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What Is a Sign of Maturity? A List of 30 Signs of Maturity

Updated on October 1, 2015

What Makes Someone Mature?

Internet forums and social media often feature really interesting discussions on topics like maturity and how to know if someone is mature for their age.

When someone professes to be mature, are they only acting out their projected maturity? And also, does maturity mean being boring?

Sometimes being older does not mean being mature: maturity is a level of emotional growth that represents balance and wisdom.

From self-acceptance to empathy, these are 30 signs of maturity that we can search in ourselves and others. Of course, feel free to add your thoughts in the comments.

These are characteristics that mature people tend to have.

1. Planning Ahead and Thinking about the Consequences of Their Actions


Mature people know that without long-term vision they may not be able to realise their goals in life. It might be as simple as planning their next dentist appointment: they are aware of the consequences of not looking after their teeth, so they book an appointment with the dentist. They are aware of the pain and cost involved in dental surgery and act accordingly.

2. Delaying Gratification


As children, we would simply through temper tantrums to get our way and get what we wanted right there and then. Delaying gratification is the act of working through something that may not be pleasant (a long shift at work for example, or washing a big pile of dishes), safe in the knowledge that in the long term there will be rewards (for example, a good pension scheme or a clean kitchen).

3. Not Asking for Other People's Approval


This may be more a character trait of confident people, but realising that you are your own person, that you have your own thoughts and your own self-worth is a sign of maturity. Children tend to seek approval and feel valued if they receive positive reinforcement. Mature people carry on with their lives regardless of whether others approve, admire, judge or criticise what they do.

4. Not Caring about What Other People Think of Them


We decide to reveal certain aspects of our personality and not others. Mature people will keep what is meant to be private as private, and will behave in ways that are conducive to good relationships with others. They will do so regardless of what other people think of them: they focus on what they need to do and simply don't waste time worrying about how they come across. They will, however, consider other people's feelings and ensure they don't offend or hurt them with their words and actions.

5. Not Speaking Behind People's Back


Gossiping and speaking behind people's back is a sign of immaturity. Obsessing about celebrities and watching reality TV shows keep brains unengaged and unstimulated. Rational thinking is switched off. Gossiping about work colleagues or friends are mindless activities and a waste of valuable time. Mature people know how valuable their time is.

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6. Not Being Self-Centred and Self-Obsessed


Related to the point on celebrity culture, people who are self-obsessed don't show signs of maturity. Reality TV shows contestants and “celebrities” are typical examples of immature people who are always thinking of and speaking about themselves. Their focus is on getting their needs met, without much consideration for others.

7. Being Self-Reliant


Being self-reliant and avoiding playing victim are characteristics of mature people who are in charge of their lives. This does not mean that such people will never ask for help: mature people will know when they can fend for themselves and when they lack the necessary skills or knowledge to complete a task. They will therefore ask for support if needed.

8. Walking the Walk, not Talking the Talk


Mature people show what they are made of through their actions and their behaviours, not their words. They don't lament the fact the world is unjust but take practical steps to make their immediate environment and community better (for example, they volunteer their time for charity). You will not hear them say “Why me?” but you will see them in action getting on with their lives.

9. They Choose Their Words Carefully


Mature people don't tend to speak impulsively, but choose they think before they speak.

10. They Are Not Arrogant


Mature people gained confidence over the years but they don't boast or brag about their achievements in life. Experience gave them insight and depth. They don't feel the need to broadcast their successes to the entire world.

11. They Have Healthy Relationships with Other People


No matter what type of relationship (romantic relationship, working relationship, friendships), mature people know how to treat others with respect. They don't develop co-dependent relationships where, without their partner by their side at all times, they feel lost.

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12. They Have a Healthy Relationship with Food


Eating disorders aside (they can have different emotional and psychological causes), mature people eat to fuel their bodies but don't rely on food for emotional comfort. There are no obsessive behaviours related to food like refusing to eat specific foods because of fad diets without scientific backing.

13. They Have a Healthy Relationship with Money


When someone is mature, they know the intrinsic value of money and don't just see it as spending money. A mature attitude towards money means to look at saving and investing for the future rather than spending disposable income on objects. Mature people can be generous or thrifty depending on the circumstances, but they don't display excessive behaviours like avoiding spending at all costs, being stingy with loved ones or gambling money in the hope of getting rich quickly.

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14. They Are Open-Minded


Mature people tend to accept others as they are: they know that people can have different views and lifestyles. They can consider and listen to opposing points of view without judging or becoming defensive in a conversation. They are tolerant, can feel empathy and can understand the struggles of others.

15. They Accept Themselves and Others


Related to the previous point, mature people display self-acceptance: they understand their strengths and weaknesses, and so can understand those in other people. This, in turns, make them accept others for who they are.

Self-acceptance is the awareness of oneself that grows with introspection and experience. Self-acceptance also means owning to one's shortcomings.

16. They Are Supportive


Mature people will lend a hand in times of need and will help others, without expecting something in return or feeling resentful for not being reciprocated.

17. They Care about the World We Live in and the Environment


Mature people care about the environment and the world around us, but without much fanfare and without aggressive campaigning. They are quietly active behind the scenes and make their contribution to society.

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18. They Keep Calm


Mature people have developed a calmness about themselves that allows them to confront any situation. They still experience stress and anxiety like everybody else but they know how to deal with these feelings. Drama does not belong in their vocabulary.


19. They Take Responsibility


A sign of maturity is taking responsibility for one's actions. This can cascade to all aspects of life, from taking responsibility for their health to having responsibilities towards others (children, elderly parents). Having responsibilities like having a family or owning a house is different from taking responsibilities: taking responsibility is the acceptance of a duty, and performing it without begrudging it. Mature people don't blame others for their situation but accept it and do what they can to improve it, if needed.

20. They Know their Limits


Related to the previous point on responsibility, mature people know their limits (for example, they stop drinking alcohol in social situations before it gets out of control). They can limit their anger or their frustration.

21. They Have Child-Like Enthusiasm without Being Childish



There is a difference between being child-like and being childish: the first is associated with having a lust for life and a positive, inquisitive attitude; the latter is associated with being petulant and petty. Mature people know how to appreciate the little things in life, they can nurture their “inner child” without feeding childish tendencies like destructive rage. Basically, they don't throw toys out of the pram...

22. They Tend to Be Happier


By not comparing themselves to others, obsessing about the latest gadgets or indulging in too many recreational activities, mature people have learned to be happy, regardless of their circumstances. They have developed an attitude of gratitude, which enables them to see the glass half full even when they don't have much.

23. They Choose Experiences over Possessions


Mature people own things without being owned by them. They thrive on experiences like travelling or spending quality time with loved ones rather than collecting material things.

24. They Can Laugh at Themselves


Because they see that people come in all shapes and sizes, including themselves, mature people don't take themselves too seriously and can laugh at themselves and their foibles. They can laugh off a case of a “bad hair day” or a “wardrobe malfunction” and move on without obsessing about it. They don't feel they need to be perfect.

25. They Are Silent Leaders


People tend to gravitate naturally towards mature people as they appreciate their wisdom and seek their opinion on important matters.

26. They Are Truly Happy for Other People's Achievements


Mature people will acknowledge and celebrate other people's successes (of their friends, colleagues etc) and do not display jealousy if they are not as successful as them. They are simply genuinely happy that their friends or colleagues have realised what they set out to do, realised their dreams or had a lucky turn of events.

27. They Know When to Walk Away


When people have reached a certain level of maturity they know that they don't need to win every argument or get involved in other people's situations if they can't contribute something positive to the discussion.

28. They Let Go of What Is Holding them Back


From limiting beliefs to toxic relationships, mature people know when they need to cut off the dead branches and start afresh.

29. They Forgive Their Parents


Mature people learn to appreciate what their own parents did (or didn't do) for them and forgive them for their shortcomings. Maybe they didn't receive enough praise from their parents as children, so in their adult life they draw from their own self-esteem to feel valued.

30. They Tend to Be Confident


While maturity and confidence are not the same thing, with maturity confidence can follow as long as there is self-awareness and the willingness to work on one's weaknesses.

Over to You

So these were 30 signs of maturity: while I can see that I still have plenty of work to do to become more mature, I would love to know what you think about maturity. Do you agree with these statements? Did I miss something really important? Please add your thoughts in the comments.

Recommended reading: How to Be Happy in Life

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      Shaloo Walia 20 months ago

      interesting hub!

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      Paola Bassanese 20 months ago from London

      Thanks Swalia!

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      Janis Leslie Evans 20 months ago from Washington, DC

      Excellent hub, paola. This is so original and much needed as a framework people can use to take a closer look at their maturity levels. Your list is full of gems by which we can measure ourselves. This is a really good article. Two thumbs up and sharing!

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      Paola Bassanese 20 months ago from London

      Thank you so much Jan, I have just read your article on self-care and shared it too!

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      Laura 20 months ago from Bucharest

      You've pretty much covered the whole range of maturity signs there Paola! I like it.

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      Paola Bassanese 20 months ago from London

      Thank you Laura! I asked all my contacts on facebook and looked at discussions in online forums

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      skperdon 20 months ago from Canada

      I love how you streamlined each sign of the mature human. Thank you writing on this topic paolaenergy!

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      Paola Bassanese 20 months ago from London

      Thank you Skyperdon - if I missed anything, please feel free to add your thoughts! Glad you enjoyed the article

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      Jayme Kinsey 20 months ago from Oklahoma

      What an interesting article! Direct and to the point, yet very thought-provoking. The only other thing I can think of that I consider a sign of maturity is the willingness to accept changes and a willingness to learn new things. I see many adults that act very childish when new facts are presented or when trends around them change. When wanting to live in the past, or refusing to acknowledge new concepts affects their quality of life (or that of those around them), then it comes off as being very immature.

      I will be sharing this great list, and keeping it bookmarked as a reminder to myself as well!

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      Paola Bassanese 20 months ago from London

      Hi Sharkey11 thank you so much for your comment! I totally agree, some adults can't accept change, but change is a fact of life and you can't live in the past. I wrote this article mostly as a reminder to myself of all the work I still need to do to become more mature!

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      B Brian Hill 20 months ago

      That's a very long list! How many do I need to get right in order to pass? LOL A great collection of ideas. I think many of these are indications that a person is evolving and gathering a more conscious state of mind.

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      Paola Bassanese 20 months ago from London

      Hi Brian - yes, it's like an obstacle course! Hopefully we will become more mature at some stage... And yes, you probably never reach full maturity in the course of your life, but, as you said, evolve to gather more wisdom as you go along.

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