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Where There's a Will There's a Way, Except When There Isn't
"If it can be dreamed, it can be done."
"Don't just dream it, be it."
"Where there's a will, there's always a way."
These quotations all seem to mean the same thing - if you want to do something, go out and do it, letting nothing stop you. No one said it would be easy, but when life's difficulty meter is cranked to the max and you're living with limitations (or there are built-in limitations to what you plan to do), reaching your goals may seem impossible for you. It's not like we live in a fairy-tale world where everything is perfect and things always seem to work out in the end, and we shouldn't go through life pretending that we do. Just because some people become successful doesn't mean that everyone can succeed, whether it's through their own shortcomings or no fault of their own.
We all have things we want to do in life, but as they say, "We plan, God laughs." Or in non-religious terms, "We plan, the universe remains cold." This is so because the world we live in will continue to exist whether any of us live in it or not. None of us is really needed, but that's okay since we create our own meaning in our lives and have those we care about. If we didn't have each other, we'd have nothing. Still, just because we assign meaning to our lives doesn't mean that everything will go as planned or even in that general direction. Is there a will? Yes, there most certainly is. Is there always a way? No, unfortunately there is not. Nothing in life is guaranteed, least of all your plans remaining more or less intact. Even if you have decided on a reason or several reasons for living, your plans may fall through and you may lose some of those reasons. We must all find our happiness somewhere and hope that it is never taken away from us by some cruel twist of fate, for when it is we are truly at a loss that cannot be soon overcome.
It isn't always healthy to look on the bright side of a situation, even if that advice is well-meaning. Being blindly optimistic can sometimes make you blind to the consequences of the harsh realities we must deal with every day; as much as we want to ignore them, we just can't because it isn't safe to do so. Therefore, I offer another meaning of this declaration: Don't give up. There may not always be a way, but there will be other pursuits. If you keep trying, you're bound to succeed at something eventually even if it isn't what you originally intended. That doesn't mean you shouldn't give up ever; obviously there are some things in life that you can't avoid giving up or are required to give up on in order to survive or make progress. Like with the loss of a loved one, there is also no set mourning period for broken dreams. People live life at their own pace, and those around them need to accept that if they truly care for them.