What are the most important questions in life?
Question #1 The why?- our purpose
The why is the reason we are doing something in life or the purpose of life. This is a reason that gets us moving and grooving. We want to obtain a great life, a great house, a great partner and a great car. This does not have to be same thing for everyone. Some people just want to create a great heaven for people(eg. philanthropy, fundraising causes), financial freedom , free time, helping, healing others or devoting lives to God.
Lets take a minute to brainstorm your why.
- Take out a piece of paper and pen.
- Write out your why. Why are you doing this?( It is either reasons from above or something else.)
- Create a picture of your why in your mind. Give some details. (eg. Audi R8, big house with a round driveway in the front of the house, a pool in the back)
The why gives us the motivation to take any step. It gets us to set goals.
Resolving a confusing concept of the why.
The why is actually divided up in to two parts:
1. The why where you are doing something for yourself.
2. The why where you are brought into this world by the eternal energy for a purpose. The eternal energy could be identified as God, a ball of energy or however you interpret that big energy.
Find out your purpose
Have you found out your purpose?
Question # 2 The What?- The route or the role
The what can partly highlight the purpose.
Lets take one example of purpose from the why section above.
Eg. Helping out others. We illustrates through the different roles we have todays world.
- Doctors help out others by eradicating illnesses.
- Surgeons do it by fixing up an issue inside the body. Their approach is more invasive than a regular doctor.
- Lawyers want to defend against injustice.
- The marines want to defend the nation.
The list can go on and on. The what or the different roles are the routes we take to gain the why.
The what can change from time-to-time. So in some manner, the what is dependent or a function of time. There are certain routes we have to take because of the situations that get uncovered. There are many uncertainties along the way, but we have to enlighten ourselves with the research we do. The main rule now and days is when you are in doubt, use Google. Now as a concrete example I just recently found that they offer a free Emt course, but I have to volunteer for 6 months. That's something that was revealed. This would take 6 months to just to start a course. That could be a waste. Delayed gratification is not really my strong point, so this pushed me to use delayed gratification. I have to wait and bear the holdback of waiting.
Do you know the route you are going to take?
Do you ask questions?
Question#3 The how ?
The how is the tipping point of the what. It is what makes the difference to reach your route. It gives the fine-tuning to what role you want to become.
It depends on many things:
- A great attitude It is how you handle the situations. Do you see the greatness of bad situation? Do you see the negative or struggles as developing you? It is also the interaction between you and the individual. If you have struggles, then are you going to stop? NO! Did you stop learning to ride the bicycle after falling hundreds of times? I do not think so.
- Experimentation If the approach does not bring results or is blocked, then use another one. Experiment until you find out the one that brings different results. I had trouble to find a job on the hospital website, so I decided to put the job role into the search engine. And it brought me results.
- Game plan Instead of looking at the struggles or the uncertainties, you have to game plan what you are going to do in the near coming future. This means we need to set goals along the way. We need to determine what we need in the meantime to become the role we want to take on.
- Student Mentality. Trigger your mind to ask more questions. One question leads to another question.Ask questions and get the answers to them. That means you want to show a great student mentality. Student mentality allows you to learn skills, carve your path, or anything else. Eg. Carving the path. I ask if the degree or certification is worth it? Will it allow me to transition into another degree? How much money will I make? What are the risks and the benefits? Questions like these will help me take on certain route. In a sense, you become a businessman of life because you run a risk analysis of the possibilities in life. Asking questions is important because it will help you obtain answers that you need to resolve the obstacles of life. The more questions you ask, the clearer the subject will become and the more concrete the next set of questions will be. The addition of more information from inquiry aids in painting the picture of where you want to be.
- ExperiencesThe experiences create a path for us to take us towards our what (eg. Profession we want- in my case, doctor). We go through a certain collection of jobs that point out what we want to do in the end. Sometimes experiences are irrelevant because we can only do the jobs we can get.
- PassionOur passion is what we are really excited to do. This projects through our voice tone and body language (hand gestures). I am really passionate about people and helping them out with the knowledge of Medicine.
- Skills These skills are something you have developed in your prior work experiences. Examples of skills included for the healthcare professions are drawing blood, putting on an IV and etc. Interpersonal skills picked up from non-healthcare professions can also aid in the profession you are going for.
- Habits Now we can have many passions, but we can only do certain things because of the habits that are involved. Human beings by nature train themselves unintentionally to have bad habits. I can say that I want to become a doctor or a marine. At this point I would consider the medical line rather the armed forces line because I do not have great physical habits. Of course you can still pursue it, but you would need to change bad habits to great habits. This requires you to invest time and effort. What time and effort are we talking about? We want to put together a plan where we figure out the workout plan and eating habits. Eating habits comprises of how many times you want to eat, how much you want to eat, or what you want to eat. Mental conditioning comes into play because physique building can be a long-tedious process. But if we break it down into smaller pieces, we can conquer it.
These things are tools of fine-tuning.
Do you have the habits that will lead you on your path?
What else is included in the how?
The how also include the minor things such as developing better interpersonal skills, increasing emotional intelligence( here check out one book! Get it! And Read it! ), learning ways to deal with situations, becoming a problem solver, making friends with all walks of life, connecting spiritually, and embracing the baby-innocent self by tapping into your nurturing quality of innocence. You are playful with animals and babies, and you step outside the comfort zone.