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Where In Life Are We?

Updated on October 11, 2012

What is my role in the hive of the family?

The dawn comes, a new dawn on a home with a sleeping family.  What will this day be like?
The dawn comes, a new dawn on a home with a sleeping family. What will this day be like? | Source

What measures a successful life at its end?

All mortals die, some after the shortest of lives, others even beyond 100 years old.

What is the measure of a successful life?

We know that despite the wealth and fame of some, we admire others also who have no wealth and little fame, but are somehow special to us and to others.

What of the farmer who has a small farm, never travels far from it, sustains his own life and the lives of family or neighbors, works diligently, lives humbly, ages and dies?

What of the veteran who fought bravely, valued the lives of his comrades, but lives out his later life in shelters and on the streets?

What of the child whose life is cut short by illness or other tragedy at a very young age, or the baby whose birth and death was a lifetime measured in a few short breaths?

There is much we do not understand about lives we see around us, long or short.

We may seek for answers in holy scriptures, or look to nature in attempting to fathom some natural order of things.

Every life, long or short, is different. As there are streams, rivulets, rushing torrents, ocean tides, floods, rapids, and falls, so also can we see such varieties in persons' living circumstances and lives.

Where is happiness in all of this? Where do cruelty, smiles, war, and festive balloons, wakes, and parties fit into the stories of human lives?

Joy and sadness are likely to be parts of every life, yet some lives seem serene and almost event-less, while others are the subjects of riveting biographies of tragedy or selfless heroism, which would make the birth, work, and death of bees seem little worth pondering.

Take your own life for example. Childhood, family, schooling, first job, first love, maybe marriage and children, adventure, tragedy, sadness, exhilaration, sacrifice, health, riches or poverty, and then here reading and thinking and praying for an even better life?

The common thread to each person's life tapestry as some lives draw to a predictable close is a relatively short list of regrets. Regrets not of wealth and fame unachieved, but of the simple things available to us all: too little time with family and friends, too much wasted time spent on activities (including work) done at the expense of meaningful moments---the dream vacation that was never taken, the children's "story time" or activity which was missed due to some distraction, the times when an apology was needed but never voiced, the "I love you" moments that went without those three words ever being said, or the sarcastic comments that never should have been said.

What of that humble farmer who lived a life close to home and the earth, while always respected and appreciated by his neighbors and extended family? Did he take time to appreciate the beauty around him, the rhythms of the seasons? Was there no sadness in his life, no yearning to be elsewhere doing dramatic things?

You be the judge. Would you willingly have traded places with him, if given the chance?

What will you regret at the end, which you could remedy now when tomorrow and the opportunity to change things may exist?


© 2012 Demas W. Jasper All rights reserved.

Each day should have its summing up time.

Give yourself a score at the end of each day, and resolve to do better the following day.  We usually get what we seek with persistence. ©  2012  Demas W. Jasper   All rights reserved.
Give yourself a score at the end of each day, and resolve to do better the following day. We usually get what we seek with persistence. © 2012 Demas W. Jasper All rights reserved. | Source


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      Demas W Jasper 5 years ago from Today's America and The World Beyond

      Thanks to everyone who has read this Hub. The comments are especially appreciated. It is always a good time to reflect on where we are at in our family, our relationships, our professions, and our pursuit of happiness. When we do, we may decide on changes we want to make, and when and how we can make them.

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      Gypsy Rose Lee 5 years ago from Riga, Latvia

      Voted up and awesome. Deep thoughts and I can say at this point I don't have regrets about anything because the Lord and I have talked it all out. However there are quite a few things I'd like to do and people to see before my days end just to sort of tie it all up with a pretty bow. Passing this on.

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      Eiddwen 5 years ago from Wales

      A brilliant hub and thanks for sharing.


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      Karen Silverman 5 years ago

      Awesome and thought provoking, Perspy!

      He who dies with the least regrets is the true winner in life - i couldn't agree more, my friend!

      i love a hub that makes me think!

      sharing on...

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      Ruchira 5 years ago from United States

      Beautiful write up and I agree with you. Whatever life has offered gotta grab it by its horns and trod along. Grass always seems greener at the other side.

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      Amy Becherer 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO

      When I became a teenager, I felt like an outsider looking in on my own family. No blame assigned, I honored my mother's wishes and moved out. When I married, they chose not be in attendance at the wedding. We were estranged for much of my daughter's young life. I thought of them everyday and missed them. One day, about 10 years ago, I decided I was going to act on my desire to see them. My dad hugged me for the first time and told me he loved me. About 2 months later, he died suddenly from a massive stroke at his brainstem. I went to his hospital bedside and stayed with him until he passed. He knew I was with him. I feel so incredibly blessed and honored to have had that time. Now, my mother, at 85 with some dementia following bypass surgery last summer, looks to me for help her with all of her errands, including all doctor and dental visits. She is very grateful and tells me so. I have the feeling she is more at ease with me than anyone else in the world, which is saying a lot as she has suffered with OCD all her life. I am so glad that I never became bitter, or angry, but instead maintained my respect and love for my parents, never closing the door. I feel I was inspired by a higher power to act when I did, instead of thinking I had more time. It was a miracle, I believe. Now I know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, from that one visit to my parent's home, that they and God love me.

      Thank you, Perspycacious for a beautifully written, truthful dose of serious food for thought.

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      Marcia Ours 5 years ago

      Very thought provoking. If there are things we want to do or say in this life, the time is now. None of us know when it might be our time.

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      Demas W Jasper 5 years ago from Today's America and The World Beyond

      "Most people want to be needed, and need to be wanted." (Demas W. Jasper) It is worth remembering (or learning) that God needs you to be for others of His children the hands, eyes, ears, heart, and soul that can answer their prayers, and He wants you to act in accord with His commandments. If people, ourselves included, can only realize that fulfilling that plan can make a life full, purposeful and joyful, they need search no further for the other imaginings which will always be elusive.

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      MizBejabbers 5 years ago

      Nice speculation with good questions. When people look upon success as only money, they are missing out on much of life's beauty. Coming from a rural background, I can answer your question about the farmer. Yes, the farmer (and his wife) sees the beauty in all that you mentioned, the land, the seasons, and even the animals. That is exactly why they farm. And yes, they have adversaties just like the non-farmer. My grandparents would not have considered doing anything but farming. They had eight children and buried their fifth child when she was only three years old. They literally had time to stop and smell the roses that they grew themselves. They were happy and they made others around them happy. As for success, my grandfather was not wealthy, but he was known as the best farm manager in the county (in addition to being an honest man). There are many measures of success, depending on which measuring stick you use. Voted you up+.

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      Deb Hirt 5 years ago from Stillwater, OK

      Luckily, I have no regrets. My life played out rather routinely, and now I am very happy where I am across the street from a wonderful lake. I spend a lot of joyous time there.

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      Deborah 5 years ago from Las Vegas

      What a reflecting and interesting hub. I think a successful life is living the one you wanted. People who want fame badly enough will find it in some way, even a small way. Most people want to love, be loved, live in a comfortable home, and have some fun once in a while. A successful life is loving the life that you have.

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      Cheryl Simonds 5 years ago from Connecticut

      This fits quite nicely with the saying "never put off till tomorrow what you can do today, because tomorrow may be toooo late!" I fully agree with this. Most people forget what life is all about while they seek fame, fortune, and beauty to "be better". Great article.

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      Michele Travis 5 years ago from U.S.A. Ohio

      Very interesting hub. Many people look for fame, money, good looks. There are a lot of plastic surgeons out there. In spite of all that, how many of those famous people are lonely? They end up with problems with drugs or something. I don't know. I would rather have my family around me, then money, fame, and fortune.

      But that is just me.

      Voted up.

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      Martin Kloess 5 years ago from San Francisco

      With over 247 masonic funerals under my belt, a man in the end might face his true value. I once officiated a funeral of a man who did nothing.

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      Mark G Weller 5 years ago from Lake Charles, LA.

      Very well thought and written mt friend, The time is now to make the changes, to say the "I Love Yoy"s.