When a loved one suffers from mental illness
Years ago we noticed my father beginning to display signs of mental illness. Believing that he was fine, he refused help. It began as little quirks and wasn't too bad. Flash forward to a year ago, he is much worse and very paranoid. One day, grabs a loaded gun to drive into town and shoot up the courthouse (where my mother works), not because they were having marital problems but because he believed they were holding her hostage. One year later we are still awaiting trial for that case. He is current in jail for failing to show up for court. Two months ago, before being arrested, he woke up one day and decided my husband was controlling me and set out to do him harm. Luckily, the week before we had moved and he did not know. Every time I think about it I thank God that my kids did not have to witness an altercation between their daddy ad papa. Now he's in jail and awaiting sentencing and hopefully mental help. They are currently treating him for paranoid schizophrenic but have not diagnosed him officially. Needless to say there are MANY more things that have happened within the past years. If you have someone in your family suffering like this it is hard to be around. I have had my father cuss me (he NEVER cussed), tell me he doesn't love me and how I ruined his life. the thing is, I know that is not my father. I have to be there for him because I know the real him would be there for me no matter what. Others want to think that because someone suffers from a mental illness they are violent, it's not true. My father has had two violent outbursts ever. They aren't all psycho and aren't all dangerous. For my dad, he is just disconnected from reality and stays to himself, most the time alone in a room or outside. Mental illness is when the brain is sick. It's time to drop the stigma and let people know it is okay to have an illness and you will not be judged for seeking, or even being forced to get help.