What Makes You Cry?
"Hush, little baby, don't you cry....." A Lullabye"
Chances are, the very first sound we make is the familiar wail of a newborn in that moment we enter this big wondrous world.
That cry is glorious music to the ears of a young Mom & Dad, who have anxiously awaited their Angel's arrival. So overwhelmed with pride and joy, our parents cry too. Their tears flow in awe of the precious miracle they behold. These are merely the first few teardrops shed of the rivers to come. There will be tears of joy, of celebration, tears of pride and even tears of fear. The strength of emotions shared by parent and child are the single-most powerful of all.
While this glorious event may be our first experience with tears, we're innocently unaware of the lifetime of tearful moments ahead of us.
We will come to discover that tears will surround us and follow each step along the roads we may travel.
The reality is, the trails we walk for decades to come, will have been paved with our blood sweat and tears. The end result we offer the world will be our legacy.
We Laughed Until We Cried....
You've tried to repeat the story. You want so badly to share with friends the fun you had and how you laughed, huge belly-laughs, until your abs screamed, "Stop!".... but it's just not the same. Sometimes, ya just gotta be there.
I will admit, that often I have found myself while walking through a store alone and out of nowhere, I laugh out loud. It's like a reflex you know and can't be helped. I think about my sister's humor, something she said or did that sent me into fits of laughter and I'm helpless to hold back. Gosh, it almost makes me cry now too as I struggle to remember the sound of her laugh. And we would literally laugh until we cried. How I miss that.
The wonderful thing about tears is that they're not just for sadness but happiness too ....and isn't this a wonderful thing? We've all had these moments. They remain our treasures. These precious memories collected through the years of laughter with the ones we love so intensely throughout our life. They live in our heart to comfort us in less-happy moments.
My guess would be that times such as these can bring on a smile even now as you remember the times you shared.... such crazy-fun moments. I'm so grateful for these memories. The day may indeed arrive when we hold them to give us comfort.
Physical ramifications of sobbing
While crying is a real form of emotional release, it can and often does wreak havoc upon us in a physical way. Any woman who has wept away her eye make-up can confirm having to cleanse the streams of black mascara running down her cheeks. It's a sight. With all the pressure and tissues used, we can assure ourselves a couple of very red, puffy eyes, not to mention that our nose becomes too congested to breathe through. Let's just say, there's very little we can do to attempt to hide the fact that we've been crying. We might as well confess.
When I've had myself a session of sobbing, I know to find the aspirin or OTC pain reliever of some sort, because a pounding headache is a certain aftermath. The benefits that may come from purging emotion, rest assured, will have it's share of physical toll. That's just the way it is. If possible, a little sleep may be in order. Come to think of it, can there be anyone who at some point, hasn't cried themselves to sleep? A broken heart is usually the culprit in this case.
Beyond Angry..when all we can do is CRY!
I should not deny, I am one of those women who cries when angry. I think I just don't know what to do with anger other than succumb to tears. Sure, it lessens the stress but does nothing for the appearance of strength.
We're conditioned to be strong and maintain composure. This is all great in theory and I suppose we should try to control emotions. I simply haven't learned how to do this and further, I can't seem to justify holding back true feelings.
Men have been known to suggest that a woman's tears are a powerful weapon. The biggest and rugged of He-Men have been know to transform to arms full of comfort...a soft place to fall.
When I consider frustration, it begins to appear that the female hormone is programmed exclusively for crying. I'm not proud to say this, but I feel this is true and I don't want to hide from the facts. When we're angry enough to hyperventilate, feel our blood pressure rise and want to scream.....something's gotta give. So it seems what gives is all composure and then the tears just fall.
It's a non-violent response to an upsetting issue, and besides....I've not heard anything about the possibility of a cure for tears...any time soon or the near future. I trust I have not misrepresented the female of our species.
At least, I hope it's easy to accept and maybe even admit....A damned good old fashioned cry, makes us feel so much better. Please don't ask why.
Sad times & Sad songs that make us cry..
Often, when people are feeling the least bit down and out, we may completely avoid mingling with others. More than this, we tend to protect our heart from exposure to sad stories or hearing an emotional song...the tear jerker type.. We're afraid, the least little jolt, will cause an avalanche of tears and wear us down to a blubbering sap.
There are those however, who can handle all of this and seem to think that facing the demon head-on is best. To each his own. Whatever works is what we need to do.
I do find it interesting to learn how others deal with their emotions. I'm always open to learning new ideas for handling sorrow and stress in ways that help the most. Technique matters.
It takes time and experience to know ourselves and become keenly aware of how we act and react. In some small way it can be comforting to know what to expect of our response in particular situations.
For instance, I know I cry at weddings.....the ambiance, the music and all that love in the air. The bride and groom are glowing, parents are emotional.....this scenario just overwhelms me.
Needless to say I cry my heart out at memorials and funerals. Loss is much too sad to all of us. We feel for the family and remember the pain and heartache of our own tragedies. Compassion allows us to comfort and console. Our tears are healing. We needn't even try to hold them back.
There are hundreds of reasons we humans cry. Any number of situations may bring us to tears. Emotions run freely and are expressed in numerous ways by each of us.
But because we are all children of the same Universe, we relate and communicate and share all of the same feelings needs and comforts. Our spirituality connects us all, in ways we may not even understand.
Some things, we just know. We see them, hear them and can sense them as well. Sadness shows itself in our actions and on our faces. Tears are visible. Laughter is contagious and spreads a joy from one end of the world to the other.
When we see someone hurting, we want to embrace and comfort them. We offer our time and our strength so that they might feel safer.
What makes you cry is what makes me cry. And so it goes for our fellowman. We have the power to dry each others tears and to walk with one another through the darkness.
I can't imagine it should be any other way. Can you?