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Eight Techniques That Helped Me To Overcome Depression.

Updated on April 27, 2020
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An author of the book Aggregate 50, who draws inspiration from her daily life and infuse positivity in the society through her writings.

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Introduction

Depression, just like a black hole is all-consuming when you're engulfed in it.

It can be impossible to spot from outside. Anyone we know could be experiencing it, no matter how self-assured or confident they might appear.

In uncertain times, it is only natural for us to search for certainty in our comfort zone. It provides a feeling of comfort, safety, perhaps even a sense of belonging but it's all harmful. Just like a slow poison, depression keeps on killing you slowly.

My Experience

In my entire life, I had never encountered a heartache nor do I had ever gone through any unbearable pain until this February.

Suddenly, the earth had plunged upon me when I lost my precious gem and backbone of my life, my mother. Her abrupt demise scattered almost every part of my heart in a devastating way.

In a world where everything is constantly changing—where people, places, politics, situations, and even own thoughts keep us baffling, the illusion of certainty is unusually comforting. Somewhere in my mind, I don't want to release myself from the shock of her death.

Whenever I see her face on the wallpaper of my phone. All fresh memories flashback within a fraction of seconds every morning and vanish with an empty nest. Each corner of the house mourns her absence in the form of my uncontrollable tears. All these conditions forced me to the darkness of depression.

We've had cuts and bruises, some of us have had operations and surgeries, others had had illnesses and viruses but this pain is something that is carved and buried somewhere inside our body which is very intense, powerful and as dangerous as cancer if remain undetectable for a long time.
People say that we feel the pain in our hearts, but I felt it all over my body including my nerves and blood. Sometimes it paralyzed my brain and took control of my mind. I couldn't able to do or think anything. Things hurt and we all have different pain thresholds for some the symptoms are hidden. Maybe this is what, "depression" is.

I do not allow others to influence my thinking unless it is positive or uplifting:Louise Hay

Techniques To Get Out From Depression

  • Surround yourself with a positive attitude people: Depression isn’t contagious in the same way the coronavirus is, but moods and emotions can spread. Have you ever watched a baby laugh so hard that you started laughing? Or listened to an employee complain about so long that you started feeling negative, too? In this way, moods, even depressive symptoms can be contagious.
  • Discuss your problem with your peers: Keeping the problems inside you is just like gulping a pack of sleeping pills and not spitting out. Open up with your best friend what are you going through. This will help you to relax your mind as if you are releasing that acidic flux from your mind. Reach out to friends and family about your situation. You don’t have to pretend that everything is fine when it isn’t.
  • Focus on your hobbies: Hobbies are like chocolate cookies. Focus on them they will gift a different delicious taste of life. Slow down your brain and focus on the specifics.
  • Learn a new thing: Don't allow your brain to become a devil's nest, that will make you feel low and drain all your energy.learning a new thing will help to divert your mind. I started my driving class and I can tell you confidence this not only helped me to heal but also helped in increasing my willpower.
  • Make yourself flexible: The more flexible, adaptable you are, the sooner you will bounce back. Remember a rubber ball bounces back easily than a metal ball. It happens because it has the greatest elasticity. When a rubber ball hits the ground with a high-speed it gets compressed, squeezed but jumps back at the same speed and gets back to the exact shape quickly. I know it's not that easy as said but it's possible.
  • Listen to music: Music had had a healing effect on our body and mind. Beautiful melodious music can do wonders to a disturbed mind. It has a calming effect.
  • Meditation: Meditation acts like that strong roof for you in the midst of the powerful storm that controls the faster winds of thought and calms down your mind. It's difficult but doable. So practice it daily, take a few baby steps daily.
  • Declutter negativity: Negativity is that rotten fruit that may look presentable at the dining table but can give you cancer if it gets inside you. So cut those toxic people, places, and things from your life. Balance your energy and keep going.

How Can You Help A Person Going Through Depression

Preaching is not always the solution. Try to make them comfortable so that they can able to speak their mind. Try to understand why the person is suffering.

As I write this, I am stronger now as the first thing I did is, I accepted the reality and I trained my mind like that. Although it is very difficult to do than say. Still, my dry eyes get easily wet when a single thought about her strikes my mind but I can say confidently that I am in a better state now.

We all are humans, things slip back to the past occasionally as it's very difficult to get rid of old habits.

But now she is there in my memory and will live forever with me that is the reality. Life must go on and I have to embrace this experience of uncertainty to lead my life again. I have a strong belief that the hard time will pass as it always does.

© 2020 Suchismita Pradhan

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      Suchismita Pradhan 

      5 weeks ago from India

      Thanks Eric for stopping by,this is something that is really really hard to overcome but we have to do this at any cost otherwise it will consume us.

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      Prateek Jain 

      5 weeks ago from Madhya Pradesh, India

      This is really one of the best article which I have read till now. like yesterday I was talking to my friend and she was feeling very depressed due to her studies and exams because due to covid 19 virus the classes or not live but exams are not postponed. Hence I I suggested her to listen some Sufi songs and avoid any negative thoughts. now after reading this article the first thing I am going to do is sharing this article with their friend so that she can also get benefit from the points that you have mentioned. thank you for sharing this valuable information mam.

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      Rajan Singh Jolly 

      6 weeks ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar, INDIA.

      You provide some useful pointers to help manage depression. Thanks for sharing.

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      Ruby Jean Richert 

      6 weeks ago from Southern Illinois

      I can relate to this so much. I lost my son last January the 17th. I have been in a state of depression since then. Oh I have days that I don't cry, then just out of the blue the tears start again. Your tips are doable and I'm going to start. Thank you much, and thank you for the follow. Happy to follow you.

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      Dora Weithers 

      6 weeks ago from The Caribbean

      I like all your suggestions. Learning something new and pursuing hobbies are my favorites. Very helpful!

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      Sourav Rana 

      6 weeks ago

      It is very sad to know about your mother. Your loss is indispensable. Thanks for the great tips for healing depressionn.

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      Devika Primić 

      6 weeks ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      What I learned about Depression is to be positive, avoid the lows in life and focus on the best of everything that makes yo laugh and enjoy life.

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      Prantika Samanta 

      6 weeks ago from Kolkata, India

      I can relate to your article as I have gone through depression and the period was quite long. It is not easy to go through the excruciating pain and pretend to be happy. Accepting the reality and working on depression is important. We can do that on our own or we may require medical help based on the state of depression.

      Thank you for bringing up an important topic and the area requires attention.

      Appreciate the way you are dealing with the pain and trying to help others overcoming depression.

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      Swati Khandelwal 

      6 weeks ago from Nainital

      I have also gone through this process of depression when I lost my father two years ago. He was my strength. He died with cancer and his condition at the last stage made me so depressed that I used to cry for hours and hours.

      But time heals everything. Meditation is the best method to attain peace of mind.

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      Cijini karan 

      6 weeks ago

      Good article suchi...you are a blessed girl....

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      Vikram Brahma 

      6 weeks ago from Assam, India

      Hey it's nice reading but sorry to her about your mom. Infact, I also understand depression as I have gone through different stages of depression two times in my life. From my experience I would like to say many a times it becomes compulsory to take medicine. I reached highest stage of depression, so doctor adviced me to take medicine for life. But, I am fit now to do any work and another best advice is please don't take life too seriously, just go with the flow like water, and laugh

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      Liz Westwood 

      6 weeks ago from UK

      I am sorry to hear of your loss. In grief, it's a little like living in a parallel universe. You cross the line to join those who have suffered bereavement while life goes on as normal for others around you. In such circumstances the support of others who have been there before is invaluable.

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      Eric Dierker 

      6 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Very well done on episodic depression. Like all the stages of grief and survivor guilt they too shall pass. Easy to say but very hard to remember when you are in the throws of depression.

      I am glad you are doing better and acceptance is the answer to most our prayers.

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