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When Life Falls Apart, Pick Up the Pieces You Still Want!

Updated on March 24, 2012

Sometimes, life feels like it’s falling apart all around us. People die, people lose jobs, and loved ones have issues that get dumped (for lack of a better word) on us because we are the ones that are there when they need a sounding board.

Sometimes, when life falls apart, we feel like the world is ending, like we have no way out. There are a couple of very awesome facts to keep in mind when something like this happens in your life:

First of all, the way “out” would be by walking “through” whatever life happens to throw your way. It’s not always easy; for some, it’s very difficult. Honestly, there is no difficulty in life that can’t be overcome. The innate empowerment we have deep within is always more powerful than any event or circumstance we come across. Those who take drastic measures to end their circumstances are just as empowered as anyone else on this earth. They were just not aware of it.


Secondly, when life falls apart, you have the right to pick up only the pieces you still want! That’s the exciting part of this whole journey in life.

When we remember that our entire life is created by the thoughts we hold, we realize that our thoughts and attitudes and perspectives can be changed in order to see our world in a whole different light.

All of life is subjective. The unfolding of events is different for everyone. Two people can see one car accident caused by a drunk driver (for example) and when asked to give police the details about the crash, it usually appears as if they were looking at two different crashes! It isn’t because one of them was deceiving. It was because of the subjectivity of each person.


We all have our own view, our own perspective of life events. That’s why it’s so extremely important to remember that when we change our perspective on events, we change the outcome of the consequences. In the accident example, we may not be able to change the consequence of someone being severely hurt, but we can change how we choose to feel or what to do about it. We can pray for that person, for example. We can commit to making a difference in the world in general by becoming part of a program to prevent drunk driving. We can volunteer at a hospital, to be a positive influence on those who have no family and no visitors. Anything at all that would benefit the life of someone else would be a way to change the effect of one “bad” event into something “good” for others. It’s a ripple effect. The more positivity we send out, the more positivity we get back.

So, when our lives seem as if they are falling apart, we can pray for ourselves. We can sit quietly and focus on what the proper action would be in order to make a more positive outcome on the event. Then, take that action. We can choose to keep the pieces we want. We can then move forward. We can then decide to focus on others instead of dwelling on the negativity of the current past. If we remember that some others are in far greater straights than we are, we can realize that we are not alone and we can teach others how to pick up only the pieces they want from the “broken” part of their lives!


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      Lene' Lynn St. John 7 years ago from Glendale, AZ

      purpleangel47, well thank you! And I totally agree, we get stuck on keeping so many pieces we never really even needed! Thanks for following me and commenting, it really means a LOT! I am following you as well. I just have to say that you look SO much like a friend of mine, that it blows my mind! Whoa!!!!!! :))))

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      purpleangel47 7 years ago from Baltimore, Maryland

      Absolutely awesome advice to pick up the pieces you still want! What is absolutley amazing to me is, after you get past feeling devastated, and you're able to look back, you'll be surprised by how many pieces of that past life you're willing to throw into the trash heap!

      thanx for sharing Lene!

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      Lene' Lynn St. John 7 years ago from Glendale, AZ

      epigramman, oh my gosh, I am blushing! I am amazed that you are stating such a strong sentiment! I am honored that you think these things about my work! Thank you sincerely, your comments mean more than you know...Blessings and peace to you, kind sir!

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      epigramman 7 years ago

      ..well my life actually just came back together after meeting someone like you - I can see why you are a 'published' writer not to mention a world class one - as well!

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      Lene Lynn 7 years ago

      Pamela, thank you so much! Thanks for following me as well...I am in the process this very minute of writing my next article. :)

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      Pamela Kinnaird W 7 years ago from Maui and Arizona

      I enjoyed your point of view. Great thoughts.

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      Lene Lynn 7 years ago

      I love the English accents! I loved London when I was there, too! My boyfriend is from Blackburn, Lancashire...I don't know where East Anglia is...thanks so much for writing back...:)

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      Bumpsysmum 7 years ago from Cambridgeshire

      Oh yes - I am in UK, East Anglia and we are originally from London, we have a whole lot of sayings that stem from Cockney rhyming slang! Great fun sometimes :-)

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      Lene Lynn 7 years ago

      Bumpsysmum, I haven't heard of the rubbish saying, but I am think it might be from England...:) My boyfriend is from England and I know they say "rubbish" instead of "trash" or "garbage!" Thanks for your comments! I agree with both of you! :)

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      Bumpsysmum 7 years ago from Cambridgeshire

      I agree with Ashantina. One of my dad's favourite old sayings was "if life deals you rubbish, open a scrapyard, cos where there's muck there's brass". good hub :-)

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      Lene' Lynn St. John 7 years ago from Glendale, AZ

      Ashantina, and girl...if I was a drinker of liquor I would totally agree with you! I have prefer the Arnold Palmer beverages myself! heheheh!

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      Ashantina 7 years ago

      ...forget the lemonade, when life deals you tomatoes, make Bloody Marys!! :))

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      Lene' Lynn St. John 7 years ago from Glendale, AZ

      Hattie, WOW! I don't think any of my articles have ever been read so quickly after I published them! I was stilling hooking up links in the article to other articles when I saw your comment! Thanks for being so "on the ball!" Glad you liked it! :)

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      HattieMattieMae 7 years ago from Limburg, Netherlands

      Can't agree with you more! Well done! :)


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