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Why Don’t The People Who Have Been Going To My Gym All Along Look Any Better?

Updated on July 24, 2009


I truly do not understand this one. I understand that I myself have gotten fat due to my lack of desire to even drive past the gym, let alone go in and workout but I recently made the vow to myself that I was going to at least try to do something about the almost thirty pounds that I am now packing that I shouldn’t be and so I have been diligently watching what I eat, working out on my Wii Fit and yesterday I finally returned to the gym. What amazed me was not the fact that most of the people there were the people that were there almost a year ago working out at the same time but that they looked exactly the same. No bulging muscles, no lack of gut, they were for all purposes just looking exactly the same and as I ellipticalled myself into a frenzy I couldn’t help but get a little depressed. Why don’t the people who have been going to my gym all along look any better? – Don’t Get Me Started!

Of course I’ve looked at this from every angle. Maybe these people haven’t been diligently working out three days a week or what have you and they themselves just recently returned to the gym too. Sure that’s plausible but I really don’t think that’s the case. I think these people have been working out and instead of making major changes they’re just maintaining. Isn’t that an awful word, “maintaining?” It’s such a stuck in a rut or something kind of word. I hate that word. I don’t want to just maintain, I want to see results. And I’m sure that these people do too. However if I’m honest, I know that the latest five pounds I gained came on when I stopped going to the gym so perhaps even though I thought I was too fat then, all I was doing was maintaining. Argh.

My guy (who may have had a weight problem when he was seven but is in great physical shape and has been for most of his life) always says to me, “You didn’t put it on overnight so it’s not going to drop off overnight.” But these kinds of phrases just make me want to puke in someone’s running shoe. Sure I know he’s right but who wants to hear what’s right? Not me, I would like to spend every day of my life being lied to because I’ve spent most of my life lying to myself so that’s where I feel comfortable.

I have to say that everything they say about working out is true. If you do it in the morning it really gets your day off to a good start. (Although I have to say if you sweat like me, once you start it takes hours to stop so I showered and was still sweating all through the shower and getting dressed for work – it’s an old dancer habit. I once had a dance teacher tell me that I didn’t sweat enough. From that moment on, all someone has to do is look at me and I start sweating. Of course it could be that my body is dying to get the weight off too so it’s trying to throw the weight out of every pore. I like that imagery best.) It’s the getting to the gym that gets me (and almost everyone I know) in trouble. I once had a chiropractor tell me to just go to the gym and not worry about how long I’m there. He said that the important thing was to create the habit and get your body used to going. That was more important than anything. Sure you need to do some sort of physical activity when you get there but it’s the not getting there at all, the making excuses, the changing the alarm from “snooze” to an hour from now that causes you to wake up thirty pounds overweight and causes you to almost pass out from simply bending over to tie your shoes.

So while I can easily get wrapped up into the seeming failure of the people who have continued to work out in my absence from the gym, what I realize I’m really doing is deflecting my attention so that I don’t have to see how overweight or out of shape I am. Hey, they have their own lives, their own problems and I’m assuming their own names since I know none of them well enough to do more than the head nod acknowledgement. So as my father used to advise, “Let them worry about them and you worry about you.” And believe me, I’m plenty worried about me and my current physical condition. Still I can’t help but wonder a little, why don’t the people who have been going to my gym all along look any better? – Don’t Get Me Started!

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      gracenotes 8 years ago from North Texas

      My question is, why would anyone go to a gym in the first place? I guess for some people, their busy schedule cannot accommodate to other, more pleasant ways of exercising.

      I hate going to a gym. I won't do it, nor do I have a treadmill in my house. But I walk my dogs, on average, 2 miles per day, and do yard work and gardening. I always have a feeling of accomplishment once I'm done, and I do get some Vitamin D from the sun at the same time.

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      Christopher 8 years ago

      I know what you're saying about body image, I have struggled with it my whole life! Good luck for the quest of happiness :)

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      somelikeitscott 8 years ago from Las Vegas

      TMG - I have wondered and wondered about those body bugs. I belong to 24 Hour Fitness too and saw them on the contestants on Biggest Loser and I just didn't understand how they were supposed to work. (Especially when I saw the woman who works at Starbucks wearing one.) Let me know when you write the hub on the body bug...I'm dying to know all about them.

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      Triplet Mom 8 years ago from West Coast

      Wow I have often wondered this, thanks for putting my thoughts to words. It is a scary situation.

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      TheMoneyGuy 8 years ago from Pyote, TX


      I think the situation is worse than you might actually surmise.

      If you look at the average weekly caloric intake of an American and you look at the average time the typical gym goer puts into the gym, you will find that most people still consume more than they burn.

      That said, most of the people you see at the gym aren't maintaining, they just aren't gaining as fast as someone who does not go to the gym.

      That my friend is the scary part, I know because I was one of those who spent year after year not able to figure it out. I bought one of those stupid body bugs from 24 hour fitness and then I learned the cold hard facts of my life.