When You Give Up On A Dream
On the Journey
When you give up on something you don't have to feel like a failure. To give up is huge. You say to yourself that you cant give up, but you know you have to or you'll go crazy. You could be giving up on a job, a person, a living situation, but this isn't the end. It could be the start of something else. Something new.
Giving up on something doesn't seem to be the best choice on the surface. But, I will say that sometimes we have to do just that to go on. Then we can rationalize that if it was meant to be it will happen. We just don't hope anymore. We can stop banging ourselves against the sideboards. We can feel relief to some extent. Not satisfaction. Slight relief.
Then what? You mourn? You treat it like it's a death. A loss. Well it is. What you're having to do here is to let go. It doesn't feel good and it doesn't feel right. Somehow I think dead wishes always feel wrong. If it didn't feel wrong to let go, that wouldn't be right. You wished for this and now you can't even imagine how you would feel if your wish came true at this very moment,You have to acknowledge all of this to move on.
The best way I can think of to go forward is to wish other wishes. To hope for different things. Make sure you hope for other things, it's necessary in this situation. It's not only necessary, it's imperative that you take action and start hoping for everything you've ever dreamed of. Because to get over that one big wish going unfulfilled, you're going to have to do a lot of hoping, wishing, and dreaming. Eventually...Hopefully...you'll get to the point where your new hopes and dreams have surpassed anything you could have ever wanted before.
It's just hard to believe you could even think about other things considering the pain of the loss. Before you can get on with attempting something like another goal you have to repair yourself. Be good to yourself every chance you get. The good feeling will build up over time and turn into a great new perspective for you to run with.