus!

There is an unconditional love between him and nature. But that is not possible. Believe me it is not. Though he loves in his heart unconditional he has a brain. And that brain cannot conceive of unconditional.

If in fact there is unconditional love, there is no need for this incarnation. Christians and Buddhist and Hindu and Muslim I speak to you. For if you have found unconditional love you are so in the moment and so free of life's burdens that you must leave our mist and be a cloud upon your own.

And I think in my "grandma Gail" I saw such an event. But it is not our place and we cannot claim such. Yet.

Can you claim?

Do you have unconditional love?

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So I heard this song and it made me write this hub. And on this valentines' day. It just hit home. My wife is not a great romantic but by God she loves me to de

Let this author shut the hell up and let you to your own thoughts.

You are not perfect yet she loves you. That is life. And therefor you should embrace this life with all you got.

"honey I cannot love you unconditionally. It is not humanly possible. But I can love you every day, one day at a time."

Please let our time together be proof of my love.

Do not tally the things of gifts but tally our love for our child.

Be not so perfect, for it makes me feel inadequate.

Know I do not resent the hours that you work and I am "stuck" being the babysitter, know I cherish the days that you are with us.

Even though I demand different of you, please close your ears and be just who you are.

Please do not laugh at my tears when you are near and I just cry in happiness.

Please just reach a hand out so I can only touch it and feel your heartbeat in nothing more than a moments brush.

My darling you raise me up to more than I could ever be alone.

Please do not just lay with me but look into my eyes and relieve my burden as only you can.

Where my wife and I first held hands and agreed to go to dinner.

I do reckon a courtship and meeting parents and going on dates first might be a bit old fashion these days. But I swear our parents born in depressions and wars deserved our respect to them. And I hope to God --- my children do not act so hokey dokey
I do reckon a courtship and meeting parents and going on dates first might be a bit old fashion these days. But I swear our parents born in depressions and wars deserved our respect to them. And I hope to God --- my children do not act so hokey dokey | Source

Probably I cannot recommend this book

Hey now it is impossible.

So who gives a damn!? I am going to try for it anyway. Just give it a shot. Perfection is overrated and giving something your absolute best is underrated. Go for it! You might be the very first to unconditionally love.

Hey I am shooting for it. Maybe today, tomorrow or the next day. Wow if it truly happens that would be great.

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    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      I can not dream up this love. You two write a book of love that is worth living. Much time with LDS and much time in Buddhist temples and God and because i looked I found the love of God, Let him find you now, just for you and not for me or any other idea! Praise our lord and let me walk with you so that you walk with me.

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      Demas W Jasper 

      4 years ago from Today's America and The World Beyond

      Enjoyable and this is coming from a mixed couple also. Methodist to LDS, Buddhist to Seventh Day Adventist to LDS, and we are both respectful of the Buddha's teachings. Loving the best you can and loving even more the next day, is a worthy objective and recipe for happiness.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Brian I am sure of it. I am sure your love is as spoken. God grace be in you.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Victoria, you bring forth a love that is wonderful and good. But you see the imperfections. True unconditional does not even see or rely on another. It is an inside job we just cannot achieve. As to what I am talking about.

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      Brian Prickril 

      4 years ago from Savannah, GA

      At the end of the day, after all the friction we sometimes cause each other, my wife and I can lay down our heads and say, "I love you." That is good enough for me. Especially when you know it's true. Great message.

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      Victoria Van Ness 

      4 years ago from Fountain, CO

      I believe unconditional love is loving another person no matter what mistakes the other person makes, no matter what a fool they make of themselves, and sometimes, no matter how bad they may hurt you.

      Normally this is a love that parents have for their children. Even is you may be disappointed, or may not approve of the decisions they are making, you still always love them. This can also be the love shared between a husband and a wife.

      I unconditionally love my husband. Can he annoy me? Of course. Can he frustrate me? Of course. Can he hurt me at times? Absolutely. But I love him nonetheless. The love I have for him transcends anything he may say or do. I've got to admit, I also have this same love for my precious puppies. :) Who can't love a puppy unconditionally?

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you DDE. We have to make it an inside job that is for sure.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Unconditional love is what you have and want and say so with a great mind and there are different kinds of love thank you.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Right on Grace in us you lay out a great universal truth. Yes it would need to be a great radiating love. I think it would have to extend to all things also. very deep stuff. Thank you.

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      graceinus 

      4 years ago from those of the Ekklesia

      Eric- Great Hub you have here. But I must say there are different kinds of love. The love for my brother is different than the love I have for my wife. I guess my question would be in order to achive unconditional love wouldn't it require that we love every one the same way? I believe that is how God love us all, the same way. And this why unconditional love seems to be a problem for us. We expect the same kind (type) of love that we give out to others to be returned in the same manner it is given. In other words we see different kinds of love whereas God does not.

      God bless.

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