What Makes Us Who We Are
WHY, WHY, WHY I AM WHO I AM
WHO AM I ?
WHY AM I?
WHY ARE MY EYES BLUE ?
WHY DOES SHE HAVE BROWN EYES?
OR STRAWBERRY BLONDE HAIR>
WHY DO I HAVE CHESTNUT BROWN HAIR?
WHERE DOES MY PERSONALITY COME FROM?
WHO DO I LOOK LIKE?
Who we are is initially determined by our DNA. This determines the color of our hair, our eyes, shape of our nose, basically this decides every physical aspect of our body. Even our fingerprints which by the way are unique in that, no one else shares our fingerprints. These are our and ours alone. Fingerprints are used to identify who a person is.
There are also our personality traits which are made up 5 unique domains. These are used to describe our personalities.
1. Openness - open to experience is determined by active imagination, aesthetic sensitivity, attentiveness to inner feelings, preference for variety, and intellectual curiosity.
2. Conscientiousness - the trait of being painstakingly careful, the quality of acting according to what is dictated by your conscience. It includes such elements as self-discipline, carefulness, thoroughness, organization, deliberation - thinking carefully be acting and the need to achieve.
3 Extraversion: one who easily expresses emotions, smiles a lot, believes most people like or will like them, bold, likes to lead, would rather be a participant than an observer, gregarious, loves night life activities and crowds, likes to participate in group discussions, often assumes the role of "Entertainer" or "Performer", easy to get to know, spends more time with others than alone, competes for the spotlight, fits in most places, likes to be popular, frequently touches people, spontaneous, likes to amuse, optimistic, social chameleon, charmer, tends to be confident
4. Agreeableness: is a tendency to be pleasant and accommodating in social situations. A Contemporary personality. Tend to be reflecting individual differences in concern for cooperation and social harmony Is empathetic, considerate, friendly, generous, and helpful. They also have an optimistic view of life. They tend to believe that most people are honest, decent, and trustworthy.
5. Neuroticism: Has the tendency to be emotional. depressed, angry, frustrated, envy, guilt, anxiety type of feelings. They get anxious in social settings, are self consequences and shy, introverted, some think that every day stresses are difficult to handle and they don't handle stress very well. They are prone to mental disorders such as phobia, depression, panic disorder, and other anxiety disorders.
When I was studying this in college it intrigued me because I could see parts of my personality in these descriptions. However, I also discovered that your personality though based of your heritage there are other factors that come into play. The environment a person is raised in plays a key role in who they become. People raised in an alcoholic home may be drinkers at an early age therefore the heredity aspect is there, the environment makes a difference as well. If the child was raised by parents who didn't drink yet knew the risks they would educate the child about what alcohol can do, the affects it has on the body, that this is a heredity disease that one day will rear it's ugly head. A child raised in a loving home, who is nurtured, cared for though they may have signs of depression, anxieties described in personality number 5, neuroticism would handle their issues differently than a person who demonstrated similar behavior yet was raised in a abusive household. They would be more liable to be aggressive, confrontational, argumentative. The anxiety disorders these two individuals demonstrate based off the environment will either reduce or multiple the feelings. Quite a bit of research regarding this theory has been documented both written and visually.
I believe that our home life, social settings and environment are a huge factor in how we relate to ourselves and to others. What we see at home, school, in the neighborhood, at the playground, at someone's house, everywhere we go can be a learning experience and teach us the side of good and evil.
A person who demonstrates personality trait number 4, I call, The Agreeable One, is know to make decisions to make others happy and there have been times the decision they made caused harm to others, placed them in unlawful situations all because they wanted to make other person happy. Many men that have the neuroticism trait gravitate to the ladies with the agreeable trait because they need someone they can control. That is the reason many women stay in abusive relationships. They want to keep their man happy and lose sight of themselves and who they are. The men need this because when they were younger and being abused they couldn't control what happened in their home or to them. They have the desire to be in control so that no one will get the upper hand again. They are protecting themselves yet don't realize they are doing to the women exactly what was done to them. In their mind they are self preserving. The circle of abuse will continue if they don't break the cycle.
If your ever none or encountered someone with trait number 3, the extraversion it's more than likely one of their parents is the same way. We all no matter what our personality traits are learn from our parents. They are the first teachers children see, hear and obey. I've seen cases where parents taught by example in a good sense and those who've taught in the bad sense. One of my daughter ( who happens to have the extraversion trait) , is a yeller and extremely strict with her children. I believe her daughter will be more like her mother and her son, more like his dad, a home body, calmer and a snuggler. My granddaughter already demonstrates some of her mom's traits. Unfortunately in order to get their points across and others to agree with them they tend to exaggerate situations. This is one of the traits I have no patience for.
Personality traits 1 and 2, Openness & Conscientiousness go hand in hand. The person who demonstrates these traits seem to be very likable. They are the type of people we all aspire to be. These are the ones who volunteer at shelters, nursing homes, stop to offer assistance when someone is in need. They are good, kind, caring people and our world needs more.