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Winning Control Over Eating Disorders

Updated on July 27, 2015

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Do You Have An Eating Disorder?


Anorexia & Bulimia

Eating Disorders

Anorexia and Bulimia are serious compulsive eating disorders that are life threatening. These compulsive behaviors if not properly attended can result in death. This is not to scare you but to inform you that eating disorders are quite serious. I would like to shed some light on a serious subject that many do not like to discuss. In order to reach spiritual wholeness we must be willing to look at all human behavior. Everyone has areas in which they need to grow. Some have a harder time harnessing harmful behaviors. Behavior displayed does not actually display a true indication of how someone really is. Personality is often a veneer that has developed in order to protect the real person. Personalities vastly differ on a multiplicity of levels. Behavior can actually be a plea for help. Compulsive behaviors need immediate attention. Let's start moving towards WINNING CONTROL over eating disorders!

Anorexia and Bulimia is not something that is usually openly discussed. Anorexia nervosa is a self induced starvation that results in a dramatic weight loss. Bulimia is when one binges on large amounts of food that is followed with self induced vomiting or laxative abuse. This can or may not result in weight loss. Both are extremely dangerous and harmful both mentally and physically. Food for many can bring to mind memories of pain, abuse, anger, failure, rejection and or conflict. Although women primarily develop eating disorders, there are approximately 10% of men who are also anorexic or bulimic. Eating disorders usually have their onset during adolescent or teens. They can also develop later on in life.

Anorexia and bulimia origins are nested most frequently in dysfunctional families of varying social economical status. There are currently programs designed for children as well. This should inform you of the seriousness of eating disorders Denial is often an accompanying dynamic. Anorexics usually deny their feelings. They have been taught to suppress their feelings. It is important to know you are uniquely important, stop comparing yourself with anyone else!

Synptoms To Look For!

Let’s look at some of the symptoms. One of the first symptoms of Anorexia is when a person is focused on how they are too fat; when it is quite obvious that is not the case. They continually shift their desirable weight down. It is not unusual for an anorexic’s hands, feet, and head appear far too big. They continually restrict food to lose dramatic amounts of weight. They often wear bulky clothes or sweaters to mask their actual body size. It is also accompanied by the over use of laxatives; and or diet pills. Low self esteem and being over perfectionistic. Maintaining rigid control and excessive exercise. Depression, deceitfulness, guilt and irritability are often present as well. Anorexics are proud of their ability to restrict and control the amount of food they do or do not consume. Voluntary starvation can lead to emaciation and sometimes death.

Let’s look at some of the symptoms for Bulimia. The person is caught up in a binge-purge pattern of eating. They can consume vast amounts of food and relieve themselves by self induced vomiting, They often observe food rituals. Low self esteem and being overly perfectionistic are apparent. The person looses control once they start eating. Food actually becomes a calming agent and somewhat of a companion. One common bond in anorexia and bulimia is the person really wants relationship and the approval of others. It is highly likely that there has also been sexual abuse. It is important that you lovingly confront someone with an eating disorder. It is important that you are honest about the way they look. You must be willing to take the risk at them being upset. You should also be willing to take part in their healing. It is important that they receive the professional help they need. You too will need support during their recovery process. It is most helpful to learn more about eating disorders.

There are cases when a person is a combination of the two. This is known as Bulimarexic. They vacillate between the two disorders. It can be confusing because the individual does not acknowledge there is a problem. Denial is present since they do not actually fall into either category. Weight gain or loss, digestive problems, heart problems. anemia, forgetfulness, erosion of tooth enamel, glandular functioning, hypoglycemia, and impulse control order are some of the many side effects.

Begin To Move Towards Healing!

How does one heal? In severe cases an inpatient treatment program is best. A person’s weight must be closely monitored. In some cases initially treating them for depression is necessary. One thing that is necessary for healing is that they come to terms with the “Truth” of how they are feeling. One must make a conscious effort to look at their life, their family system and how they have been affected. In order to become whole they must learn to look at themselves, and others differently. Eating disorders are a family affair. Restructuring of the family interactions and dynamics are crucial. Obsessive compulsive issues to food and unrelated to food need to be addressed. Anorexia can affect major organ system functioning. Much PRAYER is needed in order for FORGIVENESS to take place! The family's system overall must be changed. Creating a healthier environment of honesty, LOVE and support will facilitate healing. Healing takes time. But putting forth the effort is worth the time! Dysfunctional dynamics have often become the norm for many. The unhealthy use of defense mechanisms, the lack of the ability to be who they are, the need to please others and the rageaholic and /or controlling family issues must be dealt with!

God wants us to be whole. Being whole does not mean being free of conflict or problems. Life will continually present challenges. Challenges brings about spiritual growth and development. God also wants us to be perfect. Godly perfection does not mean being free of flaws. Godly PERFECTION companions are an inward peace of mind and accepting the fact that God has uniquely created you. It means learning how to embrace who you are. Who God intended you to be. It means learning how to be content in the light of His Word. Then cautiously moving forward in life discovering who you are? To be perfect in Biblical terms simply means to be complete in Him. No it does not mean you have all the answers. But it does mean having a healthy relationship with God who does.

Love And Encouragement is Needed

If you or someone you know has an eating disorder. It is very important that you Pray for and with them!

I truly believe that as long or short as the Lord has us here on earth it is to learn. When we learn all there is to learn, if you are His child He calls you home. Learning to relate to food, people, things, problems and situations is a lifetime learning experience. But you can start today if you have not already; living life differently. You can live life preparing for eternity. This will also relieve you of much unwarranted anxiety. God knows ever single solitary thing that has happened in your life and everyone else's lives. He LOVES YOU! God really does know your heart. God can and will teach you how to guard your heart properly. God wants you to have that abundant life His Son died for. He wants you to enjoy and learn how to properly nourish your body both spiritually and physically. He wants you to live a balanced life. He wants you to be emotionally whole.

Yes you will continue to have sorrow, grief and disappointments. Yes, the world is getting worse. Yes, life is and will be difficult at times. Drugs, alcohol, sex, money, food and yes even hard work can be all used in an attempt to fill emptiness in your life. There must be a balance. We must learn to properly relate to life in a manner that pleases God. In the midst of this world you /we are given the opportunity to have a Comforter! You see Jesus purpose was that we have life and have it more abundantly. This does not just mean materialistically. It means in every way. It is the enemy who comes to steal, kill, and destroy……. You do not have to focus on the enemy when you know that your life is truly in the hands of the Lord. Yes, it is important that you know how he operates. You do not have to focus on what others think when you know that God’s knows the depth of your heart, He knows why you do or do not do whatever! GOD CAN FREE YOU! Only HE can give you the peace that surpasses the understanding of man. Start anew today! God wants to fill the void in your life that only He can fill. Most important HE LOVES US enough that He allows us the opportunity to choose. Allow His Holy Spirit, His Comforter to comfort and abide with you 24/7. I truly believe that there is absolutely positively nothing that is too big for God to handle.

Begin today and everyday by allowing the Lord His place within your life, heart and home. Start your day out with the Lord. Take time each day to feel His presence. Take time to draw closer with the Lord everyday. Just spend quiet time alone with Him without any interruption! Put God before everyone and everything! God will & can help you get your life in order! He can help you and teach you how to properly physically, emotionally and spiritually nourish your body, mind and soul. God is your Maker and Creator. God has promised to work “all things” not some things which means even the bad things out for good because you love Him. Trust God! His Word teaches us that: “all things work together for good. For those who love Him. For those who are called according to His purpose” NOW STEP OUT ON FAITH! When you are walking in the Spirit with God there is no condemnation. Today is a new day! You can always change, TRUST, LEAN, DEPEND, STAND and COUNT on GOD!!!


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      DeBorrah K Ogans 6 years ago

      Sweetie, I hear what you are saying... Anorexia is serious and is an out of control behavior for many! I think perhaps there are those who start out deliberately using extreme measures to loose weight... However they get caught in this difficult web that can result in death... My intentions here is to shed light and help others recognize the signs of this difficult life threatening disease... To cause them to reach out or seek help for themselves or for love ones who are caught up in this vicious debilatating cycle!

      Thank you as always for sharing your thoughts and comments! In HIS Love, Peace & Blessings!

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      sweetie1 6 years ago from India

      Nice imformative hub, anorexia is neither desired nor healthy. These days it is established that if you have to loose weight then you shd eat small portion every couple of hours so instead of 3 meals a day you shd have 6 means, this keeps metablism high. Anorexia may be a disease in some but many of the models or actors do it delebrately and it has long term effects

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      DeBorrah K Ogans 6 years ago

      Howcurecancer, Yes it is. I hope this helps someone to recognize the symptoms! Thank you for stopping by to share! Peace & Blessings!

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      Elena@LessIsHealthy 6 years ago

      Anorexia is tricky, you don't know when it starts.......

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      DeBorrah K Ogans 7 years ago

      DR PastorCarlotta, This is a complicated subject! God is truly able! There is much to consider here! But one thing it is certain that the soul is crying out and needs to be Loved! The Love of God is powerful but often so misconstrued! Each individual is so very different although there may be similarities! It is important to consult the Lord when reaching out to others! He has a path I believe TRUE healing can only come from Him! One must diligently seek His direction!!!

      I am sure that you can see spiritually that the enemy wants to literally drain the life away… The VICTORY is in the LORD!


      The idea and GOAL is to WIN control over the eating disorder… We cannot change what has happened but we can ALWAYS move forward with the LORD! One must first recognize that it has control over you and those around you! This is not an easy task but a viable victorious journey when the Lord presence is welcomed!

      It is wonderful to KNOW and internalize that the LORD is totally aware of everything that has ever happened in one’s life and that HE LOVES YOU! Love does not mean letting you do as you please….. Although it may not feel GOOD “He will work it ALL out for your GOOD! Love means saying things that may hurt in order for healing to take place. But we must consult the Lord in order for it to be accompanied by HIS POWER! Thank God for JESUS! We ALL need HIM as Savior and LORD! Without Him we can do very little….

      Thank you for taking the time to stop by and share your wisdom and further insight! May the Lord Bless your sincere efforts to reach out and touch others. May He continuously fill you and give you JOY for the Journey!

      PRAISE GOD! Thank you for your marvelous words of encouragement! In HIS Love, May the Peace & Joy of the Lord and His FAVOR rest upon you! MUCH LOVE & Blessings!

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      Pastor Dr. Carlotta Boles 7 years ago from BREAKOUT MINISTRIES, INC. KC

      Another amazing HUB!!! DeBorrah! I love when you said: "God wants us to be whole. Being whole does not mean being free of conflict or problems." You hit that right on the nail! lol, And then your home run statement: Begin today and everyday by allowing the Lord His place in your life, heart and home. He can help you and teach you how to properly physically, emotionally and spiritually nourish your body, mind and soul. God is your Maker and Creator. God has promised to work “all things” not some things which means even the bad things. God has said “all things work together for good. For those who love Him. For those who are called according to His purpose” STEP OUT ON FAITH! When you are walking in the Spirit there is no condemnation. You can always TRUST, LEAN, DEPEND, CHANGE, STAND and COUNT on GOD!!! I pray that who ever reads this hub be blessed by it and encouraged. Thank you DeBorrah for your ministry. God Bless YOU!!!!

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      DeBorrah K Ogans 7 years ago

      Research Analyst, It is terribly sad! Eating disorders are complicated. The deep seated origins are embedded in control and abuse issues! Each person is different? Life says “be this way” and I will accept you! Unconsciously the mental messages have become misconstrued and self worth is lost.

      Food becomes an issue and a daily battle! What makes it so difficult is; we all need a balanced diet to help us function and think properly? The spiritual eyes are dimmed by the eating disorder! Objectivity is lost! This is why it is so important to see yourself in the eyes of God! To seek Him above all else and meditate, believe and implement His Word in our lives! To KNOW without a doubt GOD LOVES YOU and your relationship with Him is the key to your ultimate wellbeing and inner HEALING!

      Eating disorders rid you of the very nutrients that help you grow physically and spiritually! Eating disorders gives one a distorted view as to how they look! They see themselves as “too fat” and inwardly unworthy … The disorder fuels them to destroy and drain the essence of who they are and controls them as well as those around them… it is a family problem…

      True beauty comes from within! God's Word tells us our body is a Temple! One can be beautiful at whatever size they are! Helping one discover their life purpose is key! Learning how to love oneself and relate to food properly is the ultimate goal! Realizing your body is not your own and taking responsibility for taking proper care of yourself is key! If you do not care for self how can you care for others? Much prayer is needed! I ask that all please pray for those with eating disorders ….

      Thank you for sharing! In HIS Love, Peace & Blessings!

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      Research Analyst 7 years ago

      Its such a sad issue that is really out of control because the media is making woman feel bad about being normal, especially when it comes to weight and it has so many psychological issues associated with the need to be accepted, and desired that many young girls are not healthy and they starve themselves to be as small as they can, sadly many end up with anorexia.

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      DeBorrah K Ogans 7 years ago

      Hubmu, Great! So glad that you have found this article helpful! It is so wonderful that you are now mindful of your eating habits and are making a conscious effort to improve them!

      Taking proper care of our bodies is important! WOW what GREAT self control!!! Again so glad you are motivated to eat four meals a day. Please let me know how you are doing? Have a wonderful day and ENJOY your meals! CHEERS! Thank you so much for sharing, It has been INSPIRING & refreshing! I am sure others will benefit as well! KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK! In HIS Love, PEACE & BLESSINGS!

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      hubmu 7 years ago from BN

      I like reading this hub. Lately i'm taking meal when i'm hungry only, sometimes i don't eat a whole day but that when i totally full the day before. I start thinking it's a serious problem. Before my weight was 63kg now it's around 59kg...errkk. Now i'm taking a weight gain powder as a replacement and start to take meal regularly at the time breakfast-lunch-afternoon tea and lunch.Reading your hub will motivate me to eat at least 4 times per day and most importantly the breakfast. Thanks

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      DeBorrah K Ogans 7 years ago

      Stars439, Eating disorders are seriously destroying, controlling and distrupting the lives of many as well as their families... It is important that we openly discuss things at times that may be painful in order to bring about healing! There is help available for those suffering... A growing relationship with the LORD really does make all the difference in the world how we handle things... God's Love is available to all who reach out to Him!

      Thank you for sharing your kind heartfelt comments as well as visiting, In His love, Peace & Blessings!

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      stars439 7 years ago from Louisiana, The Magnolia and Pelican State.

      This is such a tragic condition, but your talking about it will probably help others. Your love and kindness for people that suffer in many ways is so much of a reflection of the sweetest and Dearest of our Heavenly Father for whom is in your heart, and in your characteristics. God Bless You.

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      DeBorrah K Ogans 8 years ago

      Habee, It really is sad. But quite complicated. It has a lot to do with "control issues." Many hide behind layers of clothing. I put up that particular picture so others could see just how serious it is!

      Thank you for taking the time to visit and share your comments! Blessings!

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      Holle Abee 8 years ago from Georgia

      I will never, as long as I live, understand how someone can starve themselves - especially when they're already bone thin! I hope people who suffer from these conditions find your hub, Deb.

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      DeBorrah K Ogans 8 years ago


      I believe we are in agreement and sincerely want to help others to be the best healthiest person they can be! God wants us to have healthy spiritually, physically and emotionally abundant lives. Thank you for visiting.


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      ladyeagle_cdc 8 years ago from San Juan City, Philippines

      I believe this will be a great hub for everyone who suffers from this kind of practices. God intend us to live a healthy and abundant life. You are blessed DeBorrah!(mwah..)

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      DeBorrah K Ogans 8 years ago

      Lady M729,

      It is very important to not overeat or undereat. This is crucial in order to maintain a healthy physical body. The eating is not the issue; It is what is bothering you, how you perceive yourself and control issues. It is important to begin to release the hurt and anger towards those who have hurt you. To begin to love yourself and reach out and find those who will support and love you for who you are.

      It is most helpful to build an ongoing, trusting, satisfying, fulfilling relationship with the Lord. The Lord's presence is accessible 24/7! Know GOD LOVES YOU!As you come to realize this to be so, this will help you fulfill that overwhelming void that you so often feel. God has a purpose for your life that only you can fulfill... As you come to believe this you will be better able to begin to moving towards taking control of your eating disorder. To then giving your body the necessary attention, care, food and nutrients that are necessary to maintain a healthy physical body.

      Congratulations on moving towards taking control. Loosing 100 pounds takes discipline. You are on your way!

      Thank your for sharing!


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      Lady M729 8 years ago

      How fat is not the issue - how much it hurts is.

      Over eating is a real problem with real issues overeating is an addiction. I call my self a survivor of adolescent obesity even at 60 plus I can remember the pain. If you honestly hurt or really are serious about the weight maybe I can help. If you want a bandage

      for it - I have tried many and if you are not addicted to food but obsessed with body image a diet will really work

      Here is a clue if you have tried everything - lost weight and gained it back and more - if you sneak food - stand the refrigerator and stuff your face - you may have an eating disorder - a diet won't work because the weight isn't the issue - the issue is you.

      I have been working on a weight loss program for over 2 years - I have lost 100 pounds and I realize I will always be watching my food - not my weight - I have an addiction to food- I use it as a comfort - Along my journey through the weight loss I met myself - the person under all pounds - met myself at 61 years old.

      I can give you tips on what to eat when to eat how much to eat how to exercise and so can millions of people.

      I can and will support you in the tough times if you are addicted and need someone to write to because you want to eat and need help to stop. To be honest I need to help someone. I can find people who have had gastric by pass and lap bands. I can find whole groups of people who say they don’t want to eat but come to the next meeting still eating still mouthing the same words. I need support too. Blog me if you want