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Internal Happiness vs External Happiness, which type of happiness is better?
Internal Happiness vs External Happiness
There is a long debate going on for decades about the secret of true happiness. Can happiness stay with us permanently or is it momentary? What is the ultimate secret to happiness? External happiness vs internal happiness. What is external happiness? What is internal happiness? Which happiness is good for us?
Each of us, is searching for happiness through our own methods. Some pursue career growth, material success to find happiness while others strive for pleasures like watching movie, playing sports, participating in adventures. All these activities tend to give us momentary happiness. This is external happiness. External happiness is derived from external things, situations, people or other simulations. When we buy a new gadget, we are happy, this is external happiness. When we get a promotion in office, we feel at mountain top, this too is external happiness. This type of happiness, tends to be temporary and depleting in the long run. What about the permanent happiness? Is it possible?
When we think positively in our minds and maintain our inner stability, we tend to feel peace, joy and contentment. This inner peace tends to stay with us as long as we want and we can control it. This type of permanent happiness is internal happiness. It is enriching in both short and long run. The more we experience internal happiness, we become strong and peaceful. It is independent of situations. Even if the situation is bad outside, we can choose to maintain our inner happiness and strength.
For instance, it is possible that a poor man with physical disability can be happier than a rich man with all the material success in the world. The poor man is rich in internal happiness where as the rich man is rich only in external happiness. It is all in our minds. We might be kings and queens in the external world but if our internal thinking system is depleting, negative, we are emotional beggars.
That is the reason, some of the most successful people in external world might be actually depressed, become alcoholics and even commit suicide. Such people are rich in external happiness but extremely poor in internal happiness. The ultimate secret of happiness lies in realizing that internal happiness is key to goodness and true contentment.
So, now it is clear that true happiness is internal happiness. This happiness is permanent. We enjoy it equally in good or bad times. Now the next question is, how do I experience such internal happiness.
Internal happiness is internal job. It does not depend upon your physical beauty or clothes you wear. It is based on our commitment to do the internal work. It requires thinking happy, positive and peaceful thoughts. Thoughts of gratitude are one of the best way to become internally happy. When we choose to think happy thoughts and reduce wasteful thinking, we can be sure to feel light and internally happy. It requires our daily commitment, awareness and meditation to do this internal cleaning and planting happy thoughts in our garden of mind. Initially, it might be a bit difficult as the mental chatter might be very strong and automatic. However, with deep meditation, we can tune to good thoughts and healthy mind. Soon, it will be automatic to think good, happy and positive thoughts. When we change internally, the whole world looks different. We become healthy, happy and content. This type of happiness is everlasting.