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Why Every Adult Should Live Alone at Some Point in Life
Living Alone is Pretty Awesome
I am not usually the type to insult other online writers. I understand everyone has his or her own opinion and everyone is entitled to that. However, today I read an article on Yahoo that frustrated me. I do not disagree with the writer, but I do disagree on how she proves her point. The article is called "Why Every Woman Should Live Alone Before Marriage." While I do believe every adult should live alone at some point in life, she specifically speaks to women and she barely ever lived alone.
I think the writer has good advice to give everyone. She is proud that she lived for 6 weeks by herself all without the help of roommates, parents, or a husband. Wow. Many of us have been doing that for years or even decades. The article is a bit of an insult to those of us that have really lived alone for many years and actually know what it is like. In my opinion, the article sets women back a bit. Is it a revelation that some of us are actually independent and can live without the help of others paying our rent? Believe it or not, many of us gals can actually live alone quite successfully for more than 6 weeks! Gasp!
In my opinion, every ADULT should live alone at least once in his or her life. There are many men that never live by themselves either. Mom is always willing to do the laundry while her son plays video games for hours in the "man cave" and doesn't bother getting a full-time job. Perhaps it would be a major achievement for him to live by himself for 6 weeks, too! For most of us, being an adult means living alone at some time and 6 weeks is barely any time at all. If a person hasn't had the chance to do live alone at some point in life, I highly recommend it for many reasons.
Rule the Remote!
Cool Stuff You Can Do When You Live Alone
There is so much awesomeness in living by yourself! I have been living by myself for about 10 years now. I really enjoy it most of the time. Yes, sometimes I think I enjoy it a little too much and perhaps it would be difficult for me to live with someone else, but hey, I can adapt. Anyone can adapt to living with someone else or adapt to living alone. I personally believe you should try both options at least once in life to decide which you prefer.
Some of the great things you can do when you live by yourself are:
- Dance like no one is watching... because no one is watching! Go crazy!
- Walk around half-dressed or nude anytime you want.
- Watch terrible reality shows all weekend and never admit it to anyone.
- Talk to yourself and answer yourself if you like.
- Read without anyone annoying you.
- Sleep whenever you want.
- Stay awake as late as you'd like.
- Come and go whenever you want.
- Sing in the shower at the top of your lungs.
- Decorate your home entirely the way you want it.
- Adopt as many pets as you want; name them whatever you'd like while you are at it.
- Eat cereal for dinner and eat pizza for breakfast.
- Be a slob if you want.
- Be as neat as humanly possible if it makes you happy.
- Sleep on whatever side of the bed you choose.
- Don't bother sharing any of your food.
- You can be the all-mighty ruler of the remote control!
- There is no need to explain any of your actions.
- Snore, fart, or burp anytime you want without worrying about it.
- Make as much noise as humanly possible until your neighbors complain.
- Have anyone over that you like, any time day or night.
- You never have to clean up after anyone else!!!
Read Whatever You Want - There is No One to Judge You
If you've ever lived alone, did you enjoy it?
Some of the Not So Awesome Aspects of Living Alone
In all fairness, there are certainly downsides to living by yourself. Everyday is not a picnic, and that is why some of us that love being single eventually look for a companion. Although each day can be a learning experience living alone, some experiences you need to only learn once before you decide you'd never like to do that again.
There are valuable lessons to be learned from the difficult times. Each adult should experience these character building moments, but they can be painful. Some of the negative aspects of living alone that make you a stronger, better person are:
- Crying yourself to sleep alone because of a difficult experience that day.
- Killing a spider on your own or dealing with the mouse infestation in the kitchen without help.
- Learning the hard way that sometimes you must call the repair person instead of fixing whatever is broken yourself.
- Deciding whether you are going to pay your phone bill for the month or have enough food to eat since you can't afford both.
- Trying to figure out how to make chicken noodle soup for yourself while you are sick.
- Having to get up and investigate that scary sound in the middle of the night on your own.
- Accidentally setting something on fire in the kitchen and then desperately trying to get the fire alarm to shut off before any of your neighbors notice.
- Learning that inflatable furniture is really not that comfortable, but what it lacks in comfort, it makes up for in affordability.
- Finding nice ways to get rid of unwanted house guests.
- Discovering all of the many ways you can use duct tape to fix pretty much anything.
- Becoming a person that is "set in his/her ways" so it is a challenge to ever adapt to significant others, roommates, or family members eventually moving in.
Discover Tools and Attempt to Use Them
The bottom line is everyone should have the opportunity to live alone at some point in life. You discover things about yourself that you did not realize until that time. For instance, you might find out that you sleep much better without anyone else around... or you can't sleep at all alone! Either way, a valuable life lesson has been learned.
I am not trying to mock the "Why Every Woman Should Live Alone Before Marriage" article in any way. I am, however, pointing out that EVERYONE should live alone at some point in life. It is not really fair to single out women. Also, living alone for 6 weeks simply does not cut it. It has to be a way of life for a while before you can really appreciate living alone. Even the worst aspects of living alone get easier over time, but without actually experiencing it for a while, one may never know that.
So, if you live with your parents or roommates, but you can afford to move out on your own, give it a try. If you are unhappily married, but don't have the nerve to leave your spouse because you've never lived alone, don't let fear be the only reason you stay.
It is a great learning experience to be single and live alone for a while, and you will grow as a person. If you've lived alone for years, but you no longer enjoy it, find someone else to live with for a while. Having a roommate can save you money! Maybe a family member might need some live-in help. Basically, try living life more than one way and you might be pleasantly surprised at what you learn. (And try it for more than 6 weeks!)
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