- Mental Health
When should you let go?
It might be the hardest thing that you will ever do...
However sometimes you need to let things go. During the course of your life there will be many hurdles for you to jump over. Some hurdles might not be worth jumping over, they could end up causing you to go head first over a cliff.
So how do you know when to jump a hurdle and when to walk away from such an obstacle. Well here are somethings to consider...One, first and foremost, how does this challenge in your life affect your mental health? Is the situation that you are in something that you can control or is it something that another person or a bigger force has control in? For instance, let's say that the challenge you are facing is the death of a loved one...No matter how many tears you shed or how many times you blame yourself there is nothing that you or anyone else can do to bring that person back. The only thing that you can is grieve. It is okay to grieve, you really should. Sometimes you have family members or friends that you can talk to and they might be feeling the same way. Even if you think talking cannot help, I really suggest that you try it. Some people might not understand how you feel, while others might know exactly what you are going through and they might have advice that might help you pull through this hard time. Either way you need to grieve and let go of all that blame that you keep putting on yourself. Try to find peace with the situation.
Sometimes relationships can be hard to let go of too. Here are things to look at to evaluate whether the relationship can be saved. How does your partner feel about the relationship, honestly how do they feel? When you are ready to throw in the towel, do they fight to keep the relationship alive? Can you and do really trust them? When you are at work, do you look forward to seeing them or is your job a vacation from your home life? Chances are if you simply hate going home, well then maybe the relationship is no longer of good quality to either party. What do you currently love about your partner? Have you grown with each other or apart?
Now let's break this down. Do you communicate with your partner? Communication is the key to growing with each other. If your partner, has told you that they are not happy, you need to listen to why they are unhappy. Think about what is causing them to feel this way, and is it something that you can help to make better? If you can, then put forth some effort. However, if they just no longer like you or they just want to be free. Stop hanging around and making yourself feel miserable. Let it go and work on loving yourself. Later, in life you will find someone to love you as you are and who you are compatible with. You deserve this.
However, never let go of your dreams or yourself. Let them evolve and take shape but trust yourself to be who you want to be in life. Let no one tear you down, because no one else is worth it in the long haul.