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What it Feels Like to Be Pregnant

Updated on April 8, 2015

For those of you who have not had a baby, you may be wondering how the physical and mental changes will affect you. Will you feel sick? Will you be able to handle childbirth? How will you react to your growing tummy and what does it feel like when your baby is kicking inside you? I hope to answer these and many more questions in this article. I have carried four babies to full term and will draw on my experience but there are many fluctuations in how every pregnant woman feels.

For those people who find themselves with an unplanned pregnancy that they are not happy about, the experience may bring a lot of other unwanted negative emotions and actions. For the purpose of this article I am going to assume that this is a very much wanted first pregnancy whether planned or unplanned.

Do all pregnant women feel this beautiful and wonderful during pregnancy?
Do all pregnant women feel this beautiful and wonderful during pregnancy? | Source

The course of a pregnancy is divided up into three trimesters:

  • First trimester - up to and including 13 weeks
  • Second trimester – 14 - 27 weeks
  • Third trimester - 28weeks to birth

First Trimester

Congratulations! You have finally got the confirmation from your doctor that you are pregnant. The first person you usually want to share it with is, of course, your partner and hopefully he is equally pleased, but you also feel like shouting it to the world.

From day one of the confirmation you are probably feeling a lot of different emotions; excited, a little nervous, extremely happy but maybe a tad scared. You have no other pregnancies to compare this one to, so you will rely on friends, relatives, books and perhaps online information to answer the hundred questions already milling around in your head. You will feel very special and immediately start noticing every pregnant woman in the street!

In the first trimester you may feel the following physical reactions to your pregnancy:

Feeling nauseous and going off some foods are normal in early pregnancy
Feeling nauseous and going off some foods are normal in early pregnancy | Source
  • Morning sickness - Some ladies get this worse than others and it is not always confined to mornings. A small fraction will get no nausea but most will get some and there can be a tendency for some to actually vomit. You seem to smell things more acutely. If I smelt anything frying I wanted to heave. You may find that something you used to eat or drink now repulses you and makes you feel nauseas. The good news is that this often passes by the time you are in the second trimester.
  • Tiredness - Your fatigue is often very noticeable to you. You just seem to be much more tired than usual and feel the need to nap or go to bed earlier than usual.
  • Constipation
  • Heartburn
  • Tender breasts - For many this may be one of the first signs of pregnancy
  • Urinating more frequently - Usually very noticeable
  • Weight loss
  • Dizziness
  • Mild backache

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On your first ante natal appointment you will have chance to ask questions and get any help for troublesome symptoms if the need arises. You will be excited about that first proper ante natal appointment and it seems to reinforce the reality of what lies ahead.

Mood in the first trimester

In the first few weeks there are many hormonal and bodily changes going on that may make you feel a bit grumpy at times. That initial euphoria tends to wane a little but despite everything you will have better days when you still feel the sense of excitement. You don’t want to appear anxious but sometimes you may have a troubling thought. Don’t worry, it is all natural and it’s only because you want everything to be perfect for you and your baby. Even in such early stages or pregnancy, you may feel a bit weepy sometimes and you can’t even explain why. Hormones have a lot to answer for!

You may even feel your partner isn’t quite as excited as you and wonder why. Believe me, no man knows what is like to feel pregnant, which in some ways is a shame. You don’t appear much different to normal so they may have a hard time trying to understand your changeable moods. You have to try to show patience because they can’t see your hormones!

12 week baby scan
12 week baby scan | Source

Towards the end of the first trimester or early second trimester you will have your first scan to check everything looks OK and help confirm dates. Seeing your baby even if you can’t make sense of the photo or scan screen feels wonderful. Most partners attend the scans and it is something quite unique which will draw you closer together. You will look at that photo a hundred times and feel everything from downright strange to awesome.


Second trimester

Breathe a sigh of relief because the chances of miscarriage are getting much less likely now and slowly but surely some of those first trimester physical symptoms will not be bothering you so much. This phase moves us into more obvious changes. Physically you will notice such things as:

  • Growing abdomen – now you can truly see your pregnancy and so can other people. You grow out of your normal clothes and by the end of this trimester you should be feeling the need for maternity wear. You will feel happy to show off your ‘bump’.
  • Increase in breast size
  • Dizziness
  • Skin changes – you may notice the beginnings of stretch marks and the dark line running from your naval downwards
  • Occasional breathlessness

I always found this trimester to be the easiest. Tiredness seemed to die down a little, my nausea disappeared but I did get a urine infection which isn’t uncommon.

Mood in the second trimester

You might feel less attractive towards your partner and you may be frightened that having sex may harm the baby in some way. It won’t and you can pretty much carry on with things as usual. The excitement will still be there along with an anticipatory anxiety about the birth, your ability as a mother, the future effects on your body, the health of the baby and any effects on your relationship with your partner. You may actually look better than you have done in a long time and be impatient to buy things for the baby but hold back a little not wanting to tempt fate. You will want to read baby books with both enthusiasm…and sometimes trepidation!

You will feel odd little sensations and movements from your baby towards the end of this trimester although mostly quite light. You may even notice little tiny popping sensations when the baby is hiccuping which, although strange, will delight you. You will feel a bond forming for real when you can feel your baby’s movements and be keen for others to watch and feel these movements too.

Using a fetal doppler

You look forward to your ante natal visits and any chance to share concerns. Your midwife will listen to your baby’s heartbeat with something that looks like a funnel placed on your abdomen or use a dopple. If the latter is used the sound of your bay's heartbeat brings sweet reassurance and they can even be bought to use at home.

The second trimester seems to be going quite slow but there's always something to look forward to!

Around 20 weeks into pregnancy you may be offered another scan and the experience is even more pleasurable as you see your baby far clearer this time. Another photo to cherish!

In late pregnancy you will feel the need to keep having a lie down
In late pregnancy you will feel the need to keep having a lie down | Source

Third Trimester

If you thought the last trimester was slow, this third trimester seems to go even slower.

Now you may really start to feel the strain of pregnancy. Your increasing size coupled with impatience seems to be going on for an eternity. Physically you may encounter:

  • Increasing backache
  • Worsening heartburn
  • Difficulty getting comfortable
  • Increased urination - urgency with the weight of the baby on the bladder
  • A more pronounced weight gain
  • Risk of hemorrhoids
  • Increasing tiredness
  • Braxton Hicks contractions – you may feel these as a sense of tightenings that come and go. No, it’s not labour but your body is starting to practice!

Mood in the third trimester

You feel fit to burst; more tired with each passing week and get a bit fed up some days. It all seems to be taking an eternity and niggling physical symptoms can annoy you. Meanwhile, baby is growing much bigger now and kicking you at the most inopportune times such as when you want to go to sleep. That said, you marvel at these movements most of the time and can eventually recognize a heel or the baby’s bottom. On odd occasions the baby may turn and this can be quite alarming and uncomfortable but it only lasts for a very short while.

Now you may be getting rather more apprehensive about the actual labour, wondering if you will manage OK. It’s all a mixture of excitement and anticipatory anxiety and you are keen for the arrival of your baby despite any concerns. Sex with your partner may feel a little uncomfortable at times and you may even go off sex altogether leaving you feeling somewhat guilty. It’s all normal and you should be taking great care of you and listening to your body.

You love shopping for the cutest of baby clothes and getting the nursery ready. You may keep taking these clothes out of the drawers just to have yet another peak and do some more imagining of your baby in them. Packing your hospital bag will make you feel great and you will keep checking that too! You will feel a need for everything to be just so, just how you want it. You will want to keep resting, reading up on birth or motherhood and possibly checking how far that due date is over and over.

It’s normal to feel scared going into labour for the first time, but actually I found that it’s a little scarier if anything with subsequent babies because you know what’s coming the second time around! If you go over the due date then it just adds to your impatience and utter tiredness but when childbirth finally arrives, it can bring utter relief and the most wonderful feeling that is unmatched by anything else in my opinion.

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      CassyLu1981 4 years ago from Spring Lake, NC

      And this is why I stopped at three kids! I have friends that miss being pregnant, not sure how they could miss it but they do. I'm sharing this with all sights because I have a lot of first time, soon to be, mommies out there that I know will love this! Voted up and shared!!!

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      Your Cousins 4 years ago from Atlanta, GA

      This a a great guide through all the stages of pregnancy. For me, it was a very special experience all the way through. I truly enjoyed the extra attention and all the ice cream that I got to eat without feeling guilty! Voted Up.

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      meloncauli 4 years ago from UK

      Thanks Cassy. I missed pushing a buggy around! Don't think I missed actual pregnancy so much as the birth itself.

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      meloncauli 4 years ago from UK

      Thanks for your comment Your Cousins. Yes, it does give one a good excuse for some self pampering!

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      leahlefler 4 years ago from Western New York

      I always struggled with the first 10-12 weeks of pregnancy, then I was great until the last 3-4 weeks. The first trimester and the last trimester were the hardest for me, and I felt great during the middle bit!

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      meloncauli 4 years ago from UK

      Thanks Leah. Yes, that last few weeks seems to last forever!

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      Riverfish24 4 years ago from United States

      Very useful and informative. Voted up and awesome!

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      meloncauli 4 years ago from UK

      Thanks for that comment Riverfish24!

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      Dr. Gary L. Sidley 4 years ago from Lancashire, England

      As a male, I have directly observed two pregnancies from the partner's perspective. I can confirm that labour is the most painful of all human experiences; as my wife's finger-nails sliced into the palm of my hand, it was excruciating!

      As always, an excellent hub enriched by personal experience and thorough research.

      Best wishes.

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      meloncauli 4 years ago from UK

      I am sure many men have shared your experience gsidley ! Thanks so much for your comment.

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      watergeek 4 years ago

      That video was cool. I've never been pregnant . . . cried when I realized one day I was going through an early menopause . . . so it was exciting to me to actually hear the baby's heartbeat in the video. I can totally imagine being pregnant and how great it would be, even through the frustrations and occasional fear. Thanks for sharing your experiences.

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      meloncauli 4 years ago from UK

      Thanks watergeek. It is quite something to hear your baby's heartbeat. I can remember thinking it was way too fast the first time I heard it but of course that's how it should be.

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      Sarah Carlsley 4 years ago from Minnesota

      Great synopsis of this, wonderful for expecting mothers.

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      meloncauli 4 years ago from UK

      Thanks for dropping by and leaving a comment Pinkchic18 :)

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